March 6, 2009
What About the Three Positions in Communication (part two)
Be Fexible
Be Fexible
Gender Differences
Every distinction which adds flexibility, compassion and choice to our communication is beneficial and useful. The distinctions of gender differences between men and women are powerful and helpful distinctions. The place were NLP plays such an important role in communication, especially within relationships, is it requires for the individual practicing NLP to practice personal accountability for the meaning they ascribe to the events and communication around them. We know we do not see reality until we experience the best thing we have been able to make up about our world or relationship but it is not THE TRUTH, it is OUR TRUTH. What if you never heard the words again from your partner ” You make ME”? What you heard instead was” What I make up about what you just said is this”
What if you knew your partner was taking emotional accountability for the meaning they ascribed to your behavior or communication? What if you had emotional safety in your relationship?
I believe and it has been my experience in relationship that this is all I have ever desired. To be emotionally safe, to be all I am in the presence of another. The weakness and the strength and not be projected upon by all the unhealed wounds of my partner’s past.
Emotional accountability precedes the importance of the distinctions of gender differences and is a perquisite for making the most effective us of those differences.
Single Pride
The first thing I would say about single pride is that our behavior often is our adaptation to loss. Each one of us require connection, love and honoring. We can give these things to ourselves to some degree.
We have within us the most powerful computer on the planet, our brain. There is no number that can be paced on how many functions our brain can do.. We are infinite possibility waiting to be directed, yet when we come to our relationships we give up and rationalize our adaptation to our loss by forming subcultures were we can experience community, a community of those who will understand our experience. We simply create another form of our longing to belong.
The answer liessomewhere deeper within us. We must first look to the very structure of what we have created through the meaning we have given our experiences and how we have continued to attract to ourselves the patterns of relationships we have. We are the common denominator in the equation of our relationship history.
The power is only within us to change. The system is created to provide the deepest change possible and it is within the Science of NLP.
So often we seek for the answers outside ourselves rather than within our own possibility and potential. We have lack the owners manual of how to create effective change within ourselves therefore it becomes far easy to attempt to create change on the outside of ourselves. How often have we attempted to create change in partners personality. If only they would do this or that..
We torture the one we love to fill some gap within ourselves that can never be filled by another.
When we step into the role of being personally accountable we begin a journey to unwind the patterns we have created that no longer bring the results we seek and study the systems of how to direct our latent potential toward our hearts desire and life purpose.
Join us tomorrow for more!
Love & Light
Gary De Rodriguez