Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

 

To excel into what is possible for each one us the first step is: to harness the understanding that we are responsible for our emotional responses and the meaning we ascribe to the events of our daily lives.

We are ascribing the meaning therefore the reality we will live.  We become either rigid or impossible, filled with reactivity, fear and anger or we become the most flexible person within the organizations and roles we find ourselves and therefore become the catalyst fro authenticity in those system.

Most of us are triggered in our current reality through stimulus that reactivates old emotional patterns that have been left unresolved and we exhibit a combination of reactivity and flexibility.  But we don’t know why certain circumstances, people, voice tones etc. will take us into our shadow reactions.  We are responding from our shadow reactivity rather from our choices through self awareness.

 

Our unconscious patterns remain out of consciousness and awareness and therefore unchangeable because we have not had the tools to shift our reactions to the past and create new responses.

 

In order for each of us to lead in our organizations, private business and our families we must obtain the ability to transform what has happened to us and what we made up about it.  We must become Self Aware and Self responsible.

 

Hence the First LAW to Leadership is: Self Awareness/Self Responsibility.  Ponder this one question. How have we become who we are?   How do we generate our reality and perceive through the lenses of our unique individual perspectives?  How do we produce our emotional states that drive or limit our behavior? And most importantly How do we create sustainable change so we can Transform our ability to spin out a different perspective of reality and how can we create it differently so we experience more love, fulfillment and contribution to our world around us.

 

 

For any of us to be successful personally and professionally we require powerful and trusting alliances within our relationships. 

The primary hierarchy of importance in our relationships is first the relationship to oneself.

The second is relationship to others and the third is relationship to a deeper purpose for which your life contributes back.  Your self defined Sense of Your Sacred.

 

Relationships with others are based upon our ability to effectively communicate and our communication is based upon the level of rapport we are capable of establishing.

 

One extraordinarily important principle for organizations and families to recognize is that each member of the organization or family affects the others and will enhance or contaminate the culture of the organization in which they belong.

 

A family or company is likened to a body where different cells perform different functions and when the body is healthy the cells are communicating and transferring data for the benefit of the organism they belong.

When cells become unhealthy they begin to contaminate the cells and systems within their sphere of influence and the disease spreads to other cells and systems until the organization, family or organism becomes ill.

If the unhealthy cells go unaddressed and the disease is allowed to spread through neglect then eventually the organization fails, the family becomes estranged and the organism dies.

  

According to the Heart Math Research Institute each individual emanates a resonate field of energy measurable by science, that effects other people fifteen feet around them.  This resonate field is created by the overall emotional states the person feels continually.

 

The health of your family or your company is based upon the collective thinking patterns of the members of it.  Each person affects the whole of the environment they dwell in whether it is home or office with their thoughts, the language that represents those thoughts, the emotions they produce and the behaviors that ensue as a consequence.

 

I was conducting a series of trainings for a prominent pharmaceutical company in California in their global safety department which consisted of approximately twenty highly skilled doctors and research scientist.

The VP of the department had contacted me and communicated that the culture within the department was sliding downhill fast, the staff was under tremendous pressure with long work hours and impossible deadlines and the extra stress of personality conflicts was the straw that would break the camel’s back. His primary concern was that he would begin losing his highly qualified staff he had worked so hard to recruit.

   

I arrived on the grounds of the company which was like a mini city in its entirety.  With walking paths, child care, gymnasium, pool and overlooking the Pacific Ocean:

A rather stunning place to work.

 

As I enter the training room and met the team I noticed one individual in the room who seemed defensive and withdraw before I even opened my mouth.  The team was cordial, alert, but reserved.  As I began the presentation this one individual would barely participate, distracted others and was in overall resistance to learning the communication tools I was presenting. 

 

Footnote about the Heart Math Instuite

Rather than leave a contaminating personality in the room with the other willing participates I firmly and respectfully asked him if he was desiring to be else where and that he was welcomed to leave and asked him to leave the training. 

With every organization I contract with I establish the permission to exercise this right.

 

As soon as this doctor left the training room the entire room took a collective breath simultaneously.  The energy of the room relaxed and I observed the tension leaving the bodies of the members of the team.  I stood there wondering could this one individual have this much influence on the stress levels and the growing negative culture of the department.

 

I simply had to ask one simply question: “ How are you all feeling now?”

Like a monsoon of information, each person shared their frustration with this individual.

He was recently recruited and was one of the medical heads of the department.  Each team member was required to interface with him at some point during their research and responsibilities.  

Story after story came forward about how difficult it was to accomplish the workload after his arrival and how the management could not see it.

 

Resentment had built toward the VP, communication lessened because of the resentment and the VP did not have enough information to take action. 

The remainder of the trainings went effectively and the culture shifted dramatically after the enactment of the communication tools were taken onboard by the team. 

The resistant doctor entered a coaching program with me through the request of the VP and the core experiences which drove his behavior were uncovered and resolved and he became a functional part of the team.  

 

People affect other people and each one of us has the responsibility to become fully matured in our relationship to ourselves therefore others by taking responsibility for our own emotional states, getting clarity and transformation about those shadow aspects of our reactions, having effective conversational and negotiation skills while ceasing the destructive positioning for power and the need to be right. 

 

We require to learn the art of focusing our intention by entering into our communication with a genuine desire to enrich our business and personal relationships with authentic conversations, in accountability for our emotional states.  Our accountability will create the flexibility to honor the diversity of other peoples perspectives so we achieve understanding about the differences with grace.

 

Hence the Second Law to Everything: Become Relationship Aware.

 

 

The Third Law is governed by something less apparent than the previous two laws but is the umbrella that the other two rest under and without the third law enlivened within us it will make the first two nearly impossible to enact.

 

We have each been gifted with a magnificent vehicle, the human form, with more neurological possibilities than there are grains of sand on all the beaches of our planet.  The one question we are being asked to answer is: what am I really here to do? What is my purpose?  Am I here to accumulate wealth, power, raise my children and grand children, all worthy causes and is there more? Did we each come with a specific purpose that only we can fulfill, a larger vision specific to ourselves? All our relationships and accomplishments are part of our purpose but is that our true soul’s mission or is there something more? What will bring me my deepest fulfillment?  Only you can answer this question for yourself.

 

I began my career working with as a volunteer developer of the Aids Holistic Response Program in San Diego Calif. years ago when the Aids epidemic first began in the United States.  I witnessed many people die during those early days of the crisis.  Some young some old and I learnt that at the end of our lives the one thing that creates a beautiful transition is whether or not we know that we accomplished what we came here to do or whether we fell short of it based upon our apathy or our fear.

   

 

It was not these individuals accumulation of wealth or how many family members where there loving them as they transitioned.  It was the knowingness of: I did what I came here to do?  It was a understanding in the deepest recesses of the body/mind/spirit connection that constituted this conclusion.

 

As I sat by the bedsides of those passing I witnessed that there was an innate knowing within each person that came from deep within them.  There was no denial at this time at the time of death.  There was no pretending to not know or the avoidance of the issues.

 

This time was absolute truth.  We transition as we have lived with no smoke or mirrors to keep hidden what which we did not have the courage to face.

It is at this time that all our actions and behaviors in our relationships surface to be witnessed as jewels in the crown of our identities of who we have been, or regrets that act as thorns within us.

It is a soul knowing, not an intellectual process.   

 

This is why when we conduct our lives both personally and professionally with a sense of our self defined spirituality, our core essence, this foundation will help guide us to perform our actions in our families and our businesses that are congruent to our deepest sense of purpose.  We create profound congruency when our thoughts words and actions are in alignment with our deepest held values.  We generate Personal such Personal Power that our self worth and respect from others grows in dynamic proportion to our ability to walk our talk, we become the leader we are destined to be.

 

We create deep imprints within our subconscious mind through this alignment and our Self Worth exponentially increases so we create peace, financial wellbeing and fulfillment in our now and throughout our life.  

Hence the Third Law of a Fulfilling Life: Become Spiritually Aware: Increase your Self defined sense to your Sacred.

 

The first Law gives us the ability to unravel the mystery of what we have become through our childhood imprints and the ancestry we were born to.

The second Law defines that it is within our relationships we demonstrate the relationship with ourselves and the future imprints we create within our subconscious minds will be in direct portion to how we treat one another.

The third Law establishes that each one of us came here to fulfill a purpose that is greater than our attachments to people and things.  True fulfillment will be in how

We live from the foundation of our values moment by moment, how we demonstrate those values in our work and home life and the relationship we strengthen and live with our individual sense of the  Sacred.

 

All any of us have desired is to live a life fulfilled, to be loved and loving and be acknowledged for the unique individuals we are.  At the end of the day the thing we take with us is how we affected the people around us and how we expressed our contributions back to the individuals in the environments we lived in, our families and our organizations.

Did we lead a fulfilling life and transition with a blessing on our lips rather than regrets about what we didn’t have the courage to accomplish or the relationships we could not heal or the behaviors we regret doing.

 

This book is about one mans journey within himself and around the world to answer the question for himself:  How do I live a fulfilling life?  How do I change what has happened to me? How do I heal and function gracefully in the myriad complexities of my relationships? And How do I live with a deep sense of connection to a force greater than myself? It is a story of a journey, and a gathering of the necessary TOOLS to accomplish the journey in fulfillment, grace and joy and become the leader I was destined to become.   

 

To begin, I desire to present the content in three sections with several sub-chapters.  The principle three sections to The Three Laws to Leadership are:  

1 st Law = Self Awareness

2 nd Law  = People Intelligence

3 rd Law = Spiritual Awareness

 

 Each section will share practical useable TOOLS to enhance and transform our personal core imprints that formed the foundation of our characters, tools for sustaining long lasting change, tools for mastering our communication in our relationships and tools for strengthening the connection to our purpose and our individual sense of what is sacred to each one of us. 

Contained within these pages are a lifetime of seeking the tools for change within the laboratory of myself.  My desire is for you to take less time to discover these simple TOOLS than I did. 

 

The information contained within this section places the TOOLS for harnessing the power of the latent 90% of your subconscious mind within you and opening the door for a life in the mastery of causation and fulfillment.   The information within these pages has evolved over my life after following many dark and lighted Paths, each Path a jewel in the crown of my identity, each seeming wrong turn a light post pointing another way.  All being gently and sometimes not so gently, led by One governing principle which is to evolve myself to a greater ability to transform resistance into fluidity, fear into love and rigidity into flexibility.

 

  My work has evolved over a lifetime history of searching for answers on how do we create sustainable personal change.  How do we evolve our personalities? How do we come to perceive what we call our reality? How do we create change within ourselves which lasts?

 My search has been a search for myself, to find an answer to what happened to me within my own family system and how these imprints affected my adult life, my relationships, my businesses and my peace of mind. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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