Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

 

 

All that exists is part of one family called life.  Within each of us is the opportunity to create our heavens or our hell’s by the choices of what we dwell upon, language and imagine.  Through our innate ability to create our reality we spin out our own unique worlds mirroring what we believe to real, language and imagine repetitively, thereby conditioning our nervous system for less choices.

 

Events in our life are empty of meaning.  We ascribe the meaning to the events we experience through our five senses and create the emotions that drive our behavior.  Through our behavior we are responded to by the world and our beliefs and identity begins to form and harden.  Our thoughts, words and the emotions we produce as a result determine what our experience of our world’s will be.  It’s the choices in our thoughts words and actions and the focus of our minds that create our perceptions, our worldviews, and our direction as an individual and a species collectively.

 

We have each been gifted with the magnificent vehicle, the human form, with more neurological possibilities than there are grains of sand on all the beaches of our planet.  The one question we are being asked to answer is: what am I really here to do? What is my purpose?  Are we here to accumulate wealth, power, raise our children and grand children or did we each come with a specific purpose that only we can fulfill, a larger vision specific to ourselves? All our relationships and accomplishments are part of our purpose but is that our true soul’s mission or is there something more?

 

The question

Recognize that there are many human values, opinions and morals on this earth.  Celebrate the diversity of humankind. Appreciate the beauty of difference.  It is in our differences that we are truly one. We are one unlimited, intelligent, creative species full of genius, truth and knowledge.  Rather than find conflict in our values and beliefs, let us find the fruits of unity.  All systems of thought  whether religious, political or cultural are guiding means, not absolute truths.  Human life is more precious than any ideology or doctrine.  Peace can only be achieved when we honor and respect the choices of others in the systems they choose to guide their lives.

 

If we accept everything in life as our teacher, we are open to observations of ourselves and of our world.  Remember that each individual walks a different journey, a different path, and therefore lives within a different reality.  We get to acknowledge the individual life experience as an adaptation to life circumstances with the best life skills they had available at the time. We accept that people can change when taught the current life skills available.  With this change the individual empowers themselves their friends, family, community and the world at large.   Peace is an inside job.  Until the individual resolves the war within there will be war without.  A road to Peace lies in the choice of perspective that life is sacred.

 

 

Perception is projection.  If we experience life as sacred then we will experience the world and people we encounter as sacred. What we see in another we harbor in our hearts.  We can only recognize the qualities that we possess.  If we harbor anger, our anger at others is anger at ourselves.  Our relationships are mirrors to reflect back to us those qualities which often lay outside our conscious awareness.  When aversion arises in our minds, we have the choice to project it out to another or utilize it as a tool for introspection and personal discovery. 

 

There are two things that motivate human behavior: Love or Fear.  Our behavior as well as others behaviors are a deep call for love or love.

 

We are in charge of our minds therefore our results.  What we habitually dwell upon we become more of.  Our life results are in direct correlation to the focus of our minds.

 

Our parents didn’t do it to us. We have a choice how we allow their behavior to affect us.  They have done the best they can do with the resources they have available to them.  The sooner we stop condemning them the sooner we can get on with the job of living our lives.  Our reason for being ( our life mission) lies in the metaphor of our parents lives.  There is purpose and order in the universe. A strand of DNA can duplicate a human body. A seed of an oak tree holds the leaf size, trunk texture, and canopy width within an acorn.  The planets are orbiting in this grand dance called gravity.  There is order and purpose in life.  When it comes to our families and our own life, have we ever asked the question why this family? why these parents?  There is a reason, there is order and purpose to why you came into the family you did.  Look to their lives and look at what their lives are saying to you about how to live.  What to do and what not to do. 

 

Move the focus of your minds off the story of what you did or didn’t receive from them to what their lives are saying to you about life.  Take their life lessons and make different choices.  Many times our parents lives show us the road not to take.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

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Through the last fifty years of leadership study, leadership scholars have modeled the most effective leadership strategies of the great leaders of our time, attempting to create a leadership strategy that can be utilized by all.

 

Although modeling others greatness can add to our knowledge, it is not us.  It is not our life experience, our hearts, and our spirits that can be remolded into another’s life lessons.  Can we learn information? Yes.  But if that is all we are bringing to the table of our teams and organizations then the people with whom we are choosing to have the greatest effect upon will sense the inauthentic foundation to our leadership abilities and we will exhibit an imitation of leadership rather than leadership qualities grounded in experience that people will desire to follow.

   

To distill the wisdom from our life experiences with humanity and heart is the true core quality of sustainable leadership.  Once you have master the ability to take your wisdoms and mold them into relationship strategies, communication and negotiation models with a deep desire to honor all, then you are beginning to birth forth and mature your authentic leader within.

 

There are three laws to awakening your Authentic Leader within.

 

 

 

Law #1 = Your relationship with yourself.

This law is essential to mastering the other two laws and is foundational to a balanced life between work, family and your life purpose.

Have you cleared the skeletons out of your closet? Have you transformed your limiting beliefs and fears from your past?  Are you more reactive than proactive? Are the filters that you perceive life through clear of the distortions of your past or are they so muddled with your past unresolved issues that much of what you experience internally is a repeating pattern of responses that do not reflect who you really are.

The first law is = Master your mental and emotional self and bring your word, thought and actions into alignment with your highest values so you live from congruence and consistency.

 

 

Law #2 = Your relationship with others.

This is were the rubber hits the road in all factors of leadership.  You must have masterful relationship skills, communication skills and conflict resolution skills.  If we do not have our internal emotional worlds matured, we can never become the leaders we are called upon to be, either in our families or organizations.

Have you mastered the models of effective communication?  How often do you insist upon an authentic conversation with those around you who are hiding their agendas?

Do you know what to do when people are creating their secret emotional contracts with you and holding and projecting their agendas on you without your knowledge?

How do now handle all the unspoken demands upon you? How do you now deal with the hallucinations of others that are placed on you daily because of your position, both in your organization and your families?

All leaders require the best tools to navigate their way through the landscape of relationships.  This is the #2 focus of all effective leaders.

 

 

Law #3 = Your relationship to the Sacred

Have you forgotten who you are and what brings peace to your heart?  This is the law of re-grounding yourself in the experience of what all your efforts are for anyway?

Who are you? What have you really come here to do?  What is your purpose and mission in life?

At the end of the day we all will face that point in time when we will stop and wonder did we really do what our souls came here to do or did we waste our life accumulating wealth and power but our hearts are filled with fear and there is a deep knowing somehow we missed the mark?

This is the law that is very personal to each person but it is to ground ourselves in our personal relationship to whatever we consider sacred for ourselves and develop a relationship of connecting to It, and being part of a larger purpose that is greater than our desires.   

 

Integrating these laws into your everyday life is essential for effective living.  Every leader has abilities they have developed through the course of their life experience that has gotten them to where they are today.  These 3 Laws are the ways to take you to the next level of life balance and fulfillment.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

 

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If you have a flat tire on the side of the road, are you going to sit there and pray God will come along and actually fix your tire for you? Or are you going to use your legs, walk to the gas station, and get your tire fixed, knowing that God gave you the legs to do so?

Whatever you believe the power we call “God” to be, that power gave you imagination, language and the ability to evoke emotions, the key elements to conscious creating. For you are designed in such a way that every cell of your body hears every word you speak.

What if God looked down and said, “YES! Whatever you are dwelling on, whatever you are contemplating, I have no judgment! There is no death, and there is no good or bad. I am just one big ‘Yes!’ Whatever you ask for, the answer is ‘Yes.’ Disease and pestilence. Yes! Wealth and abundance. Yes!”

How weird, right? Or is it?

It’s all a belief anyway, so how do you know for sure? And IF the power we call God is like this-if God is this pragmatic-would it be useful to learn how to direct the mind?

As you observed in my story about the boy with cancer, language and collective agreement create huge shifts. From your emotional states you create an internal reality that affects your body as well as others around you. The question is, how will you manage this dynamic? Will you habitually harness the power of your word, therefore creating better choices around emotionally driven behaviors? Or will you follow the path of least resistance and continue with unbridled language and emotions?

When we think about our language, we require to be aware that our language is a symbol of the way we think. As if in a picture window, every word you speak, every non-verbal cue you give-no matter how subtle-is on display for the world to see. And what you say to others, verbally and non-verbally, deeply affects them. Remember, we live in a human ecology where each individual greatly impacts the world as a whole.

The presuppositions inherent in our language promote self awareness, keeping us focused upon the eternal now. Focused language creates huge impacts, not only on your immediate circle of influence, but on the world at large. It is a creative force in the most literal sense. Take comfort in the knowledge that you walk in this life with a purpose greater than what you may immediately observe.

Disciplining your use of language is akin to practicing urban Shamanism because it takes a great deal of focus to shift and transform it. I invite you to eliminate the practice of speaking to what has happened-to your “story”-and instead speak only to your eternal now. I also invite you to stop speaking of your fears about the future, and begin speaking in detail about the steps you are taking to manifest your desired outcomes.

In summary, conscious creation through the presupposition of language unfolds like this:

 You create small action steps that you can perform on a daily basis.

1. You begin to language your world according to your outcomes, exclusing fear based thoughts and communications.
2. In turn, you acquire greater control of your emotional states.
3. From these more stable emotional states, you acquire the motivation necessary to complete each step to manifest your outcomes.
4. As you begin actually manifesting your outcomes, your self worth increases.
5. As your self worth and influence increases, you begin to attract greater opportunities to yourself.

 It all begins with the discipline to harness the power of your word. By using language that is outcome oriented, you will find that you need to speak less often and with less urgency. When you do speak, it will be powerful; people will listen; and you will become a conscious creator.

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