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The Way We Think & The Way We Speak

I did this one paragraph for myself about three years ago and I still remember this paragraph.  It had such an emotional impact on me because when I wrote it, I wrote it with such specificity.  I was choosing to go into the emotional state of when I would be an old man.  I was walking on my mountain – I own a mountain – and I was walking barefoot through my forest. And it went something like this: I’m walking down my favorite path and I feel the wind blowing through my hair (my hair was really long) as my hair tapped against my back and I stroked my beard as I walked and I felt the mud, cool and wet, squishing through my toes through the autumn leaves that have just fallen.  And off to the right of my should I saw and then I heard a red cardinal singing on a leafless branch.  And in that moment I felt the stillness of my soul.  And I was in the perfection of having the moment where there was no past, there was no future, there was just the perfection of that moment.  And that’s truly how I’m choosing to be as an old man.  As I think about that moment it associates me into that emotion of being completely here.

Now you have an outcome that you’ve been moving toward and you are feeling now the outcome that you’ve been working with for most of the weekend.  I am inviting you to write a paragraph or two about a morning or an afternoon or an evening that you experience as your outcome.  What will you see?  What do you hear?  What are you now feeling?  What are you smelling?  What are you tasting, having already realized your outcome?  Take a moment.  Write one, two or three paragraphs in explicit detail, sensorialy rich, explaining a moment already having achieved your outcome.  Please do that now.

Okay, this is page 98 for those of you who are into Neville.  Feeling a state produces the state.  Oh, I could just stop right there.  Feeling a state produces that state.  The part you play on the world stage is determined by your conception of yourself.  By feeling your wish fulfilled and quietly relaxing into sleep, you cast yourself in a star role to be played on earth tomorrow.  And while asleep you are rehearsed and you are instructed in your part.  The acceptance of the end automatically wills the means of realization.  Make no mistake about this.  If as you prepare for sleep you do not consciously feel yourself into the state of your answered wish, then you take with you into the chamber of her who conceived you, the sum total of your reactions and feelings of your waking day.  And while asleep you will be instructed in the manner in which they will be expressed tomorrow.  You will rise believing that you are a free agent with free will, not realizing that every action and event of the day is predetermined by your concept of your self as you fell asleep.  Your only freedom then is your freedom of reaction.  You are free to choose how you will feel and react to your day’s drama but the drama, the action, events and circumstances of the day, have already been determined.  Unless you consciously and purposely define the attitude of your mind with which you go to sleep, you unconsciously go to sleep in a composite attitude of mind made up of all feelings and reactions of the day.  Every reaction makes a subconscious impression and unless counteracted by opposite and more dominant feeling is the cause of your future actions.  Ideas enveloped in feeling are created actions.  Use your divine right wisely. Through your ability to think and to feel you have dominion over all creation.

{Tomorrow is Mind Mapping}

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Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

Language of disempowerment: I want to go to the movies.  I am going to the movies tonight.  I will go to the movies tonight.  I choose to go to the movies tonight.  I will enjoy going to the movies tonight.  These are different levels of empowerment.  I can’t.  I can, I choose to, I will, I have the resources I require, I will create the resources I require.  I will create what I require to do the job.  It’s yet to be here but I’ll find out how to create it.  Rather than saying I can’t.  When you say I can’t what happens?  Do you throw yourself into the victim archetype immediately?  Do you cut at the root of the possibility of actually creating some of the resources that yet have been able to wake up in you?  When you say I’ll explore how I can create the resources I require to do it.  Do something other than go home and coach everyone around you.  Only coach if you are asked.  Get permission.  I just did this great seminar.  I learned a lot about the power of language.  Would you be interested in having some upgrades to what you just said? 

I was in a relationship working for months on how powerful my new relationship was going to be.  It was going to be so great.  It was about 8 months old.  So I came home from one of my trainings and I walked through the door, put down my bag – Hi, honey, I’m home.  And I heard, ‘We have to talk.’  So I sat down.  You’re too spiritual for me, you’re life is going in a direction I don’t choose to go, I’m moving out.  And you talk funny.  And pleaded with me to just talk normal.  Because this was really a co-dependent relationship.  And if I spoke in all the stuff I used to speak in, it would link in and hook that co-dependency.  I was so proud of myself because I generally I’ll drag out all my evidence that they were wrong and weigh it all out and make them feel badly.  What I said was, ‘You don’t see who I am.  Therefore you’re not the one.’  I had worked very, very diligently in creating a real partnership with someone.  And I personally thought this was it.  Three months later I met the person who was it.  The space had to clear out first.  And I worked diligently at creating a relationship because I was fully ready.

Unconscious language.  You really make me angry.  I create anger within myself when you do that.  I’m responsible for my feelings and what I make up about what you just said is….  This is very powerful because I was in a relationship once for 9 years with someone who was directly the opposite of everything I am.  And before I created this relationship I prayed to god, probably the only time in my life I ever surrendered and I said, ‘Bring me the relationship that will give me the greatest level of spiritual progress.’  I was very brave in those days.  So I create this relationship. Within three hours after that surrender process the relationship showed up.  Three hours was all it took.  We were together for 9 years.  I was so reactive and so unhealthy in this relationship.  When I got to the point – obviously somehow I get to be accountable for what is happening in my world here.  And I got this idea about filtering and so I thought I would apply it in my most tender place and the weakest place that I was – the place that had atrophied the most, which was the huge victim archetype in relationships – somehow I’m a victim of this person.  They’ve got control over my emotional state and if they don’t give it to me or if they do give it to me I’m either happy or sad.  My partner would do something and I would just get this huge emotional response to it and I’d just sit there silently and fume.  And then I said, ‘What you just said and did, I got really upset at and I’m responsible for the emotions I’m creating in myself and I’m giving meaning to what you just said and did and this is what I made up about it.  Could you give me clarity on what you meant by what you just did and said?’  And not once, not twice, not a hundred times, but every time I had the courage to do that and stay out of my victim and be emotionally accountable, every time I was 180 degrees off from how I interpreted it.  And that’s where a lot of this information started to come forward from.  When I began to realize that in that environment where I was the most reactive and wounded and I started to take accountability and began to question to get clarity, I was completely off.  And we do this.  We mind read a lot.  And we mind read out of the hurt and wound of our past through our filters.  Ask for clarity, you guys.

My dream is that you will make me happy.  My dream is that I create my happiness and you create yours.  When you think about language and you think about the words like I need and I want and I’ll try and I don’t know – if we could just take those four out of our conversation – why do you think need, want and I don’t know are so pervasive in our conversational language?  The words dissociate you from a focus and they place you in the victim archetype.  They are literally the language that takes all the strength and power out of your ability to actually achieve.  When you say I deserve it presupposes a time when you didn’t feel deserving.  So when you say I claim, I create or I am it takes you out of the context of either deserving or not deserving.  It just is.  What used to take me a private session half an hour or 45 minutes to get to with neurolinguistic programming, I get to within 10 minutes with a client through their language, just from what they speak and the presuppositions that is behind the language they choose to use.

More to follow tomorrow on this subject!

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