Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

Are You Awake?

 

One of our primary outcomes for you is that you’re looking at your outcome.  When you go to bed at night how many of us watch the daily news as we’re drifting off to sleep?  Or watch any of those other items as a lot of people do or as they drift off to sleep they’re reflecting on the events of the day that is already behind them.  And many people choose to retire each evening doing that in their past.  Our highest choice is that you face your future and stay in your outcome and develop that and what a precious opportunity that is.  Yes!

 

I had a client come in to see me.  He was very interesting.  He said, ‘I am so depressed.  I feel like if my life doesn’t do something immediately I will die.’  And he probably will.  And I said, ‘Well, tell me about what your life consists of.  What is your life.’  He said, ‘Well, I go to sleep at night watching the news.  I leave the news play all night long as I sleep.’  I said, ‘Well that’s the first way we can start a major shift. Turn the television off.’ 

 

Living in your outcome and impregnating your subconscious for the outcome…there are different outcomes like you had relationship, love, health, career, money, etc.  Do you pick one or do you do all of them and you’re up for two more hours before you eventually go to bed?  It really depends on how magnificent you’re choosing to have your life and how powerful you’re choosing to demonstrate your magnificence to yourself in the world.  If you’re choosing to know more about mind mapping, pick up any book by Tony Bezand.  He’s the one who originated the process.  He’s wonderful, his information is great.

 

Okay gang.  Are you ready?  Color, flowing lines, no arrows till I tell you.  When you do your dreams into reality, include your long-term dreams for your life and the outcome that you’ve been choosing to achieve this whole weekend.  Are you ready?  Begin your mind mapping, please.

 

I was hanging out in my bedroom one very early morning and at that time in the house I was living in there were mirrors most places in that bedroom.  I was awakening from this dream that was a very interesting dream.  I’ve yet to remember what exactly the dream was about.  As I was waking up I sat up in my bed and I looked at my reflection in the mirror and I had no idea who that body was in the mirror.  I looked at my hands and I had no idea who this body was.  I had no recollection of it at all.  I looked around my room and I had absolutely no concept what anything meant or what anything was.  After about 30 seconds of doing my very best to recognize myself, I started to hyperventilate and panic.  As I began to panic I slowly began to remember was, what my body was, recognizing my body and my room and this lasted for about a minute – the attempting to recognize myself again.  And then, as I slowly began to recognize my body, a voice said in my head, ‘Gary, this is exactly what it’s like when you die.  You slowly remember who you always were and you wake up out of the dream.’  Oh, wow.  You mean when I die I’ll have a moment or not of terror or panic.  And then I’ll slowly remember who I always was and where I was before in the dream will truly seem like a distant dream.  I’ve felt different about death ever since because I know that when we pass we’ll wake up out of this that we’re calling our lives and it will seem like that dream was so real.  All of those people and those places.  Because when you’re in a dream you really feel it.  Is that true?  Man, it is real.  But when you wake up you remember who you are now.  What if it’s just like that to die?  That would be very cool.

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Gary De Rodriguez

 

 

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How We Think

Mind mapping.  This is a present made for me by my partner because I am loved so much.  Before we go to bed at night we mind map out our days for the following morning.  It’s a very cool thing to do as a couple because then you can look at each other and go, ‘I am with someone who is accountable for their lives.  I am other than their happiness.  They are other than my happiness.  I am with someone who is consciously creating through the power of their own will, their happiness, and I am most certainly something other than a slave to their desires of me to produce happiness in them. 

 

Okay.  These are all my dreams and they are the daily mind maps I have done to direct my life.  And you just keep doing them and you keep doing them and you keep doing them.  I do them in the evening before I go to sleep at night.  This is the one I did for today.  So I’m going to explain to you how to do a daily mind map.  There are many ways to do mind maps.  You can take one subject, have one color, have it be across a wall for your entire life.  You can do huge mind maps.  I had one client who runs a clothing manufacturing company she said, ‘Gary, you have to come over and see my new studio.’  I walked into her new studio and her entire one wall was one giant mind map of how her business is going to flow.  And she keeps adding onto it.  Very powerful.  The man I learned mind mapping from said he is still realizing things that he mind mapped 30 years ago.  My personal belief that once you set it in your emotional body, you feel it to be real, you think it, you speak it and you feel it, you have planted a seed that manifests in this thing called time.  It has already happened.

 

The Hopi have no word for the past because they believe that everything that ever existed is present in their bodies in the DNA now.  Every thought that any ancestor has ever thought in your lineage is present in your DNA right now.  It is collapsed into this moment.  And the Hopi believe that the future, once they spoke it or thought it, it was already manifesting toward them.  So there was no future.  It was already coming into existence as soon as they had the thought of it.  Powerful, huh?  Did you know that the Aborigines, when they do the Walkabouts they actually call forth creation as they walk it and it is their belief that, as they walk it and think it, it is manifesting instantaneously before them.

 

When most of us think of the Aboriginal race, we think they’re really primitive people.  Unh unh.  Really advanced people.  Really advanced.  I personally think we’re all real primitive.  Yeah, we have the technology, we have all that kind of stuff.  But here – so underdeveloped in the past.  We are quickly developing it. And catching up to the indigenous peoples.  And now that we have indigenous people here, in the soul, we can utilize all of it.  Bringing together technology and mysticism and the power of the mind to do great work. 

 

Now mind mapping is a very, very powerful thing.  And as I said to you previously I have yet to understand why it keeps working as powerfully as it does.  It does.  If you utilize this for a week, you ardently coach yourself in your language, you neutralize your emotions before you go to sleep at night, you go into your outcome state before your head drops to the pillow and you go to sleep in your outcome every night, your life will be so much different this coming week. 

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I did this one paragraph for myself about three years ago and I still remember this paragraph.  It had such an emotional impact on me because when I wrote it, I wrote it with such specificity.  I was choosing to go into the emotional state of when I would be an old man.  I was walking on my mountain – I own a mountain – and I was walking barefoot through my forest. And it went something like this: I’m walking down my favorite path and I feel the wind blowing through my hair (my hair was really long) as my hair tapped against my back and I stroked my beard as I walked and I felt the mud, cool and wet, squishing through my toes through the autumn leaves that have just fallen.  And off to the right of my should I saw and then I heard a red cardinal singing on a leafless branch.  And in that moment I felt the stillness of my soul.  And I was in the perfection of having the moment where there was no past, there was no future, there was just the perfection of that moment.  And that’s truly how I’m choosing to be as an old man.  As I think about that moment it associates me into that emotion of being completely here.

 

Now you have an outcome that you’ve been moving toward and you are feeling now the outcome that you’ve been working with for most of the weekend.  I am inviting you to write a paragraph or two about a morning or an afternoon or an evening that you experience as your outcome.  What will you see?  What do you hear?  What are you now feeling?  What are you smelling?  What are you tasting, having already realized your outcome?  Take a moment.  Write one, two or three paragraphs in explicit detail, sensorialy rich, explaining a moment already having achieved your outcome.  Please do that now.

 

Okay, this is page 98 for those of you who are into Neville.  Feeling a state produces the state.  Oh, I could just stop right there.  Feeling a state produces that state.  The part you play on the world stage is determined by your conception of yourself.  By feeling your wish fulfilled and quietly relaxing into sleep, you cast yourself in a star role to be played on earth tomorrow.  And while asleep you are rehearsed and you are instructed in your part.  The acceptance of the end automatically wills the means of realization.  Make no mistake about this.  If as you prepare for sleep you do not consciously feel yourself into the state of your answered wish, then you take with you into the chamber of her who conceived you, the sum total of your reactions and feelings of your waking day.  And while asleep you will be instructed in the manner in which they will be expressed tomorrow.  You will rise believing that you are a free agent with free will, not realizing that every action and event of the day is predetermined by your concept of your self as you fell asleep.  Your only freedom then is your freedom of reaction.  You are free to choose how you will feel and react to your day’s drama but the drama, the action, events and circumstances of the day, have already been determined.  Unless you consciously and purposely define the attitude of your mind with which you go to sleep, you unconsciously go to sleep in a composite attitude of mind made up of all feelings and reactions of the day.  Every reaction makes a subconscious impression and unless counteracted by opposite and more dominant feeling is the cause of your future actions.  Ideas enveloped in feeling are created actions.  Use your divine right wisely. Through your ability to think and to feel you have dominion over all creation.

{Tomorrow is Mind Mapping}

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Language of disempowerment: I want to go to the movies.  I am going to the movies tonight.  I will go to the movies tonight.  I choose to go to the movies tonight.  I will enjoy going to the movies tonight.  These are different levels of empowerment.  I can’t.  I can, I choose to, I will, I have the resources I require, I will create the resources I require.  I will create what I require to do the job.  It’s yet to be here but I’ll find out how to create it.  Rather than saying I can’t.  When you say I can’t what happens?  Do you throw yourself into the victim archetype immediately?  Do you cut at the root of the possibility of actually creating some of the resources that yet have been able to wake up in you?  When you say I’ll explore how I can create the resources I require to do it.  Do something other than go home and coach everyone around you.  Only coach if you are asked.  Get permission.  I just did this great seminar.  I learned a lot about the power of language.  Would you be interested in having some upgrades to what you just said? 

 

I was in a relationship working for months on how powerful my new relationship was going to be.  It was going to be so great.  It was about 8 months old.  So I came home from one of my trainings and I walked through the door, put down my bag – Hi, honey, I’m home.  And I heard, ‘We have to talk.’  So I sat down.  You’re too spiritual for me, you’re life is going in a direction I don’t choose to go, I’m moving out.  And you talk funny.  And pleaded with me to just talk normal.  Because this was really a co-dependent relationship.  And if I spoke in all the stuff I used to speak in, it would link in and hook that co-dependency.  I was so proud of myself because I generally I’ll drag out all my evidence that they were wrong and weigh it all out and make them feel badly.  What I said was, ‘You don’t see who I am.  Therefore you’re not the one.’  I had worked very, very diligently in creating a real partnership with someone.  And I personally thought this was it.  Three months later I met the person who was it.  The space had to clear out first.  And I worked diligently at creating a relationship because I was fully ready.

 

Unconscious language.  You really make me angry.  I create anger within myself when you do that.  I’m responsible for my feelings and what I make up about what you just said is….  This is very powerful because I was in a relationship once for 9 years with someone who was directly the opposite of everything I am.  And before I created this relationship I prayed to god, probably the only time in my life I ever surrendered and I said, ‘Bring me the relationship that will give me the greatest level of spiritual progress.’  I was very brave in those days.  So I create this relationship. Within three hours after that surrender process the relationship showed up.  Three hours was all it took.  We were together for 9 years.  I was so reactive and so unhealthy in this relationship.  When I got to the point – obviously somehow I get to be accountable for what is happening in my world here.  And I got this idea about filtering and so I thought I would apply it in my most tender place and the weakest place that I was – the place that had atrophied the most, which was the huge victim archetype in relationships – somehow I’m a victim of this person.  They’ve got control over my emotional state and if they don’t give it to me or if they do give it to me I’m either happy or sad.  My partner would do something and I would just get this huge emotional response to it and I’d just sit there silently and fume.  And then I said, ‘What you just said and did, I got really upset at and I’m responsible for the emotions I’m creating in myself and I’m giving meaning to what you just said and did and this is what I made up about it.  Could you give me clarity on what you meant by what you just did and said?’  And not once, not twice, not a hundred times, but every time I had the courage to do that and stay out of my victim and be emotionally accountable, every time I was 180 degrees off from how I interpreted it.  And that’s where a lot of this information started to come forward from.  When I began to realize that in that environment where I was the most reactive and wounded and I started to take accountability and began to question to get clarity, I was completely off.  And we do this.  We mind read a lot.  And we mind read out of the hurt and wound of our past through our filters.  Ask for clarity, you guys.

 

My dream is that you will make me happy.  My dream is that I create my happiness and you create yours.  When you think about language and you think about the words like I need and I want and I’ll try and I don’t know – if we could just take those four out of our conversation – why do you think need, want and I don’t know are so pervasive in our conversational language?  The words dissociate you from a focus and they place you in the victim archetype.  They are literally the language that takes all the strength and power out of your ability to actually achieve.  When you say I deserve it presupposes a time when you didn’t feel deserving.  So when you say I claim, I create or I am it takes you out of the context of either deserving or not deserving.  It just is.  What used to take me a private session half an hour or 45 minutes to get to with neurolinguistic programming, I get to within 10 minutes with a client through their language, just from what they speak and the presuppositions that is behind the language they choose to use.

More to follow tomorrow on this subject!

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As I sit here late at night at my computer there is one glaring theme that keeps ringing in my head to write to you about and share.   “Our success is in direct portion to our ability to be relationship with others.”   I have been contemplating the deeper and more generative meaning of this statement for a long time.  

If there is one thing I have learned through the years is that life is not a solo journey.  It is done in relationship to many others.   Business here in Australia is fundamentally based upon who you know and yes, you require having a great product or service but rarely, at least in my experience, have contracts ever shown up at my door and asked to come in.  I’ve required to go knocking and through the relationships I have established through the years doing business in Australia, my relationships have always opened the doors to amazing possibilities.

It is fundamental to our success in relationships that we discover the common ground amidst the seeming differences and establishing mutual understanding between people and communication styles whether that be between parents and children, life partner to life partner, husband to wife or director of a large organization to the upper management.  Relationship success means: establishing the sameness between people and witnessing what is inclusive rather than exclusive. The foundation of recognizing the power of your relationships is and forever will be everything to your ability to succeed.

As I work with more and more organizations in both Australia and the United States there is inherent in all the problems a organizations may face, the ever present issue of communication between people.

Organizations spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on systems forgetting that it is the functionality of the people and their relationships with one another that actually make the systems work.   

So how do we bridge the differences between the viewpoints of people who come from such life reference points, each with their individual body of evidence that convinces them that how they see the world is right and correct?

The answer is the CONVERSATION.  My particular brand in conducting corporate training is the ability to facilitate the difficult conversation.  As I continue to facilitate groups in holding the conversations to discover the mutual understanding, the unspeakable is finally spoken and strategies discovered that will finally move the group to action and resolution.

The same holds true for couples, parents and children, any form of relationship success will be based upon this one fundamental principle.  It is so basic, so simple yet most people find it the most difficult thing to do.  

As I watch the culture shift in organizations I am working with and the conversations happen that have been withheld for so long, I often stand in wonder of how beautifully simple and powerful people become when they master the art of the authentic conversation.  These types of conversations can transform companies, marriages, children and the world. 

Here is a brief outline for an authentic conversation.  Begin yours today!!!

The RULES:

1.       If there is problems in your relationships either professionally of personally it is because of the quality of the conversation.  Take responsibility for being half the problem.

2.       Do not interrupt the speaker when they are speaking.

3.       Be in physiological rapport with the speaker.

4.       If you disagree with speaker ask more questions so you can clarify their meaning.

5.       Acknowledge what is being said is valid from the perspective of the speaker and that you can understand how they could feel that way.  

6.       After the speaker is complete say: “May I add my perspective to clarify my position.”

7.       Stay out of defence.

8.       Watch your tone of voice and remember that 38% of the meaning of your communication is the tone of your voice.

9.       Stay out of sarcasm.

10.   Enter the conversation with the intention to empower enrich and clarify.

As I continue to facilitate building the bridges of communication between teams, executives and people struggling in their relationships I have come to one major conclusion.  The true sacred temple is the temple of our relationships.

It is here that we polish off the rough edges of our personalities and begin shifting out of the ancient programming of our past.  It is here that we can begin to create growth in ourselves and prove the evidence that we can and are maturing. 

Every conversation within every relationships is our point of power where we chose in that moment to become more than our past programming and demonstrate our well earned wisdom or we opt to further engrain the patterns of our past that keep us frozen in unworkable strategies that increase our frustration.

Find the common ground and discover the underlining truth that all people desire fundamentally the same things and hold similar values.  Establish what is mutually desired in all the differences between people and how they see their realities.  What you will find in the seeming differences of people is the same heart, with the same desire for peace, joy, love and connection.  HOLD THE CONVERSATION YOU HAVE BEEN AVOIDING. 

 

 

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