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I’m still here in Australia teaching and just finished a two intensive on teaching about the power of language, so I desired to keep expanding upon the use of language with a few more distinctions about the power of how we speak and what it reveals about the way we think and therefore behave.

During the training I became fascinated by how many people spoke in a linguistic term called Universal Quantifiers.  Some examples of universal Quantifiers are “all the time, everyone, no one, every time, always etc.  These word choices literally lock our thinking into absolutes and causes the false experience that something is an absolute constant.  Universal Quantifiers are linguistic distortions which produce limitations in rational thinking and therefore possibilities.  When we speak to what truly is rather than extremes and it will free up our ability to think outside the box of our experiences.  

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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How We Think

One of the most important aspects for the success of an entrepreneur is the ability to increase our People Intelligence through developing our relationships skills.  The foundation to our relationships is our skill at the Conversation.  Below are a few tips to help guide you in your  conversations.  When you follow the outline below your conversations will transform, your relationships will deepen and your success will be assured

Outline for the Authentic Conversation

Know your outcome for your conversation. To create the greatest influence in your conversation, apply the following intentions:

1. Intend to enhance learning and understanding through the conversation.
2. Be authentic with yourself and others.
3. Be honest.  To be honest means to disclose with good intentions, both to yourself and others.
4. Intend to empower and enrich the relationship with everyone present.
5. Listen for what is not being said.
6. Be fully present, with genuine interest to notice how the whole person is responding.
7. Put aside the tendency to be liked or make another feel liked.  Use your conversations as a vehicle to evolve yourself and the relationships you are in.  
8. Identify your contribution to the issue of the conversation and state your desire to resolve the issue.
9. Clarify your partner’s views and be committed to understand.
10. Acknowledge how you can understand how they can feel that way.
11. Acknowledge what has been learned.  Clarify where you both are now. Ask for any additional conversation.  State what the new agreement is now.
12. Create a commitment as to how to hold each other accountable to the agreement.

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

Our life and business success hinges on every conversation we participate in.

All the unsuccessful events in our life both personally and professional can be traced to our conversation skills, or lack of them and our lack of conflict resolution strategies.

Our conversation reflects the health of our relationships we are in.  Without the conversation, the possibilities for evolving the relationship or creating movement in our careers come to an end.  Organization falters relationships come to a end and we cease our own personal evolution and comprise our success opportunities.

As we decline the opportunity to have the conversations we require to have, we make ourselves smaller and smaller every time we do not demonstrate the courage to speak authentically, with self accountability and a desire to reach mutual understanding between the differences.

Eventually we will silently resent the person whom we have not had the courage to hold an authentic conversation with.  As a result the relationship further deteriorates as we weaken our self esteem through cowardice.

As the resentment builds and our truth continues to not be spoken, our behaviors become more covert and we find ourselves behaving in ways which are misaligned with our core values.

Every time we withhold our authenticity in our conversations we make ourselves smaller and smaller, weaker and weaker. This occurs within our marriages and life partnerships as well as within our business relationships.

As a consequence, our life success or failure will occur dependent upon our courage to hold authentic conversations.

The Missing Piece inside Your Conversation is you. 

Showing up fully present, honest, accountable and authentic will create your successful completion of your Goals. 

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Machu-Picchu

Greetings Everyone

I just got back from an amazing trip to Peru and Machu Picchu with my Mastermind Group studying with several Andean Shamans and doing ceremony at the sacred sites.  So much was learnt and experienced I could be blogging about it for weeks to come.  The principle learning I took away from the experience is the advanced technology of the Inca’s which is a bit other worldly and the requirement to bridge the distance between the mind and the heart.  As Master Amaru said to us:  “strength without sweetness is destructive and dangerous so we must cultivate the heart in all we do and in all our relationships.”  I’m including a link to “You Tube” so you can see some of the flash video I took.  My intention was to blog daily when I was in Peru but my laptop blew up on the second day so I require waiting till now to have you experience the trip with us.   I sincerely hope you all have an opportunity to experience the teaching of the indigenous people at some point in your life.  I have made it a point in my life to continue my study of the ancient wisdoms because of the depth, simplicity, sweetness and power of the knowledge.

If you care to view some of our video’s on U-Tube, Click Here 

Blessing to all 

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Greetings

I desire to continue with some of the information I began a few blogs ago and that was the power of language and the presuppositions inherent in the words we utilize to express our thoughts. 

How We Think

I was doing a lecture here in Australia the other night and said that I felt there was a global pandemic, and no it wasn’t the swine flu but the global pandemic of the victim virus.  The audience readily agreed and I continued my presentation about self leadership.  But as I thought more about that statement I realized that most of our victim thinking is caused by the use of a linguistic pattern called Cause and Effect.

An example of this language pattern would be “I don’t trust people because I had abusive parents”, I can’t be success because I didn’t get a college education,”  where something, generally from the past, is the cause of some effect today.  This pattern makes the speaker a victim of something they have no control over today. 

We may have limited choice over situations in our lives but we have major choice over the meaning we ascribe to those situations.  So to help us get out of the conditioned rut of victim thinking utilize language choices such as “MY choice is” or any statement that begins with “I am.”   When you utilize language that is upgraded you will speak toward what you desire to create rather further conditioning yourself to think you are the effect of anything except your own perception.

Utilize some new language choices and let me know what results you get in your thinking.

Love & Light

Gary

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