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I’d like to introduce you to a process that was introduced to me through an e-mail I received from one of my students and thought it was great as we set forward upon the journey into another year.  Here it is:

 At the end of each year develop a ceremony we will entitle “closing the year”.

Look back at what you’ve accomplished and learned, and get mentally ready for a great new year ahead.   

 
I suggest you spend some quiet time doing each of the following steps:

Step 1 Find a quiet place where you will not be interrupted.  Turn off your phones etc. Turn on some great “mind music”.  Grab a pen and some paper.  Write these things down.  Research has proven over and over that writing is so much more effective than typing this stuff into a computer.

Step 2 Take a look back at all the things you’ve accomplished and the great experiences you had this year.  Spend a few minutes making a list of everything you’ve managed to achieve. Write them all down … the big ones and the little ones.

Call this your 2006 “Victory List.”

You might be surprised at just how much you’ve accomplished in just twelve months.    Be kind to yourself.  Resist the urge to think of this exercise as selfish … it isn’t.  It is powerful.

Step 3 Rid your life of tolerations.  Take a serious look at the things you no longer want in your life; make a list of all the things you’d like to leave behind.

We all have things that get in our way.  We have things in our lives that are long past their ‘use by’ date. I call them “tolerations”. What have you tolerated (and continue to tolerate) that drain you of energy?

Are you willing to get those things out of your life for good … right now?

They include physical objects, poor habits, limiting beliefs, thought patterns that hurt us and others, and yes, even people we no longer choose to spend time with.

Step 4 Think about your dreams for the future. What do you really desire to bring into your life? What experiences would you like to enjoy? What new skills would you like to learn? What would you like to do? How would you like to be?

Make notes, draw a picture or speak into a tape recorder to help you remember your dreams.

Here’s where you might want to spend more than five or ten minutes.  Take as much time as you like dreaming about the future you desire.  See it in your mind.  Make vivid pictures of the way you want it to be.

If you don’t know what you desire, ask yourself the ‘miracle question’:

“If a miracle occurred during the night, and when you woke up tomorrow … everything in your life was exactly the way you’d like it to be, how would you know there’d been a miracle?”

What would you see, feel and hear that would let you know a miracle had taken place?

What are the things, experiences, qualities, and ways of being you’d like to experience more of in the future. Make a list of these.

These can be quite general: Spend more time with your family? Get fitter? Earn more? Learn more? Spend more time in the present moment?

List the things you’d like to attract into your life.

Step #5   Make a list of your goals for the year ahead. What would you like to accomplish? What would you like to learn? What would you like to get? Who would you like to meet? In what ways would you like to grow? What are you committed to this year that you did not do last year?

What really is the power of setting goals?  Think about this very simply idea:

 you have a much better chance of hitting a target when you know what it is.

Human neurology is goal-seeking – so access your incredibly powerful unconscious mind – and make a list of what you’d like to achieve in 2006.

Step #6  Read through your list of last years accomplishments. Congratulate yourself for everything you did right. Put this list (#2) on your left.

Read through the list of things you’d like to leave behind. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you feel you’ve made, and put this list (#3) on your left also.

Take the materials relating to your dreams (#4), and place them in front of you.

Review the list of things you’d like to attract into your life, and put this list (#5) on your right.

Read through your goals for the year ahead, then put this list (#5) on your right also (if you are left handed, lists 1 & 2 on your right and 4 & 5 on your left).

Imagine all the good feelings, thoughts and energies from your accomplishments coming into your body (you can visualize them coming into your body in any way you choose).

Step #7 Change something-anything. We all get stuck from time to time.  We require to learn to welcome.  We can so easily get stuck in a routine that makes our lives dull and boring.  Getting stuck is normal, staying stuck is a complete option!

What should you change?

It really doesn’t matter.  It can be a lamp shade, a bedspread, a piece of art, your route to work, your hairstyle, re-arrange your furniture, clean up your office, throw out all the junk … just change anything and change as much as you can manage.

Step #8  Who can you forgive today?  Forgive someone who may have hurt you.  Even if they are dead wrong.  Wipe the slate clean.  The biggest mistake we can make is to go into a new year with old baggage.

Reconcile all damaged relationships as fast as you can.  It isn’t easy … but it could be the most important thing you do all year.

Step #9  Forgive yourself.  So you weren’t perfect in ‘08 … take solace in the fact that no one else was either.  Forgive yourself and try not to make the same mistakes again.  You are a human being becoming … and you are special.

Step #10  Commit to a life of gratitude which is a wide open road to true and lasting happiness.  Spend more time being grateful and less time being critical.

Make a list of 20 things you are most grateful for.  If you get on a roll, just keep writing. Fill up a legal pad and write more. This is a powerful exercise and a great way to start a new year.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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I had a student once in one of my classes named Ruben.  He came into the class, he could barely speak because he was so shy and he listened to everything I said and every process I taught that class he went home and every night for the extension of a 5-week period of time he did every process every day constantly.  The school director came and in and spoke to me once and said, ‘Ruben is taking his classes completely different.  He shifted his entire life in that 5 week period.’  That was my challenge to the group.  I said, ‘You can metamorphose your life in 5 weeks if you choose to do that.  I’m laying the tools before you.  You do with it what you wish.’  And he took it and I have yet to see a student do it as devotedly as he did.  And he metamorphosed his life.  You have the same opportunity.

 

Remember what I said to you – that the only way you know that you’re you is by the pictures, sounds and feelings you carry in your nervous system?  The flotation tank metaphor.  Well we’re going to be going into a process that begins to change the pictures, sounds and feelings in your head.  First of all I’m going to teach you a very simple technique that will decode your nervous system in about a minute to 2 minutes from negatively charged emotions from your past. Some of you already know it.  Who has a memory?  Come on up.

Now the way this works is a process called eye patterns.  In neurolinguistic programming we have eye patterns.  It’s very much like the computer keyboard to the nervous system.  The eyes grow out of the cerebral cortex.  The sclera of the eyes actually grows out of the dura of the brain.  So the eyes are deeply connected to the central nervous system.  They’re much like our list files on a computer.  You tap on your list files, you click on a particular file with your mouse and the file shows up on your screen.  The eyes have a particular pattern that has encoded your memories, visually, auditorily, kinesthetically.  So as you’re looking up you’re sorting for visual pictures.  As you’re looking laterally, you’re sorting for sounds, remembered or constructed.  As you’re looking down you’re sorting for feelings.  If it’s down to your left it’s your internal dialog to get to feelings but it’s still to get to feelings.  What we’re doing is we’re looking at our bodies as very much of a predictable biomechanical mechanism which the eyes are part of the computer keyboard.  When we are retrieving a memory, that memory has a specific eye pattern that will bring that memory back as if it was now. 

 

This is useful because if we were going to go to a door and we were going to look at the doorknob to open up the door and leave the room, if we did not have a method of encoding the learning, we would have to relearn the experience of opening up the door every time we went to a door.  So the human body has this amazing capacity to store the experiences because of the learning achieved through those experiences.  This is how we have learned all the things that we’ve learned and stored all the things that we’ve stored.  We have an eye pattern that retrieves our learnings from our memories.  Some of these memories are loaded with unresolved negative emotions and as we have stored them, we can retrieve them with the same emotional impact as before.  So what we’re going to be doing is working with the eyes so that we can decode the nervous system so the emotional impact goes neutral and we retain the learnings.

 

The way you do this is very simple.  NLP is very much like a set of keys.  Each key will open up a different lock.  This process is particularly good for memories that you’re done with.  When you think about them they still bring you pain.  However, it’s not something you’re masticating on like a baby pit bull on a bone – day to day, moment to moment.  This is not like the biggest experience you’ve ever done.  However, the last NLP class I taught in LA a woman got up.  She was the first one to raise her hand and said she had a memory that had clouded and overshadowed my entire existence and everything that’s in it.  And I thought, ‘Well, this may be interesting.’ So within two minutes she could no longer get back the memory. 

 

Demo: Do you have a memory that you’d like to feel differently about?  You’re going to go into the feeling of that memory and you’re job is to hold onto the feeling as you follow my finger with your eyes.  So when you’re in that memory, just nod your head.  So follow my finger with your eyes as you hold onto the emotions of that experience.  You have to follow my finger.  Keep holding onto that emotion and those feelings.  Keep moving your eyes.  Follow the finger.  I’ll slow down for you.  Okay, that’s about half a minute and we’re going to check and see where you are now.  Let your eyes rest and go to that memory.  You were up about a 10 on that memory so tell me what it feels like now.  Those of you who are over here are watching him sort for his eye patterns.  He’s looking for it.  Get that puppy back.  Make yourself feel bad.  Can you get it back?

So what happened was, I wiggled my finger in front of his face on a memory that was pretty high up there as far as the emotional impact of anger.  We spent about half of a minute and he can no longer get back the memory with the same negative emotions again.  Could that be useful in your life?

More tomorrow! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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Today’s blog, is what we replace all the language of disempowerment with.  This is why you’ll speak more succinctly.  How important is it that we understand the root of where our language patterns, our thinking patterns, comes from in changing it?  I believe it’s context dependent and individually dependent.  I’ve worked with some clients where it was very important to neutralize the negative emotions which is what we’re going to be doing tomorrow.  We’re going to be doing processes that neutralize the internal representations in our minds of how we hold our past.  And we’re going to do it easily.  Because unless your internal representations change, there is no shift.  Some people can just get this information and say, ‘I have no requirement to know what that was.  I’m just going for it.  I’m going for my outcome.  I’m staying completely focused.’  Some people are so disempowered by the emotional luggage that they’re carrying that it’s near to impossible for them to get into a peak emotional state to actually apply the language and the discipline it takes to apply the language. 

 

This is why the language is so imperative in continuing the whole process of doing your enfoldment.  Because unless you are keeping your language clear and clean you will create disempowered emotional states which cuts at the root of your power and puts you right into apathy and procrastination.  Language is the wind underneath the wings of imagination and emotion.  Unless we can keep our language up and alert and aware knowing that we are co-creating by every word we speak, every word is a prayer coming into reality speaking as a self-fulfilling prophecy.  So unless we can do this part of it, which is the beginning of this training, it is very difficult to do the next day to keep the imagination and the outcome in your mind’s focus.

 

 This work takes discipline, you guys.  Most of us have been in a state of such disempowerment that we have become so apathetic in the past about our lives.  And the reason we’ve become apathetic is because we’ve yet to be able to discover a system that actually sustains change.  So we do all this work and we revert back and we do more work and we revert back and then we go into hopelessness.  How many of you have been there?  I most certainly have in the past.  And now, with this system, of how from moment to moment, word by word, mental focus by mental focus, you have a direct succinct system that shows you how you’ve created it and how you can sustain a different state.  I personally think this is the missing piece out of most of the personal change technology out there.  People graze against it, they brush up against it.  This gives you the system and unless the system is enrolled into all the other behavioral change work, which is all fabulous, our patterns will revert back by the habitual thinking and the language which represents it. 

 

How we correct ourselves.  What do you do when you catch yourself in non-productive or limiting language: gossip or self-criticism?  You say Cancel/clear or Cancel/negate or in the past at the end of what you just became aware of saying or thinking.  Our subconscious mind takes our language literally and when we use one or both phrases we clear the slate of our mind.  So did you hear me as I was speaking.  I kept on saying ‘in the past.’  Because all that was story about stuff that we’re moving away from and it’s in the past.  The focus of our mind is the temple at which we pray. 

 

Examples of transforming your language: I am trying to change my life.  I have a successful relationship with the qualities of intimacy, honesty and integrity within myself and my partner.  I create a foundation of love in my home.  And you can even bring more specificity into that by saying, ‘By September of the year 2000 I’m working on a new career.  I’ve hired a marketing agent.  We are producing a series of tapes, lectures and a book.  I’m adjusting my income.  I am receiving $300,000 yearly for my work as a software engineer.  I choose happiness.  I choose happiness in my job as a computer programmer and in my relationship with Natasha.  I choose love.  I experience love from my father John, my mother Betty, my brother Alphonso, and my sister Anastasia.  Even the word I choose is still a process.  It’s an upgrade from I want and I need.  However it is still a process.  When you just claim it in the moment – I create, I experience, I am – it collapses time and brings it right to now.  Now this becomes even more imperative and more important as we go into the imagination aspect.  Because tomorrow we go into how to be emotionally in outcome.  Because, if you can feel it you imprint the subconscious mind even more powerfully.  If you can feel it you can make it real.

 

Language of distortion.  She always does that.  When she’s at home she does the gardening.  After dinner she generally meditates.  Three times per week she does some form of exercise.  My perception is she acts guilty.  That’s a projection, huh?  I am here to help everyone.  I am here to contribute to my mother and my father.  I am here to give physical support to my teammates, George, Bob and Mary.  You never share your feelings.  When I allow myself to become upset I remember only the times that you’ve been quiet.  I want it in my relationship.  I choose to be present, honest and tell the truth in my relationship with Roger.  I choose to have financial security in the amount of $300,000 yearly in combined income in my relationship with Scotty.  I wish I could receive love from them.  This is the language of generalization.  I choose to receive love from Bud, Bonnie and my father Valerio.  That’s just the way I am.  How many of you have said that or had that said to you?  In the past I expressed anger with violence and now I choose to negotiate.  Language of negation.  I love you but…  I love you and I would be more comfortable if you would put medicated foot powder in your shoes.  This was actually said to me. 

 

Isn’t she beautiful?  She’s beautiful.  Can’t you help me.  Please help me.  Didn’t you love it.  Did you like that movie. 

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Pyramid of Time

  

Time is a construction of our mind used to measure experiences, distances and events.

(continued from Yesterdays Blog Post) 

I took the pipe home that night and began to make up a ceremony that I did frequently through the months in the privacy of my home by myself. It consisted of facing the sacred four directions of North, South, East and West and extending blessings and prayers to all living things. About a month later I picked up the book Return of the Bird Tribes. As I read along, I came to the chapters on White Buffalo Calf Woman and her pipe ceremony. As I read about the legend, I came to the section in the book that described the entire pipe ceremony and what I had made up in my little ceremony was White Buffalo Calf Woman’s ceremony word by word. The depth of Violets connection to time and what she could see amazed me, and yet within this gentle soul was an antiquity that I had rarely encountered in all my travels. She remained standing and beckoned me to sit next to her. As I sat, there were several other Aboriginal people who had come to see Violet. She turned to her assistant, a large Aboriginal woman with the deepest blackest eyes I have ever seen and Violet asked her, “Is he a goodie or a badie?” Her assistant went into dream time and slowly opened her eyes and said: ”He is in-between.”  Violet then looked at me with a large grin upon her face and said “I know who you are”. You are the one from Atlantis who bridged science and spirituality together and your back to do it again.” Then, she said, “You know that Aboriginal man you were seeing all the time?” (Remember, this is four years later.) I said, “Yes.” She said, “That was you. You have come home.”  She gave me my Aboriginal name and spent four more hours with me leading me on several Shamanic journeys. My life was not the same when I left her presence.

I took the pipe home that night and began to make up a ceremony that I did frequently through the months in the privacy of my home by myself.  It consisted of facing the sacred four directions of North, South, East and West and extending blessings and prayers to all living things. About a month later I picked up the book Return of the Bird Tribes.  As I read along, I came to the chapters on White Buffalo Calf Woman and her pipe ceremony.  As I read about the legend, I came to the section in the book that described the entire pipe ceremony and what I had made up in my little ceremony was White Buffalo Calf Woman’s ceremony word by word. The depth of Violets connection to time and what she could see amazed me, and yet within this gentle soul was an antiquity that I had rarely encountered in all my travels.  She remained standing and beckoned me to sit next to her.  As I sat, there were several other Aboriginal people who had come to see Violet.  She turned to her assistant, a large Aboriginal woman with the deepest blackest eyes I have ever seen and Violet asked her, “Is he a goodie or a badie?” Her assistant went into dream time and slowly opened her eyes and said:  “He is in-between.”  Violet then looked at me with a large grin upon her face and said “I know who you are. You are the one from Atlantis who bridged science and spirituality together and your back to do it again.” Then, she said, “You know that Aboriginal man you were seeing all the time?” (Remember, this is four years later.) I said, “Yes.”  She said, “That was you.  You have come home.”  She gave me my Aboriginal name and spent four more hours with me leading me on several Shamanic journeys.  My life was not the same when I left her presence.  I have thought since then that she did not live in time as we know it.  All time was the same to her as if she had access to all dimensions of time – past, present and future — simultaneously.  I have to wonder how difficult it has been for the Aboriginal people to fit themselves into a culture that runs itself so fundamentally differently.  It would make it impossible for the Aborigine to integrate into a western model of time or culture.  They are a special and sacred people.

So when we think about how Quantum Physics is proving that time is a mental construct and what is real is consciousness, it raises the questions of how real can our past really be and how real is our projections into the future.  Worry serves no purpose nor does regret of the past.  What does make a difference is our focus of mind upon the eternal and timeless presence of who we are and being in the eternal NOW. 

We are quantum creating beings spinning out our world with every thought we think, emotion we produce and word we speak.  Let us spin our realities from a heart focused upon the knowingness of ourselves as the eternal traveler.  We are returning ourselves back to a state of oneness.

  

Love & Light

Gary

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Pyramid of Time

 

Time is a construction of our mind used to measure experiences, distances and events. 

 

If we lived by the Mayan calendar, we would be measuring time in states of being instead of actions or doingness.  The Roman Catholic Church developed the clock and time keeping. This development externalized the consciousness of man and woman and indoctrinated the world to what we can do rather than to who we are.

In the quantum field of possibilities there is no time.

There is consciousness void of a measuring instrument to determine what the mind perceives. One of the primary distortions of our consciousness is that time exists. We project our minds into the future with worry or anticipation. We send our minds into the past in regret or reminiscence. We rarely ever experience the sacred moment of “now” — where we really are. 

To be truly self aware we require to practice being fully present in the NOW. When I first conducted training’s in Australia several years ago, I remember flying above Sydney with the beautiful city, opera house, harbor and royal gardens down below. As I looked out the window of the plane, after a very long flight, I closed my eyes and in my minds eye was this old Aboriginal man staring me in the face. I opened and closed my eyes again and there he was. This vision never left me for my entire two month stay in Australia during my first trip. I didn’t think much of the experience other than it was a bit annoying to fall asleep every evening staring this old man in the eyes. 

The vision never spoke just appeared and stayed when ever my eyes were closed. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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