November 20, 2008
Fantastic Possibilities
Our wisdom matures through life
The trip to Australia has had its challenges, as well as fantastic possibilities, that could shift the paradigm of how I have travelled my career path to this point. The question I am often asked by clients is: “why after I have set my goals, done the inner work and outer preparation, what do I do when I don’t get the results I expected?”
As I have worked with clients, this nagging question has repeated time and again by nearly every client. The question of “what do I do when it doesn’t work? What do I do when I have done my best and the results are still not evident. There is a beautiful presupposition of NLP that states that there is no failure only feedback. We all have the ability to retain all of our learning’s from our experiences as we enact and become more and more flexible in our behaviors. What is required is to become more creative, curious and strategize massive action so we achieve our outcomes.
The greater your flexibility, the greater leader you become. When I face this question in my own life I have a strategy for it which I desired to share with you.
Step 1 = I refuse to wallow in self doubt. I frame the experience as feedback and say to myself that there is something I have not seen, some knowledge I require or some alliance I require to make. I know the circumstances are showing me a blind spot that I have had. My commitment to myself is to increase my ability to educate, inspire and train millions of people before I dance out of the mortal coil. Reframe from wallowing in self doubt, frame the experience as feedback and become curious.
Step 2 = I ask myself: what resources do I have? What relationships can I contact for ideas or assistance? What have I not done, that if I did it would make all the difference? Where have I not shown up 100% that has caused this circumstance? Be courageous with yourself and lessen your pride. Ask for clarity and ideas from the ones you trust and be willing to receive the feedback to help you break out of your tunnel vision into a new way of expanding your perspective.
Step 3 = Do the inner work. Do an authentic evaluation of your core beliefs, secondary gains, values and emotions that may be hindering the realization of your goals. Take responsibility. It doesn’t happen to you it happens from you. You are your own reality generating machine and you are part of the equation of the reality you are manifesting. Knowing NLP, you can decode your nervous system from core memories using the Memory Resolution technique. Change your limiting beliefs using time based techniques, submodalites and the 90 day new belief manual. Conduct a values elicitation and verify your goals are aligned to your top five values. Do the inner work. Commit to learning the NLP skills that makes everything work, and commit to travelling your life journey fully equipped to manage your mind therefore the results in your life.
Step 4 = Model the excellence of others who have done what you desire to create in your own life and explore how they have accomplished their results. It is important for you to understand the steps that have worked in the past so that success was achieved. Adapt, become flexible, intertwine your ideas with the ideas of the masters and geniuses of our time and follow their steps. Never giving up until you reach your outcome.
Step 5 = Base your outcomes anchored to a higher purpose. You will have unstoppable power and endless energy to achieve your outcomes if they aligned to your highest values. Be aware that the end of the day the only thing asked of you at the time of your death is “How much love and devotion did you develop for the life force that animates all of us and how did you demonstrate that love to others in your life. Leave a Legacy and make a very light footprint on our earth while giving massively. Know that operating in our lives is a force that unconditionally loves each and everyone one of us.
Fear is the mind killer. You are infinite possibility in the physical form, claim your birthright and activate your flexibility in thinking and behavior. You will then create the greatest contribution to whatever system you belong, whether it be a family or organization. Envision your life leaving a legacy that can last for generations to come.
What I have learned on this trip is, when life does not happen as you expected it would, it is a fertile environment to kick into your highest level of flexibility and possibility. There is rarely an outcome that you cannot achieve. Never give up in the realization of the goal. Find new ways, new paths to create the change you desire and take massive action. Know as well, that there is something higher at work in all of our lives. May you practice surrendering over the results of your efforts to a Higher Power. Ask ultimately that whatever your life expression creates, people are touched, and you have made the contribution you came here to make.
Many Blessings and Happy Happy Holidays!
Love & Light
Gary De Rodriguez