Foundational Pre-suppositions

1. There is only two things which motivate human behavior: Love and a call for Love.

2. The agenda of romantic love is to bring light to those childhood wounds left unhealed and to provide an environment to receive and heal those parts of ourselves.

 3. Our behavior is our adaptation to loss.  Change is the catalyst for healing.

4. Our behavior has a positive intention given the resources we have available to us at the time.

5. We are in relationship with ourselves in the context of another.  Our relationships provide us with a mirror in which to see those parts of ourselves we cannot normally see.

6. Authentic communication is the key ingredient for a successful relationship.  If we are hiding our truth in relationship, we disempower ourselves and create a environment of resentment, projection and fear. 

 7. Live from your personal life values with greater congruency between your thought word and deed. The more congruency, the stronger your personal identity.  The stronger your personal identity the healthier the relationship you will create.  You are the common denominator in your relationship history.  When you change your history in relationships will also change.

 8. Understand you distort reality.  Begin your communication with the understanding that you see through your individual filters of your accumulated beliefs and memories.  Be personally accountable for the emotions you are creating based upon the meaning you are giving circumstances in your world.  The map is not the territory.

Join me tomorrow for more fun tools!

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Gary De Rodriguez

A story about Gary

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The emotionally shattered young woman who was literally carried into Gary De Rodriguez’ office by friends did not want to live.  Weeks before, she and her fiancé were kayaking in a glacial cave in Alaska when an ice stalactite broke loose from the cave ceiling and struck the man on the head, killing him.

 ”When Juno died,” recalls Sue Harley, now of Denver, Colorado, “all my dreams and hopes, my whole future, died with him.”

De Rodriguez, founder of the Santa Fe, NM based Life Design International Training Center and creator of the Life Design Trainings, had a reputation for helping people use the untapped power of their mind to heal their body and spirit.  For Harley, De Rodriguez was her last chance to live.

 ”I immediately knew I could trust him when I told him the story of Juno’s death, and he cried right along with me,” Harley said.  “Then he helped me find my way back from total despair through a timeline process by showing me my future.”  Through this gentle, powerful method of harnessing and directing the power of the mind, Harley said, she began to see more and more exciting reasons to keep on living.  In the new future she was mentally creating, she saw an attractive man with an accent; children; a new home.  By imagining these mental pictures, and feeling the joyful emotions that accompanied them, Harley began to embrace her future life with enthusiasm.

 Six months after completing her work with De Rodriguez, Harley said she met a cute man from Australia – and the future she designed for herself became real.

 As astounding as Harley’s physical and spiritual recovery was, De Rodriguez says each of us holds the key for such dramatic change in our minds.

 “We choose our heaven or our hell inside of our own neurology,” De Rodriguez explains.  “The pictures we’re mentally contemplating, the words we’re speaking in our internal dialogue, and the emotions we’re producing all become our reality and determine any limits to our success.”

  De Rodriguez speaks from experience.  He traveled a winding and uphill spiritual path to overcome the hurts of his past – child abuse, juvenile drug addiction, paralyzing depression, the agony of seeing friends waste away from AIDS.  Fifteen years meditating three hours a day in an ashram in India didn’t heal the hurt or catapult him into spiritual bliss. Studying and teaching positive disciplines like “A Course In Miracles” helped, but didn’t fix everything.  It wasn’t until De Rodriguez discovered the mental management tools of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) that he was able to completely release the old pains and refocus his life.  

 ”Realize that the brain is a computer,” De Rodriguez explains, “and NLP is very much the owner’s manual for the human body.  It teaches us how we created our beliefs, our values, our individual perceptions and the foundation of our personality.”  Through NLP technologies, says De Rodriguez, we can see how some aspects of our personalities cut to the very root of our ability to be successful. When we understand how we created those flawed thinking patterns, we can learn how to redirect them.

 Deeply committed to helping to raise world consciousness, De Rodriguez built a complete spiritual element on top of basic NLP to create Life Design Trainings – his system of using the mind-body connection to achieve excellence in every aspect of life.  His unique approach is being embraced by people from all walks of life, including professionals seeking to establish a more balanced and successful career path.

 Los Angeles Attorney Sylvia Esquivel said De Rodriguez helped her gain a better understanding of how differently each person sees the world based on their past experiences.

 ”Once you understand this of yourself,” she says, “you can understand that other people have their own perspectives which are not right or wrong, but which are or may be different.  Becoming aware of this alone is priceless — and it helps in releasing one’s point of view of ‘I’m right, he is wrong’ in personal, business or other types of interactions.”

 For a successful San Diego Realtor who participated in De Rodriguez’ 12-day Life Design Training Practitioner certification program, the biggest benefit was a dramatic shift in his ability to solve problems.

 ”If I got stuck on something, I had lots of different options I didn’t know about before,” he said.  As a result, the Realtor says, things that previously would bother him no longer have power, and he’s more confident, happier and able to build instant rapport with prospective clients.

 ”Where most training programs fail is they never teach the individual how to manage their own internal state,” says Rodriguez.  “They put on blanket Band-Aids – ‘this technique is for diversity, and this technique is for communicating.’ But that training is all about your external behavior – and what’s happening internally is what’s driving the external behavior. 

 ”What they’re doing is putting a Band-Aid over the already established ACT.  They’re trying to shift behavior at the behavioral level, and you can NEVER shift behavior at the behavioral level.  You must use the power of the mind to permanently shift behaviors.”

 Psychotherapist Adam Colson interacts daily with homeless and destitute people. 

“A huge challenge in my work is establishing rapport with down-on-their-luck individuals, and working with them to shift their mental outlook and create well-focused goals,” Colson says.  “I’ve studied many different forms of therapy, and Life Design Training techniques help people change their behaviors more quickly and effectively than anything else I’ve tried.”

 “If people had just the basic mental tools,” said De Rodriguez, “they could start improving their lives immediately.  Where they get into the most pain is feeling like they don’t have choices.  I desire to teach people they have the resources and choices to choose a different road, and a magnificent future.”

 For information on upcoming Life Design Training classes, visit the center’s website at www.garyderodriguez.com or call (505) 982-1980.

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More Q & A’s with Gary De Rodriguez

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Question:

When was that?

 

Gary:

A year ago. And all of the sudden, I come back to the States and all these things start happening that would have normally shattered me, absolutely shattered me. Core things, it tapped right into my core wound by people that I felt had undoable love for me. Normally I would have just fallen apart. I breathed through it, like a greased eal. I was like: ‘God, I cannot believe how good I feel.’ Big old betrayel-issues that I could make up, like really big betrayals, I don’t care! They don’t have anything to do with me. I am like’ wow, that’s different!’. That is really different for me. And I know that whatever happened on that table, was absolutely powerful. And when she said ‘you will be in Australia, this is where all the healers are coming” I was like: ok, I will look!  All the doors started closing here in America. I don’t want to say all of them, but a lot of them. And they closed in comfortable and not so comfortable ways. And I am just sitting back, looking at it knowing at one level it is not about my ego, it is not about my personality, it is about the life speak. It is about what is life saying to me through theses circumstances. And then all the doors in Australia started flying open. Before I left I was invited to the private chambers of the Governor of Western Australia and had lunch with him. And then like the secretary to the speaker of the house of the Governor comes to one of my trainings and she takes a training. She is like ‘Oh God that is fabulous’. Then I find out that there is a company who I have done a lot of work with. This is the woman that I have appeared to supposedly in my astro-format, saved from breast-cancer and some other horrible disease which I don’t have any clue what that is about. She said for sure I showed up there and that is what saved her life. So her company, which is this multi-million-company is now sponsoring me as a special talent sponsory which is almost impossible to get to come down to Australia. She has made best friends with the secretary of the speaker of The House. And the speaker of The House told my friend who is sponsoring me, he said ‘I am just a puppet, who really runs this office is this lady who took my course. So this lady told my friend who is sponsoring me ‘just lounge the visa and I will make sure it happens’. And I am looking at all of it and I am going: ‘how does that happen’? Those are doors that are opening through life speak. Those are huge doors. Then my attorney says: “oh, my best friend is the Governor of New South Wales, just let me know, I will put you in contact with her”. I am like ‘what is that about’? Don’t you think that’s weird; that does not happen. So I am just looking at that going ‘maybe I am supposed to go down there and buy lots of land so if stuff starts to really happen, everybody will have a place to come to. Yes, who knows. I just don’t have a clue. But what I know is that I am in the slipstream of having a lot of faith in what I trust is opening up through the circumstances that are happening. And I am just following that. And because I know, that when I step out into the unknown like that I am practicing for death. Because when I have to step out of the void of my body and leap out into the unknown, you just cannot do that without practicising. You just cannot. You have to learn how to leap out into the void in life in order to leap out into the void of death. So I thought: What is the worst thing that can happen? I leap out into the void and there is no one there to catch me. So I get to practice. And for me that is what going to Australia is: It is leaping into the void. Far from letting go of the kajak. Yes, because that kayak was a big deal. Almost dieing a year ago is a big deal. I did not really realize how close I came to dieing until maybe a couple of weeks ago and I came so close to like dieing. Of course my sponsors’ first thing out of their mouse was “bloody hell, we better take out some life insurance policies on you, because we have had lots of money booked in these trainings and if you died, we would be like.. I don’t know what we would do.” And I am like ‘oh, thank you so much. I can see your first thoughts up. So, yes, it was like let go of it and swim to the dingy.

I think that there is a lot of possibilities in life and I think each one of us have doors that are opening and doors that are closing and I sometimes think it is our egos, that pound on the doors until we bloody ourselves, because we don’t want that door to close. But it already has. And we are not looking at the doors that are opening. Really, what we are here for is a soul excursion and a soul learning where our soul and our spirit evolves itself. We are not here to back on the call of our egos. The challenge is not knowing the difference. That is why in the training we are doing that we are choosing to bring really clear distinctions between the subconscious, the ego and the higher self so that we can start getting to a relationship with the higher self and the subconscious mind so that we will know. Because if we don’t have that relationship established, how do we know? That’s why I think the training is going to be really life transforming. I know a book is going to come out of it. We just got approached by an ex-mister universe that works at that really exclusive spa where Opra Whinfrey goes and he does her 3 weeks. It is in Tuscan (?) It is called Mira Mar. And it is this really exclusive place and he works there. He runs the whole kind of health department and he saw us work at the production studio. He was in the production room watching the videos, we were doing work with all these clients and he was like ‘that is fabulous’. So he approached us to come together and put a body transformation training (..). And Tricia has been writing a proposal, we are going to present it to the (…?) and since he is already there and he is already very well respected and he will be part of the team we have a very good chance of having that training happen. Which would be, God the exposure we would get, it would be incredible. Because these are really like high-end contacts that we would have exposure to.  So things are happening. I don’t know what form they are going to take. But I am like in the slipstream of faith and I am just following how life is leading me. And it is scary. How many of you have been scared before?

It is like, ah I just don’t know if this is what is supposed to be or not. Byron Katie has that wonderful line: If it is, then love what is! It is here as a teacher and there is an undelivered gift in it. Find the gift! And it is our egos’ judgment and condemnation of what is that creates the pain. Because we are judging all the time and that is what causes the separation the pain and the fear. And trust me, I am as lost in it as anybody else. But I know that that is not the right path. That’s why for me to be in a collection of individuals who are doing something similar is a high priority for me.

Really be alert to the company you keep because you will take on color, you absolutely will. The subconscious mind is being programmed all the time and our conditioning is vast and deep, isn’t it? And the world is journaling alignment with our historical tradition, with our historical conditioning. So whenever we are out there and absorbed in that it is just like so comfortable, because that is how we have been historically conditioned to be. So it takes time and it takes effort to recondition ourselves in another way. And it is challenging. That is why the information about language the information about imagination, all that, it comes with the ‘master your destiny training’, that stuff is really important because the NLP-techniques help to unravel the story and program the future, the languaging, the imagination techniques is really what sustains your ability to emotionally have the will to apply the tools you have learned. Because how many of you know when you get depressed the last thing you do is ‘ I am going to do some NLP to get out of that ‘.. .I am just like, I am not doing that!  Or when you are really down, are you going to call a friend who can really get you to the other side of this? It’s like, no!

So the best things we can do for ourselves is, to know that every word we are speaking is a prayer coming into manifestation and that we are and we are praying to a god that will answer us, because our thinking will follow our language and our thinking is our prayer. So either the god of your ability to wake yourself up and stay focused on your outcomes will answer or the god of ‘I am not enough the world sucks’ will answer. It is true though.

 

Question:

Where is the subconscious located?

 

Gary:

It is located through every cell of your body. Now, there is some great research that has been done by Deprak Chopra(??) and some other people that have done work on the mind-body connection and the same cellular structures that are within the brain is attached to every single cell of the body. There is vast research being currently done, there is a new book out called ‘the molecules of emotion’ which I have just purchased and I am about to read. It is all about how the subconscious mind is throughout the body.

 

Comment:

So there is a difference between the subconscious and the conscious that has been scientifically proven?

Gary:

I think it is being proven. I don’t know if it will ever be proven from the prospective.. it is beyond hard science. When you think of the fact that they have only been studying mind for the last 50 years so they really don’t know a lot. The mind is really the last frontier for research and they really don’t know. There is more neurological connections in the body than there are grains of sand on all beaches of our planet. I don’t think they actually know. They have done tests where they have scraped the inside of the mouth of an individual and put cells in a petri-dish take it over to a laboratory 5 miles away, put galvactic skin-response tests on the cells of the person and the person is watching porno and the cells like 5 miles away are reacting. It is got to be that there is mind in every cell. If the cells can respond to what the body is doing 5 miles away it must be that those cells have communicative capabilities to the rest of the body.

 

Comment:

That brushes into the realm of believes, right? It has not really proven?

 

Gary:

There is hard science backing up the fact that we are very quantum in our prospective. How do we have knowledge of things happening outside of the realm of our physical body? How does Tricia do what she does? How does she do that? How does she kind of tap in and starts hearing your higher self?

 

Question:

Do we really need to separate conscious from subconscious mind?

 

Gary:

I think that the difference between the conscious and the subconscious mind is that the conscious mind is simply what you are aware of at this moment. The subconscious mind is everything that is not aware of at this moment. It is also more vast in that because it runs the body. I think that we are the individuated creative aspects of God incased in a body and non-definable by science. And so we are vast possibilities to create anything that we focus on. The problem is that most of us are focused on life based upon our conditioning and those are the only lenses we are looking out from. We are not focused on what our possibilities are. When we are focused on what our possibilities are and we are relentless in that focus, really nothing can stop you.

Replace all the Language of Disempowerment

  

Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

 

 

 

 

Today’s blog, is what we replace all the language of disempowerment with.  This is why you’ll speak more succinctly.  How important is it that we understand the root of where our language patterns, our thinking patterns, comes from in changing it?  I believe it’s context dependent and individually dependent.  I’ve worked with some clients where it was very important to neutralize the negative emotions which is what we’re going to be doing tomorrow.  We’re going to be doing processes that neutralize the internal representations in our minds of how we hold our past.  And we’re going to do it easily.  Because unless your internal representations change, there is no shift.  Some people can just get this information and say, ‘I have no requirement to know what that was.  I’m just going for it.  I’m going for my outcome.  I’m staying completely focused.’  Some people are so disempowered by the emotional luggage that they’re carrying that it’s near to impossible for them to get into a peak emotional state to actually apply the language and the discipline it takes to apply the language. 

 

This is why the language is so imperative in continuing the whole process of doing your enfoldment.  Because unless you are keeping your language clear and clean you will create disempowered emotional states which cuts at the root of your power and puts you right into apathy and procrastination.  Language is the wind underneath the wings of imagination and emotion.  Unless we can keep our language up and alert and aware knowing that we are co-creating by every word we speak, every word is a prayer coming into reality speaking as a self-fulfilling prophecy.  So unless we can do this part of it, which is the beginning of this training, it is very difficult to do the next day to keep the imagination and the outcome in your mind’s focus.

 

 This work takes discipline, you guys.  Most of us have been in a state of such disempowerment that we have become so apathetic in the past about our lives.  And the reason we’ve become apathetic is because we’ve yet to be able to discover a system that actually sustains change.  So we do all this work and we revert back and we do more work and we revert back and then we go into hopelessness.  How many of you have been there?  I most certainly have in the past.  And now, with this system, of how from moment to moment, word by word, mental focus by mental focus, you have a direct succinct system that shows you how you’ve created it and how you can sustain a different state.  I personally think this is the missing piece out of most of the personal change technology out there.  People graze against it, they brush up against it.  This gives you the system and unless the system is enrolled into all the other behavioral change work, which is all fabulous, our patterns will revert back by the habitual thinking and the language which represents it. 

 

How we correct ourselves.  What do you do when you catch yourself in non-productive or limiting language: gossip or self-criticism?  You say Cancel/clear or Cancel/negate or in the past at the end of what you just became aware of saying or thinking.  Our subconscious mind takes our language literally and when we use one or both phrases we clear the slate of our mind.  So did you hear me as I was speaking.  I kept on saying ‘in the past.’  Because all that was story about stuff that we’re moving away from and it’s in the past.  The focus of our mind is the temple at which we pray. 

 

Examples of transforming your language: I am trying to change my life.  I have a successful relationship with the qualities of intimacy, honesty and integrity within myself and my partner.  I create a foundation of love in my home.  And you can even bring more specificity into that by saying, ‘By September of the year 2000 I’m working on a new career.  I’ve hired a marketing agent.  We are producing a series of tapes, lectures and a book.  I’m adjusting my income.  I am receiving $300,000 yearly for my work as a software engineer.  I choose happiness.  I choose happiness in my job as a computer programmer and in my relationship with Natasha.  I choose love.  I experience love from my father John, my mother Betty, my brother Alphonso, and my sister Anastasia.  Even the word I choose is still a process.  It’s an upgrade from I want and I need.  However it is still a process.  When you just claim it in the moment – I create, I experience, I am – it collapses time and brings it right to now.  Now this becomes even more imperative and more important as we go into the imagination aspect.  Because tomorrow we go into how to be emotionally in outcome.  Because, if you can feel it you imprint the subconscious mind even more powerfully.  If you can feel it you can make it real.

 

Language of distortion.  She always does that.  When she’s at home she does the gardening.  After dinner she generally meditates.  Three times per week she does some form of exercise.  My perception is she acts guilty.  That’s a projection, huh?  I am here to help everyone.  I am here to contribute to my mother and my father.  I am here to give physical support to my teammates, George, Bob and Mary.  You never share your feelings.  When I allow myself to become upset I remember only the times that you’ve been quiet.  I want it in my relationship.  I choose to be present, honest and tell the truth in my relationship with Roger.  I choose to have financial security in the amount of $300,000 yearly in combined income in my relationship with Scotty.  I wish I could receive love from them.  This is the language of generalization.  I choose to receive love from Bud, Bonnie and my father Valerio.  That’s just the way I am.  How many of you have said that or had that said to you?  In the past I expressed anger with violence and now I choose to negotiate.  Language of negation.  I love you but…  I love you and I would be more comfortable if you would put medicated foot powder in your shoes.  This was actually said to me. 

 

Isn’t she beautiful?  She’s beautiful.  Can’t you help me.  Please help me.  Didn’t you love it.  Did you like that movie. 

  

 

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When I was In India

 

 

 

Look Within

Look Within

 

 

 

When I was in India, the Master would say to us, “There is only one thing asked at the time of death, not how many times did you do confession and how many times did you do the rosary or were you a vegetarian or did you meditate on Shiva or did you chant specific Buddhist chants.  Nothing is asked of you but how much love and devotion do you have for God and how have you demonstrated that love in creation.  That is the only thing that’s asked.  It is not about religion.  It is about the love inside of you being demonstrated out into the world”. 

 

I’m giving you my philosophy.  It is not true.  It is a choice of perception.  By the meaning we ascribe to the world around us determines our heaven or hell we live. Some of you may think, “Whew, man, that’s out there.”  Some of you may think, “That’s not out there at all.”  I can only speak from who I am and where I am.

 

I am presenting you with concepts from my life experience because one of my purposes and higher visions for myself of why I get up in front of groups or write books is I’m inviting you to look at another paradigm.  The more we can look out of our eyes and see perfection, see order and purpose and  how all things have evolved to support us in our spiritual evolution, the greater strength and passion we will have to begin to experience  our world from a poistion of self accountability and grace. 

 

We will stop wasting our precious breaths on the resentment of our past and move forward.  If we are carrying this trailer of luggage from our past, we will be deluded in our power to fulfill our life purpose.  Do whatever it takes to awaken.

( talk about the importance of the human birth)

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Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez