Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

Life has purpose and order.  There is purpose and order to our birth within our families.   The tragedies and triumphs of our ancestry give us a window into what we are here to evolve.  Our ancestry provides us with a golden opportunity to understand the mystery of our life purpose.  The thought patterns we have imprinted from our parents are those imprinted from theirs parents.  The beliefs, values and perspectives have been handed down through generations.  Each generation raising the consciousness of the former to a higher expression.  Each generation improving upon itself.  The baton is in our hand.  The choice of which path to take and how fast to travel that path is ours.  The purpose of this training is to create clarity of your life lesson and mission as revealed through your ancestry,  to create a reference point for you to live your life from.  The vehicle for this exploration is your language.  Your language is a symbol of your thinking.  It is within your thinking you have been trapped and it is within your thinking, therefore your language, you will discover your greatest freedom.

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Gary De Rodriguez

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The Path of the Master’s was the turning point in my life I had been seeking.  

I structured my life around the principles of this spiritual discipline.  I rose every morning at 3:00 am and meditated till 6:00am.  My life was about my meditation. 

I slowly began to repair the damage I had done to my mind and reasoning capability and became employed and a working member of society through the grace and generosity of friends.

I so desired to go to India and be with Master in a close intimate setting of the ashram in Northern India.  After writing and being refused for many years the Master finally wrote and said I was ready to come. 

I had the great good fortune and privilege to have sat with and studied with a Realized Master.  His ashram sat at the foothills of the Himalayas on the river Beas in the Punjab of Northern India.  He would meet with the Western disciples in the evening and answer our ceaseless questions.  In one such meeting, a South African woman asked about the importance of meditation and the illusion of time.  The Master paused for a long time before answering the question.  With a very concerned and compassionate look

on his face, he looked at each one of us and slowly began his response. 

        “You do not understand the importance of your human birth. Not all the treasures of the three realms could buy even one human breath.  Not all the treasures of the physical world, astral world, and causal world could purchase one of your breaths. The wealth I speak of is not comprehensible to your mind, it is so great.  Even the god Brahman, the god that millions worship, pines for the day it could take a human form.  Because only in this form can we make the greatest level of spiritual progress.  The human form is at the top rung of the ladder of all the forms the soul could incarnate in.”

        “Your bodies are the microcosm of the macrocosm of creation.  The chakra system of the body, or energy centers, are the microcosm of the seven different levels of consciousness that exist in creation.  That is why you are the laboratory in which you can transverse the inner realms of consciousness and obtain enlightenment. You do not understand the importance of your human birth. Not all the treasures of the three realms could buy even one human breath.  Not all the treasures of the physical world, astral world, and causal world could purchase one of your breaths. The wealth I speak of is not comprehensible to your mind, it is so great.  

 It is only in the human form that this can be done.  You sit there asking questions not realizing each one of you is the totality of the entire creation contained within the vessel of your human body. You have a gift beyond the capacity of the mind to measure. Make best use of it.”

We all sat silent on that hot, sticky Indian night, the constant whirl of the ceiling fans were all I heard for what seemed like an eternity.  The Master then rose slowly and stood gazing into our eyes.  As he walked passed each one of us he looked lovingly into our eyes with deep compassion for the sleep we had fallen into. 

        I have often wondered if I would ever understand the depth and magnitude of what he had said that night.  I know I have not.  Each one of us is living out our very specific set of circumstances in this great dance of birth and death.  The question is: how do we make the greatest meaning from our life experience?

 

 

This was a moment in time with this realized soul shook up my fragmented world, only to experience many more such moments with him throughout my stays in India which I will share throughout the chapters ahead.

I have thought long about the words the Master spoke that night.  As I looked into my life and the past I had the distance between what I was experiencing in my everyday reality and the concept that I was the subtotal of all creation contained within  the grasp of my consciousness was to great for me to comprehend.  Each one of us has this potential of and infinite possibility to be and create from the divine spark existent within each one of us.

What was stopping me? My meditations were sometimes blissful but more often than not I simply struggled to stay awake with my mind wandering into the unresolved issues of my past or my fear being projected into my future.

I felt as far away from the conscious vessel of divine possibility as you could be. 

Most of my time I felt trapped in the patterns of my past family issues now more subtle in how they revealed themselves but very much alive. 

I would find that my adult relationships began to mirror my patterns as a child, very subtle almost indistinguishable.  All I knew was I felt as though I was still a child still attempting to hold all the balls in the air as if someone would die or I wouldn’t survive if I didn’t.  The circumstances of the past were gone however the subconscious strategies of how I lived in the world  and approached relationships and life’s challenges were alive and well.
I was an adult with adult resources feeling like a child in a grown up world.  I wonder how many of us when we become very authentic with ourselves have felt similar. 

All I ever have sought was to feel and be the love inherit within me.  Free of fear.

As I sat in meditation through the years I began to know with every fiber of my being that the spiritual path was not the three hours I sat in meditation every morning. It was every thought I was thinking and every word I spoke.  It was the focus of my mind which was my true prayer.

Every moment is a opportunity to choose either love or fear and it is a choice made by each one of us moment to moment. Whatever our choice will be, will create more of what we have chosen to dwell upon for our next day of life.

We are creating our reality by what we focus most upon.

All any of us truly desires is fulfillment, and peace of mind.

However with the constant whirling of the past, storming through our thoughts, emotions and relationships we rarely experience our deeper nature.  With the past remaining unresolved we create a reactive approach to the world around ourselves as a whirlwind of distortions about the current reality occurs.

The big question here is what causes so much distortion and why am I in such an automatic response to see and behave like I do.

When we entered the world through our unique genealogical combination of both our mothers and fathers we modeled their behaviors. They modeled their parents and your grandparents modeled their parents down through the generations.

 

Each one of us has come into this world with a certain predisposition to filter reality in our unique way. The combination of our unique filtering and the emotional environment our parents created for us, developed through the modeling process our individual personalities.  To understand the concept of predetermined filtering from birth.  Think for a moment about your brothers or sisters.

Do they see life exactly like you do? Do they think, feel or act you ?  If you don’t have brothers or sisters do you have children?  Are their personalities all the same or are they uniquely different from birth.  One was a quiet baby the other wouldn’t stop crying.  We come into this life with some definite personality qualities already in place.

What causes these innate qualities and distinctions between us that help develop the propensity to one type of personality or another.

Perhaps it is different egg or sperm combinations, or states the mother was in both physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  Perhaps it is past life influences.  We do not know but does matter is that we are different.

We came into this life with a set of filters already in place and began giving meaning to what we did receive and did not receive from our fathers and mothers resulting a collection of evidence that what we believed about the stimulus around us began to shape how we would see and interact with world resulting in a world of possibilities or a world without them.

The point I am making is that we made it up from the wisdom intelligence and experience of a very small child.

Some of our deepest experiences we use as references for our current reality are completely subconscious and run our adult life today

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Gary De Rodriguez

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You can do mind maps for just about anything.  I did a mind map here of what we were going today.  So I do this to program my subconscious so that, once I get it down in mind map form I have very little requirement to use my conscious effort to remember it.  It imprints the subconscious mind because there is movement, there is color, there is detail.  If you look at this, does it look like a cell with neuropathways around it?  It almost looks as if you’ve created a thought form out on paper with neuronetworks around it.  Is that true?  Somehow, I believe mind mapping is about creating a visual representation of what is actually occurring physiologically in the brain through the focus of your mind.  What you’re doing is you’re sending a very visual signal, which is how we take in a great deal of the information to the brain saying Go here. 

 

You can simply mind map on one particular topic.  I am showing you one way to mind map.  Dreams into reality then your accomplishments for the following day so that you can learn right up front from the get-go how to keep a daily mind mapping journal.  What I do is I do them daily as often as my energy holds out for.  Oftentimes I will write, like I had you write – get into outcome – my whole outcome is to get you into the emotional state to impress the subconscious with your outcome.  If you can get there through writing a paragraph before going to bed… How many of you know that there are different times when you go to sleep and you’ve got the energy to do stuff right before you go to sleep and other times you’re pretty toast for the day.  Rather than saying, ‘Oh, I’m just not doing the mind mapping at all’ I’m giving you a little exercise where you write a paragraph of how your day is going to be tomorrow.  Get into emotional outcome and then go to sleep.  When you have time, which I strongly recommend that you do, you take the time.  Do your mind map right before you go to bed.  Or do your mind map sometime during the day and then I’ll show you how to do the arrows, which is the vehicle to the emotions right before you go to sleep at night.

 

Can you do this on a computer or is it better is you do this actually feeling the letters being written?  Yes, feeling the letters being written, using abundant color, using the flowing lines, using three words printed per line.

 

On those days where I go to bed and I’m extremely beat from the day, just writing out a paragraph.  Yes, that’s what I would do.  I would recommend that.  The whole point is to awaken the emotional self to be in the state of outcome. 

 

The other night I was very, very tired.  I made another choice other than a mind map.  So what I did is I went to sleep imagining your faces coming up to me at the end of the training saying, ‘That was the best experience I have ever had.  My life is completely shifted.  I got it!’  I was imagining you coming up and saying that to me.  That was how I went to sleep in the emotional state of feeling the fulfillment of having that happen.  Are you with me?

 

So there are different levels of being burnt out.  So when you get to the side where you’re fried and you’re burnt on both sides at least imagine with your mind the outcome of your day and then go to sleep.  Remember: do not pass up the opportunity to impregnate your feminine self with the seed of your outcome for the following day.  Why pass up a good time?

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As I sit here late at night at my computer there is one glaring theme that keeps ringing in my head to write to you about and share.   “Our success is in direct portion to our ability to be relationship with others.”   I have been contemplating the deeper and more generative meaning of this statement for a long time.  

If there is one thing I have learned through the years is that life is not a solo journey.  It is done in relationship to many others.   Business here in Australia is fundamentally based upon who you know and yes, you require having a great product or service but rarely, at least in my experience, have contracts ever shown up at my door and asked to come in.  I’ve required to go knocking and through the relationships I have established through the years doing business in Australia, my relationships have always opened the doors to amazing possibilities.

It is fundamental to our success in relationships that we discover the common ground amidst the seeming differences and establishing mutual understanding between people and communication styles whether that be between parents and children, life partner to life partner, husband to wife or director of a large organization to the upper management.  Relationship success means: establishing the sameness between people and witnessing what is inclusive rather than exclusive. The foundation of recognizing the power of your relationships is and forever will be everything to your ability to succeed.

As I work with more and more organizations in both Australia and the United States there is inherent in all the problems a organizations may face, the ever present issue of communication between people.

Organizations spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on systems forgetting that it is the functionality of the people and their relationships with one another that actually make the systems work.   

So how do we bridge the differences between the viewpoints of people who come from such life reference points, each with their individual body of evidence that convinces them that how they see the world is right and correct?

The answer is the CONVERSATION.  My particular brand in conducting corporate training is the ability to facilitate the difficult conversation.  As I continue to facilitate groups in holding the conversations to discover the mutual understanding, the unspeakable is finally spoken and strategies discovered that will finally move the group to action and resolution.

The same holds true for couples, parents and children, any form of relationship success will be based upon this one fundamental principle.  It is so basic, so simple yet most people find it the most difficult thing to do.  

As I watch the culture shift in organizations I am working with and the conversations happen that have been withheld for so long, I often stand in wonder of how beautifully simple and powerful people become when they master the art of the authentic conversation.  These types of conversations can transform companies, marriages, children and the world. 

Here is a brief outline for an authentic conversation.  Begin yours today!!!

The RULES:

1.       If there is problems in your relationships either professionally of personally it is because of the quality of the conversation.  Take responsibility for being half the problem.

2.       Do not interrupt the speaker when they are speaking.

3.       Be in physiological rapport with the speaker.

4.       If you disagree with speaker ask more questions so you can clarify their meaning.

5.       Acknowledge what is being said is valid from the perspective of the speaker and that you can understand how they could feel that way.  

6.       After the speaker is complete say: “May I add my perspective to clarify my position.”

7.       Stay out of defence.

8.       Watch your tone of voice and remember that 38% of the meaning of your communication is the tone of your voice.

9.       Stay out of sarcasm.

10.   Enter the conversation with the intention to empower enrich and clarify.

As I continue to facilitate building the bridges of communication between teams, executives and people struggling in their relationships I have come to one major conclusion.  The true sacred temple is the temple of our relationships.

It is here that we polish off the rough edges of our personalities and begin shifting out of the ancient programming of our past.  It is here that we can begin to create growth in ourselves and prove the evidence that we can and are maturing. 

Every conversation within every relationships is our point of power where we chose in that moment to become more than our past programming and demonstrate our well earned wisdom or we opt to further engrain the patterns of our past that keep us frozen in unworkable strategies that increase our frustration.

Find the common ground and discover the underlining truth that all people desire fundamentally the same things and hold similar values.  Establish what is mutually desired in all the differences between people and how they see their realities.  What you will find in the seeming differences of people is the same heart, with the same desire for peace, joy, love and connection.  HOLD THE CONVERSATION YOU HAVE BEEN AVOIDING. 

 

 

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