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How We Think

When we can understand how something works we can fix it, modify it and improve it.

It is almost like programming a VCR or tuning up a car.  If you have an owners manual, or an instruction manual you can make adjustments that will bring you the desired results.

Without an owners manual we generally remain a little lost in how to modify ourselves and get what we desire. 

The primary knowledge that every person on the planet requires to have is the fundamental understanding of HOW to operate their perception of reality to create more heaven than hell with maximum fulfillment. 

The questions we require to ask ourselves are HOW are We Doing it? How can we do It differently?  How can I fulfill my destiny and purpose and obtain fulfillment? The understanding of these simply questions is the purpose of this article.

We have resting underneath our craniums the most powerful computer on the planet capable of operating millions of functions simultaneously.  We utilize approximately 10% of our potential consciously with the other 90% latent at the subconscious.

If 90 % of who we are rests at the subconscious level it only makes sense that if we are to effect change within ourselves, our organizations and families we would require to know how to effect that change at the subconscious level within ourselves first. 

Now the subconscious mind is a very interesting part of every one of us and is likened to an infinitely powerful reality generator which is operating all the time.

To potentialize our success and our fulfillment do you think that it would be useful to learn more about your subconscious mind?

As you continue to delve into the content of the following chapters you will discover many sections filled with the operating instructions to harness this power within you.

As I worked with individuals and organizations throughout the world there is a reoccurring theme which lays at the foundation of why they have sought consulting or coaching.  A underlining river of issues that stops people from creating fulfilling and functional relationships, establishing rewarding careers, and most importantly growing in compassion and regard for themselves.

This river of unresolved impressions that halts possibility is the culmination of what each one of us has experienced, what we made up about those experiences and how we continue to out-picture our beliefs and perspectives and project them onto our partners at home and in the office.

Our childhood experiences: the triumphs and tragedies of all we experienced while growing up are the foundational blueprint of what we have built our personality upon and what at a subconscious level guides our emotional landscape and governs our behaviors. 

We were born into a specific genealogical line, the combination of both our fathers and mothers issues colliding into one household and creating a environment which would help form the you that you became.  The ecology in which we found ourselves as children was made from the complex emotional environment handed down through the generations and culminated in the personalities of our mothers and fathers which they carried from their childhood. 

This combination became the laboratory where we constructed our model of our world.   Some of what we made up and modeled from our parents will be the best of who we are and some of what we modeled will cut at the very root of our life fulfillment and our ability to have emotional freedom from over-responding emotional states and inflexible perceptions. 

Every person I have worked with for the last twenty five years, from top level executives in billion dollar corporations to students in massage school, have at the root of their life issue these sacred wounds from their mother and father as the underlining reason their life becomes out of balance, relationships become unmanageable and self worthies unstable or plummets altogether. 

Life consistently desires to express itself and evolve itself.  What we have un-healed and out of balance within ourselves manifests in the dynamics of our professional and personal relationships.  As we believe so it is and how we think and what we dwell upon we increase within our current experience.  In our perceptions our teams at work strangely remind us of our family dynamics, or our life partners become strangely similar to either our Father or Mother or both at a subconscious level.  All we know is that we feel the old fear again, shame again or anger again.  We can only experience our current reality through the filters of our past culminate experiences, so if our past has unresolved emotions linked to it, if our past relationships remain unresolved and painful, we will carry more of a reactive perspective to how we deal with the dynamics of our families or the relationships in our professional organizations in which we belong. 

Self awareness is the foundation to sustainable leadership through the deeper understanding and exploration of HOW we are constructing our perceptions and attitudes.   There are over one hundred techniques for harnessing the power of the mind for leaders contained within the science of Humanistic Neuro linguistic Psychology.  It is the science of Self Leadership and the foundation for the natural leader.

Join me tomorrow for another great blog!

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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How We Think

Through the years of my career I have worked with thousands of individuals around the world as a Corporate consultant, trainer and coach.  I have utilized the tools of Humanistic Neuro-Linguistic Psychology to create change at the deep structure of my client’s personality rather than coach for accountability of my clients. The concepts presented in this article blends leadership principles together with the foundational qualities of HNLP so individuals can achieve the fulfillment in their lives, organizations and families, that they seek and deserve. 

Humanistic Neuro Linguistic Psychology is literally the owners manual for your mind.  Humanism is a belief that each person is infinite possibility and potential.  Neuro refers to the science of how our nervous system receives millions of bits of data input from the external world and deletes, distorts and generalizes that data into our awareness consciously.

Linguistics stands for the language we utilize to symbolize our thinking patterns and experiences and how our language shapes our reality.

Psychology refers to how the data is received and meaning given to it, language wrapped around our experiences and the patterns of behaviors that develop over time becoming our unconscious strategies for our lives and relationships.

As I progressed in my career and experience, I begin to hold the principle that in order for an individual to function optimally whether they are a parent, spouse, CEO or family member we all require leadership skills.  We all belong to some form of an organization and generally we all will belong to a large array of different organizational structures requiring us to participate in different roles in our family systems to our business systems.

Seventy-five members of the Stanford University School of Business Advisory Council unanimously agreed that the most essential ingredient for the development of true leadership was “SELF AWARENESS.”

Self Awareness requires self exploration whether we are a member of a fortune 500 company, building the culture of the organization or a new mom who desires only the best influence for her child.  The greater self awareness the greater of a leader is born out of the quest to understand oneself.

To be continued tomorrow

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Change

Greetings

I’ve been sitting here at my computer and yes it’s late here in Santa Fe. I’ve been thinking about what I will write, that will be meaningful for people at this intense time in our history.

I have received so many calls and e-mails about the chaos that is surrounding many of our lives.  It is as if life has speeded up and accelerated at an alarming rate. 

I know that in my own personal life there have been so many people very close to me that unpredictable catastrophes have occurred to where their entire lives have changed over night.  

So within this newsletter I desire to offer some tools for dealing with Life Changes.

Not long ago, I was conducting a private tele-class for my Master Mind students and I invited my friend Sean to be the guest for the tele-class and interviewed him for the benefit he offers people in dealing with hardship.  I believe he is the only person I have ever had as a guest presenter for my tele-class. 

Sean and I met a few months back when he had called my office and asked if I would work with him conducting a two day one on one breakthrough session for him.

During my work with Sean I realized what an extraordinary young man he was.  I walked away from the experience with him being inspired, moved and deepened by my association.

Sean had experienced an awakening; a pivotal turning point in his physical, emotional and spiritual life from an event that would wreck havoc on his body but awaken his spirit.

Sean was electrocuted by a freak accident which caused profound spinal damage causing his mobility and confinement to a wheel chair.  From the electrocution his body burst into  flames which caused severe burns over 60% of his body.

During the tele-class I asked him many questions about his beliefs and values, but the one question I asked that night was to give the master mind students some wisdom of about dealing with difficult times and how to transform them into the secret gift that is contained with them.

Sean said and I will paraphrase: that through his physical anguish of the burns and being immobile for long periods of time he knew he simply had to be fully present in the experience of the pain and chose to create happiness.

Through all he has been through he stated that NOW like never before he can honestly say he is awake, aware and truly happy.  It is a choice.  We are not our bodies or our things, or our professions or our money.  At the time of each one of our transitions it will be the wisdom we have nurtured and matured within ourselves, the lives we have touched, the humanity we have expressed to those around us and the love we have expressed.  We must choose to be happy so we can inspire others with an empowered attitude of possibilities.  When a door closes, know that several more are opening.    

When Sean laughs it’s as if every cell of his body is laughing from the souls of his feet to the top of his head.  Can the circumstances in our lives be transformed to a choice of happiness?  I think they can. Sean is extraordinary but so is everyone one of us.

Here are some questions I invite each one of you to ponder and to take out a pen and paper and journal your answers.

1. What really matters to you?

2. What are the emerging possibilities that your life is asking of you now?

3. What do you truly love?

4. Imagine going out in to your future beyond the current difficulties to a place when the current situation has been resolved and look back to the current situation and write down what you know to be the truth.

5.  What are some foundational steps in action you are willing to take so you begin shifting your attitude toward possibilities and flexibility in your behavior and perception?

6. Who are your core partners in creating your future with you? 

7. What are willing to do in the next two days to begin creating a new direction for you?

I will leave you with a quote from the Hopi Elders:

“There is a river flowing now very fast.
It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid.
They will try to hold on to the shore.
They will feel like they are being torn apart, and they will suffer greatly.

Know the river has its destination.
The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off toward the middle of
the river, keep our eyes open, and our heads above the water.

See who is there with you and celebrate.

At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally,   least of all
ourselves!
For the moment we do, our spiritual growth and journey comes to a halt.

The time of the lonely wolf is over.
Gather yourselves!

Banish the word struggle from your attitude and vocabulary.

All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration.

We are the ones we have been waiting for.

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Time & The Human Mind

All that exists is part of one family called life.  Within each of us is the opportunity to create our heavens or our hell’s by the choices of what we dwell upon, language and imagine.  Through our innate ability to create our reality we spin out our own unique worlds mirroring what we believe to real, language and imagine repetitively, thereby conditioning our nervous system for less choices.

Events in our life are empty of meaning.  We ascribe the meaning to the events we experience through our five senses and create the emotions that drive our behavior.  Through our behavior we are responded to by the world and our beliefs and identity begins to form and harden.  Our thoughts, words and the emotions we produce as a result determine what our experience of our world’s will be.  It’s the choices in our thoughts words and actions and the focus of our minds that create our perceptions, our worldviews, and our direction as an individual and a species collectively.

We have each been gifted with the magnificent vehicle, the human form, with more neurological possibilities than there are grains of sand on all the beaches of our planet.  The one question we are being asked to answer is: what am I really here to do? What is my purpose?  Are we here to accumulate wealth, power, raise our children and grand children or did we each come with a specific purpose that only we can fulfill, a larger vision specific to ourselves? All our relationships and accomplishments are part of our purpose but is that our true soul’s mission or is there something more?

The question

Recognize that there are many human values, opinions and morals on this earth.  Celebrate the diversity of humankind. Appreciate the beauty of difference.  It is in our differences that we are truly one. We are one unlimited, intelligent, creative species full of genius, truth and knowledge.  Rather than find conflict in our values and beliefs, let us find the fruits of unity.  All systems of thought  whether religious, political or cultural are guiding means, not absolute truths.  Human life is more precious than any ideology or doctrine.  Peace can only be achieved when we honor and respect the choices of others in the systems they choose to guide their lives.

If we accept everything in life as our teacher, we are open to observations of ourselves and of our world.  Remember that each individual walks a different journey, a different path, and therefore lives within a different reality.  We get to acknowledge the individual life experience as an adaptation to life circumstances with the best life skills they had available at the time. We accept that people can change when taught the current life skills available.  With this change the individual empowers themselves their friends, family, community and the world at large.   Peace is an inside job.  Until the individual resolves the war within there will be war without.  A road to Peace lies in the choice of perspective that life is sacred.

Perception is projection.  If we experience life as sacred then we will experience the world and people we encounter as sacred. What we see in another we harbor in our hearts.  We can only recognize the qualities that we possess.  If we harbor anger, our anger at others is anger at ourselves.  Our relationships are mirrors to reflect back to us those qualities which often lay outside our conscious awareness.  When aversion arises in our minds, we have the choice to project it out to another or utilize it as a tool for introspection and personal discovery. 

There are two things that motivate human behavior: Love or Fear.  Our behavior as well as others behaviors are a deep call for love or love.

We are in charge of our minds therefore our results.  What we habitually dwell upon we become more of.  Our life results are in direct correlation to the focus of our minds.

Our parents didn’t do it to us. We have a choice how we allow their behavior to affect us.  They have done the best they can do with the resources they have available to them.  The sooner we stop condemning them the sooner we can get on with the job of living our lives.  Our reason for being ( our life mission) lies in the metaphor of our parents lives.  There is purpose and order in the universe. A strand of DNA can duplicate a human body. A seed of an oak tree holds the leaf size, trunk texture, and canopy width within an acorn.  The planets are orbiting in this grand dance called gravity.  There is order and purpose in life.  When it comes to our families and our own life, have we ever asked the question why this family? why these parents?  There is a reason, there is order and purpose to why you came into the family you did.  Look to their lives and look at what their lives are saying to you about how to live.  What to do and what not to do. 

Move the focus of your minds off the story of what you did or didn’t receive from them to what their lives are saying to you about life.  Take their life lessons and make different choices.  Many times our parents lives show us the road not to take.

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Change

Through the last fifty years of leadership study, leadership scholars have modeled the most effective leadership strategies of the great leaders of our time, attempting to create a leadership strategy that can be utilized by all.

Although modeling others greatness can add to our knowledge, it is not us.  It is not our life experience, our hearts, and our spirits that can be remolded into another’s life lessons.  Can we learn information? Yes.  But if that is all we are bringing to the table of our teams and organizations then the people with whom we are choosing to have the greatest effect upon will sense the inauthentic foundation to our leadership abilities and we will exhibit an imitation of leadership rather than leadership qualities grounded in experience that people will desire to follow.

To distill the wisdom from our life experiences with humanity and heart is the true core quality of sustainable leadership.  Once you have master the ability to take your wisdoms and mold them into relationship strategies, communication and negotiation models with a deep desire to honor all, then you are beginning to birth forth and mature your authentic leader within.

There are three laws to awakening your Authentic Leader within.

Law #1 = Your relationship with yourself.

This law is essential to mastering the other two laws and is foundational to a balanced life between work, family and your life purpose.

Have you cleared the skeletons out of your closet? Have you transformed your limiting beliefs and fears from your past?  Are you more reactive than proactive? Are the filters that you perceive life through clear of the distortions of your past or are they so muddled with your past unresolved issues that much of what you experience internally is a repeating pattern of responses that do not reflect who you really are.

The first law is = Master your mental and emotional self and bring your word, thought and actions into alignment with your highest values so you live from congruence and consistency.

Law #2 = Your relationship with others.

This is were the rubber hits the road in all factors of leadership.  You must have masterful relationship skills, communication skills and conflict resolution skills.  If we do not have our internal emotional worlds matured, we can never become the leaders we are called upon to be, either in our families or organizations.

Have you mastered the models of effective communication?  How often do you insist upon an authentic conversation with those around you who are hiding their agendas?

Do you know what to do when people are creating their secret emotional contracts with you and holding and projecting their agendas on you without your knowledge?

How do now handle all the unspoken demands upon you? How do you now deal with the hallucinations of others that are placed on you daily because of your position, both in your organization and your families?

All leaders require the best tools to navigate their way through the landscape of relationships.  This is the #2 focus of all effective leaders.

Law #3 = Your relationship to the Sacred

Have you forgotten who you are and what brings peace to your heart?  This is the law of re-grounding yourself in the experience of what all your efforts are for anyway?

Who are you? What have you really come here to do?  What is your purpose and mission in life?

At the end of the day we all will face that point in time when we will stop and wonder did we really do what our souls came here to do or did we waste our life accumulating wealth and power but our hearts are filled with fear and there is a deep knowing somehow we missed the mark?

This is the law that is very personal to each person but it is to ground ourselves in our personal relationship to whatever we consider sacred for ourselves and develop a relationship of connecting to It, and being part of a larger purpose that is greater than our desires.   

Integrating these laws into your everyday life is essential for effective living.  Every leader has abilities they have developed through the course of their life experience that has gotten them to where they are today.  These 3 Laws are the ways to take you to the next level of life balance and fulfillment.

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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