Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

Just had a incredible day in the wilderness of wild New Mexico amidst thunderstorms, rainbows, meditation, mule deer and aspen tree forest. Truly makes me grateful for the life that I have been given. I realized so much of my time is spent writing, teaching, lecturing or doing research but too little creating the bond with the natural world. So I stopped and went to the woods and listened so my essence could beat with the rhythm of the Mother. Just thought I’d share the idea that to stop, be still, and remember your center will return you to you very quickly.
Have a amazing day
Gary

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This life we are leading as our current identity is a spiritual journey in the greatest gift we could be given, the Human form.  The secret wisdom of this journey is incased within the window of the family systems we were born into.  We have each created a soul contract with our mothers and fathers to utilize this earthly relationship to deepen our own relationship with the divine. 

 

 

 

 

 

Our family systems provide us with a laboratory of joy and pain that can be now used to awaken in us our deepest core wounds for their transformation.  Through this awakening we travel a path of finding the answers and creating the healing we require so that we can return ourselves back to love.

Our family dynamics was designed and created out of love no matter how our family systems manifested itself in this physical reality.

We are not the victims of this family dynamic.  We can rise above the ancestral dynamics and live life from the perspective of being the designer of own destiny.

 

The ancestral buck stops with each one of us.  We can learn to be co-creators of our reality and take a stand for creating balance with ourselves, our families and our communities.  We can rise above our ancestral influences and live life from the perspective of choice rather than a victim of a family or world based in chaos.

We can then pass this way of living on to our children and future generations creating a movement of personal accountability from the very young to the aged.

   

By healing the ancestral patterns we celebrate the perfection of the order of life.  We came through the perfect parents who co-created the perfect circumstances to wound us in the perfect way and create the dynamic tension that each of us would begin the quest towards self actualization and realization.

The divine order of our family dynamics allows our soul to mature and awakens us to the opportunity to evolve and celebrate.

  

 

Once we learn the tools from the science and technology of Humanistic Neuro Linguistic Psychology to still the story of our past we awaken the inherent wisdom that is within each individual  and we can arise and mature.

The paton is within our hands, the technology is available, it is time to transform our ancestrial patterns and awaken to the individual we came here to be: 

Accountable, empowered, contributive, loving and compassionate to all living things. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

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The trip to Australia has had its challenges, as well as fantastic possibilities, that could shift the paradigm of how I have travelled my career path to this point.  The question I am often asked by clients is: “why after I have set my goals, done  the inner work and outer preparation, what do I do when I don’t get the results I expected?”

As I have worked with clients, this nagging question has repeated time and again by nearly every client.  The question of “what do I do when it doesn’t work?  What do I do when I have done my best and the results are still not evident.  There is a beautiful presupposition of NLP that states that there is no failure only feedback.  We all have the ability to  retain all of our learning’s  from our experiences as we enact and become more and more flexible in our behaviors. What is required is to become more creative, curious and strategize massive action so we achieve our outcomes.

The greater your flexibility, the greater leader you become.   When I face this question in my own life I have a strategy for it which I desired to share with you. 

Step 1 = I refuse to wallow in self doubt.  I frame the experience as feedback and say to myself that there is something I have not seen, some knowledge I require or some alliance I require to make.  I know the circumstances are showing me a blind spot that I have had. My commitment to myself is to increase my ability to educate, inspire and train millions of people before I dance out of the mortal coil.  Reframe from wallowing in self doubt, frame the experience as feedback and become curious.

Step 2 = I ask myself: what resources do I have? What relationships can I contact for ideas or assistance?  What have I not done, that if I did it would make all the difference? Where have I not shown up 100% that has caused this circumstance?  Be courageous with yourself and lessen your pride.  Ask for clarity and ideas from the ones you trust and be willing to receive the feedback to help you break out of your tunnel vision into a new way of expanding your perspective.

Step 3 = Do the inner work.  Do an authentic evaluation of your core beliefs, secondary gains, values and emotions that may be hindering the realization of your goals.  Take responsibility.  It doesn’t happen to you it happens from you.  You are your own reality generating machine and you are part of the equation of the reality you are manifesting.  Knowing NLP, you can decode your nervous system from core memories using the Memory Resolution technique.  Change your limiting beliefs using time based techniques, submodalites and the 90 day new belief manual.  Conduct a values elicitation and verify your goals are aligned to your top five values.  Do the inner work.   Commit to learning the NLP skills that makes everything work, and commit to travelling your life journey fully equipped to manage your mind therefore the results in your life.

  Step 4 = Model the excellence of others who have done what you desire to create in your own life and explore how they have accomplished their results. It is important for you to understand the steps that have worked in the past so that success was achieved.  Adapt, become flexible, intertwine your ideas with the ideas of the masters and geniuses of our time and follow their steps. Never giving up until you reach your outcome.

  Step 5 = Base your outcomes anchored to a higher purpose.  You will have unstoppable power and endless energy to achieve your outcomes if they aligned to your highest values.  Be aware that the end of the day the only thing asked of you at the time of your death is “How much love and devotion did you develop for the life force that animates all of us and how did you demonstrate that love to others in your life. Leave a Legacy and make a very light footprint on our earth while giving massively.  Know that operating in our lives is a force that unconditionally loves each and everyone one of us.   

Fear is the mind killer.   You are infinite possibility in the physical form, claim your birthright and activate your flexibility in thinking and behavior.  You will then create the greatest contribution to whatever system you belong, whether it be a family or organization. Envision your life leaving a legacy that can last for generations to come.

What I have learned on this trip is, when life does not happen as you expected it would, it is a fertile environment to kick into your highest level of flexibility and possibility.  There is rarely an outcome that you cannot achieve.  Never give up in the realization of the goal.  Find new ways, new paths to create the change you desire and take massive action.   Know as well, that there is something higher at work in all of our lives. May you practice surrendering over the results of your efforts to a Higher Power. Ask ultimately that whatever your life expression creates, people are touched, and you have made the contribution you came here to make.

 Many Blessings and Happy Happy Holidays!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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Events are empty unto themselves and our perspectives ascribe the meaning to them which will either transform them into personal and professional benefits or perpetuate our distortion.  Our distortions are generated from the collective experience of our past, therefore the First LAW for a Fulfilling Life is: Transform your past to be Your Greatest Ally for Your Future.

 For any of us to be successful, personally and professionally, we require powerful and trusting alliances within our relationships.  The primary hierarchy of importance in our relationships is first, relationship to oneself.  The second is relationship to others, and the third is relationship to a deeper purpose for which your life contributes back.   Relationships with others are based upon our ability to effectively communicate and our communication is based upon the level of rapport and trust we are capable of establishing.

 One extraordinarily important principle for organizations and families to recognize is each member of the organization affects others and will enhance or contaminate the culture.   According to the Heart Math Research Institute, each individual emanates a resonate field of energy measurable by science that affects other people around them.  This resonate field is created by the overall emotional states the person feels continually.

 The health of your family or your company is based upon the collective thinking patterns of the members within it.  Each person affects the whole of the environment in which they dwell, whether it is home or office, with their thoughts, the language that represents those thoughts and the emotions they produce as a consequence.  Does it make sense that fundamental Life skills to transform thinking and emotions are required for our personal, spiritual and financial success?

 I was conducting a series of trainings for a prominent pharmaceutical company in California in their global safety department, which consisted of approximately twenty highly skilled doctors and research scientists.

The VP of the department had contacted me and communicated that the culture within the department was sliding downhill fast.  The staff was under tremendous pressure with long work hours and impossible deadlines.  The extra stress of personality conflicts was the straw that would break the camel’s back. His primary concern was that he would begin losing his highly qualified staff he had worked so hard to recruit.

   I arrived on the grounds of the company which was like a mini city in its entirety.  With walking paths, child care, a gymnasium, a pool and overlooking the Pacific Ocean:  A rather stunning place to work.

 As I enter the training room and met the team I noticed one individual in the room who seemed defensive and withdrawn before I even opened my mouth.  The team was cordial, alert, but reserved.  As I began the presentation this one individual would barely participate, distracted others and was in overall resistance to learning the communication tools I was presenting. 

 Rather than leave a contaminating personality in the room with the other willing participants, I firmly, and respectfully, asked him to leave the training room.  With every organization I have the privilege of working with, I reserve this right.

 As soon as this doctor left the training room the entire room took a collective breath simultaneously.  The energy of the room relaxed and I observed the tension leaving the bodies of the members of the team.  I stood there wondering could this one individual have this much influence on the stress levels and the growing negative culture of the department.

 I merely had to ask one simple question: “How are you all feeling now?”

Like a monsoon of information, each person shared their frustration with this individual.  He was recently recruited and was one of the medical heads of the department which required much of the work to be approved by.  Story after story came forward about how difficult it was to accomplish the workload after his arrival and how the management could not see it.

 Resentment had built toward the VP, communication lessened because of resentment and the VP did not have enough information to take action. 

The remainder of the trainings went effectively and the culture shifted dramatically after the enactment of the communication tools which were taken onboard by the team.  The resistant doctor entered a coaching program with me, through the request of the VP.  The core experiences which drove his behavior were uncovered and resolved, resulting in him becoming a functional part of the team.  

 My belief is that people affect other people and each one of us has the responsibility to become fully matured in our relationship to ourselves.  By taking responsibility for our own emotional states, getting clarity, having effective conversational and negotiation skills while ceasing the destructive positioning for power and the need to be right, we can reach that mature state in our relationship to ourselves.  Each one of us requires to become fully self aware and have the tools to shift our beliefs, transform our past experiences to retain the wisdom rather than the resentment.  Each one of us requires to become fully responsible for the filters we see our world through, so that we can become as free as we can from over reacting emotions and distortions.

 We require to learn the art of entering into our communication with a genuine desire to enrich our business and personal relationships with authentic conversations and accountability for our emotional states.  When we exhibit flexibility in our approach to others, we view the diversity of other peoples’ perspectives, with understanding and grace, while creating peace within ourselves.

 Here are some foundational principles:

 Principles:

1. Be in physiological rapport with the other person so you have the ability to create an unconscious connection during the conversation.

2. Enter the conversation with the intention to clarify, enrich and empower yourself, and the other person equally.

3. Authentically desire that a win-win occur from the conversation.

4. Be accountable for your part in creating any disagreements in the situation

5. Be fully focused and completely present with the other person.

6. Know that you are creating your own emotional responses and that you have a choice.

 Before you enter a conversation that is important to you, clarify your outcomes with the following questions when you enter the conversation:

 Setting Outcomes:

1. What do you desire?

2. If we both got what we desired what would that look like?

3. What would be your highest choice for the situation?

4. What would it take to make us both feel great?

5. What do you require to feel like we both won?

6. What is your outcome for our conversation?

 Our relationships are the temple we reveal our emotional intelligence and our relationship with ourselves.  The more we can enter our conversations with awareness the greater our relationships will blossom, the more effective we will become and the higher our self esteem and self worth will rise. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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