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Knowledge

I truly believe that the continuation of learning is the very most important thing we can do with our lives.  I do my best every year to go and train with someone who I respect and honor to increase my own skills and knowledge and find new systems that dove tail into the work that I have been doing for so long. 

 A while back, I participated in a certification for myself in team assessment model.  I found the information and the trainers to be exceptional.  Some of you may remember when I sent out an invitation for the Mobius Model certification. Well, I went and found the information to be just what I was looking for.  A very simple yet powerful system for taking a group from conflict to possibility while discovering the group strength and designing the actions required to create the solution.  The Mobius Model is a communication model that moves us from a monologue consisting of praise and blame, claim and worry to a dialogue that establishes mutual understanding of the common ground that exists at the foundation of all conflict between people.

 Here’s the model in a nutshell: the model is an exploration of the possibilities that exist within the differences of perception between people.  Listen to understand not necessarily agree or disagree, and then seek the common ground and what is positive and missing that will benefit all concerned in the future. 

 As many of my readers have studied NLP we know that the map is not the territory.  Our perception is clouded, at best.  We can only see our perception of reality but not reality itself. When we come together in a team or partnership, we collide with different reference points and maps of reality, but there exists a common ground waiting to be discovered within all our differences.  The conflict is the birthplace of possibilities if we chose to practice deep listening.

 The art of perceptual positioning oneself in a relationship by practicing a three point perspective of others is vital to individuals who are choosing to lead.

Gregory Bateson says “that unless you can take three points of perception of another you do not have enough information to create an opinion.”   So we need to begin with the foundation of mutual understanding to seek and discover the common ground between people’s differences.  This inquiry unfolds possibilities and reveals the common ground that builds rapport and deepens our relationships.

 Relationships will be forever more the greatest heaven or the greatest hell we will venture into. I truly believe that in the hearts of people there is inherit goodness and beauty. The experiences that wound, can leave such lasting imprints upon us that they cloud our reason and perception so we cannot see the possibilities in our partnerships, our families and our teams. Relationships are the true acid test of where the rubber hits the road of what we learned in our life and how we demonstrate that learning so it can harden into our character through repetition of right action towards others.

 We are all seeking connection.  The practice of listening for what is the common ground between people’s differences is an act of choice that discovers the hidden patterns in our language, and the thoughts that connects us all in the quest for oneness.  

Love & Light

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Are You Awake?

Are you awake to what is possible?

The world is calling out for humanity to awaken to the great gifts it has been given, to awaken to the knowledge of the divine order inherent in our family systems. If we would take the time to understand them, the triumphs and tragedies of our ancestors are incredibly revealing. They reveal our soul purpose and help us to know we are made in the image and likeness of the Divine. By nurturing, studying and recreating our internal circumstances-our inner emotional world-we can empower ourselves to positively and permanently impact what is happening around us.

 Let this be the moment in history that you decided to stand up and be the most beautiful human being possible.

• Let this be the moment in history that you let go of that which you were attached to.
• Let this be the moment in history that you halted your obsessions with the mundane and with the things you could not change.
• And finally, let this be the moment in history that you decided to STOP WASTING TIME.

 How can we ever attempt to understand and overcome the conflicts and wars that exist on this planet until we each become accountable for winning the mini wars that exist within our own minds? People that operate from a place of pain, suffering, lack or any other unresolved emotion will not perpetuate success. They cannot create a real, lasting shift in culture or the dynamic between themselves and others.

When we understand the river of time which we are traveling, we will know that all things change constantly, and change is the only consistency we have. It is not the events that occur in time within our lives that cause the pain. It is the meaning we have assigned to those events that creates our Heaven or our Hell. It is the focus of our minds that either releases us or imprisons us. Time is like a river, and events in our lives are like leaves passing by us in the current. Which leaves do we choose to pick up and examine? For how long to we hold each leaf in our grasp? And which ones do we choose to let quietly float by?

What if you spend your time obsessing on the story of how it has been, yet the way it has been contains the exact circumstances that created and evolved you? What if you spend your life blaming, regretting and condemning the people and the secret teachers who have arrived to show you the way? What if it all happened out of a loving intention to evolve your spiritual wisdom and maturity?

Be the Love you are. Remain in the new story of your outcome. Create different internal representations-different pictures, sounds, dialogs and feelings-by imagining vividly enough to where you feel them deeply. Recreate your past with the power to redefine what has occurred, and distill the wisdom from your experiences with a blessing upon your lips for the ancestral teachers you have had and the order and perfection that is moving us all back to a state of Oneness.

If we can begin to re-language and re-imagine our experiences, we will think and feel differently about our lives and the human condition in general. We will remain in a more optimal and consistent emotional state that allows us the freedom to open and direct our imagination and focused mind toward what we truly desire to create in our world. We can then become the men and women we have always known we could be. We can then master the art of living in this world of seeming victimization as people who expect and direct the quantum field of possibility into existence based upon our freedom to cease the endless story of what did and did not happen. We will be free to create our future with compassion and fulfill what our ancestors could not. We will live with a blessing on our lips for all who went before us in our ancient ancestral lineage.

While existing within the density of our bodies in a world full of fear, all our experiences can culminate in the awakening to our divine inheritance.

Love & Light

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PEACE

If you have a flat tire on the side of the road, are you going to sit there and pray God will come along and actually fix your tire for you? Or are you going to use your legs, walk to the gas station, and get your tire fixed, knowing that God gave you the legs to do so?

Whatever you believe the power we call “God” to be, that power gave you imagination, language and the ability to evoke emotions, the key elements to conscious creating. For you are designed in such a way that every cell of your body hears every word you speak.

What if God looked down and said, “YES! Whatever you are dwelling on, whatever you are contemplating, I have no judgment! There is no death, and there is no good or bad. I am just one big ‘Yes!’ Whatever you ask for, the answer is ‘Yes.’ Disease and pestilence. Yes! Wealth and abundance. Yes!”

How weird, right? Or is it?

It’s all a belief anyway, so how do you know for sure? And IF the power we call God is like this-if God is this pragmatic-would it be useful to learn how to direct the mind?

As you observed in my story about the boy with cancer, language and collective agreement create huge shifts. From your emotional states you create an internal reality that affects your body as well as others around you. The question is, how will you manage this dynamic? Will you habitually harness the power of your word, therefore creating better choices around emotionally driven behaviors? Or will you follow the path of least resistance and continue with unbridled language and emotions?

When we think about our language, we require to be aware that our language is a symbol of the way we think. As if in a picture window, every word you speak, every non-verbal cue you give-no matter how subtle-is on display for the world to see. And what you say to others, verbally and non-verbally, deeply affects them. Remember, we live in a human ecology where each individual greatly impacts the world as a whole.

The presuppositions inherent in our language promote self awareness, keeping us focused upon the eternal now. Focused language creates huge impacts, not only on your immediate circle of influence, but on the world at large. It is a creative force in the most literal sense. Take comfort in the knowledge that you walk in this life with a purpose greater than what you may immediately observe.

Disciplining your use of language is akin to practicing urban Shamanism because it takes a great deal of focus to shift and transform it. I invite you to eliminate the practice of speaking to what has happened-to your “story”-and instead speak only to your eternal now. I also invite you to stop speaking of your fears about the future, and begin speaking in detail about the steps you are taking to manifest your desired outcomes.

In summary, conscious creation through the presupposition of language unfolds like this:

 You create small action steps that you can perform on a daily basis.

1. You begin to language your world according to your outcomes, exclusing fear based thoughts and communications.
2. In turn, you acquire greater control of your emotional states.
3. From these more stable emotional states, you acquire the motivation necessary to complete each step to manifest your outcomes.
4. As you begin actually manifesting your outcomes, your self worth increases.
5. As your self worth and influence increases, you begin to attract greater opportunities to yourself.

 It all begins with the discipline to harness the power of your word. By using language that is outcome oriented, you will find that you need to speak less often and with less urgency. When you do speak, it will be powerful; people will listen; and you will become a conscious creator.

Love & Light

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The Way We Think

It’s in the details

Specificity is a tenet of the NLP model of communication. The specifics of your speech produce the emotions you feel. When you speak with specificity, it awakens your emotions so that your subconscious can more accurately manifest your spoken word. When your spoken word is aligned with your heartfelt emotions, creation begins.

Have you ever sat in an audience and listened to a presenter speak from a place that was not connected to his/her heart? How did you feel when that happened? When a presenter speaks distinctly from the heart, what does it do to you? What would happen if every word you uttered was distinctly from your heart? How much more impact would you have as you walked in the world?

Of course, it’s easy to be “clever” with words. But being clever and speaking wholeheartedly are not necessarily the same thing. Maybe you know this already. How often have you held back in your speech because you sensed that such heartfelt words would have too powerful a result?

Your thoughts and your language are creative. As you think and speak, you produce emotions, and those emotions create new neuro-networks in the brain and throughout the body. The electrical charge from your thoughts will follow the path of least resistance, and through classical conditioning and repetition, those thoughts and repeated emotional states form deeper and more complex neuro-networks until they harden into your character. This is how you reinvent yourself physiologically over and over again. Using specific perceptual patterns unique to you, you have habitually thought, languaged, imagined, and felt “you” into existence.

This can go on forever, but it’s your choice “who” you will create next. When you are alert to the “specifics,” you stay emotionally connected to your language. Emotions are the key to creating new ways of creating the “you” that you desire to become. Vague, generalized language is a form of fear and does not produce enough specificity for your subconscious to manifest your word. Your subconscious mind interprets feeling as fact. By asking simple questions such as Who? When? What? Where? With whom? and How? you can produce the emotions that will manifest desired outcomes.

Stop speaking about the past and focus on your outcomes for the future using specifics. Experience the feeling of your dream already manifested. This will bring your future to now, manifesting your destiny with every word you speak.

Conversely, the less you use outcome specific language and the more you disconnect emotionally from your dream, the more you will distance yourself from your divine right to create your life from your heartfelt desires. When you speak with specificity, you begin to feel more deeply, more accurately, more powerfully. Specificity drives the emotional body. Once you understand how it is you create and what filters you are using to interpret the world, you can change how you create and filter in the future. You can manifest choice. This is the goal for all practitioners of HNLP because scarcity of choice is the greatest source of pain you will ever feel. And abundance of choice will be your greatest joy. Choose your language carefully.

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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PEACE

That is a credo I live by and I thought it was worth sharing with you before we discuss the power of language in this week’s feature article. Those of us who study the principles of NLP understand, on a very deep level, that language is much more than mere words we eject into our environment. Language is a force unto itself and it dwells between us, around us, and inside us.

As someone who spends a lot of time traveling and speaking to people all over the world, I’ve come to appreciate the power of language and its ability to transform people. But my real work comes when I am able to help people quiet the dialogue they have with themselves each day, when I can help them then recreate that conversation into something completely realigned with a new dream for their reality.

I am constantly amazed and saddened by how many people in the western world are living in war zone conditions, conditions occurring nowhere but in the grey matter between their ears. Our world seems so chaotic, so random, and so unfair at times that it is difficult to believe we each have the power to effect positive and lasting change. Yet until the individual resolves the war within, there will be war without. And until you align the language of your mind and the words from your lips with the reality you desire, peace cannot be.

So, I think the world really can become a better place, a few words at a time.

Love & Light

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