Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

When we use specificity we evoke emotions.  An example of vagueness is, ‘I’m going to change my relationship.’  Questions to ask are ‘from what into what’ – What is your outcome?  Where are you going?  State outcome, higher vision for the relationship.  I happen to be in an amazing relationship.  When I go off track and I’m giving the 411 on someone – whatever the really limiting thought would be, I am so beautifully asked, ‘what is your higher choice for that person?’  Is that your highest thought, Gary?  What is your highest thought?  Would it be great to have a relationship like that – where you’re supporting each other and keeping the focus to do good with the energy of your mind.  Would that be a good thing?

 

Create my dreams.  Into what?  Define your outcome and visions with specifics.  Make more money.  Your subconscious mind says, ‘Too vague, too vague.’  So you get to get specific.  I’ve been mind mapping a certain amount for a year and a half now.  I’ve yet to reach it.  I’m moving closer to it than I was before.  Mind mapping actually comes from Tony Bezanne who wrote the book on mind mapping.  Bob Stevens who I learned mind mapping from would say that mind maps he did 30 years ago, he’s getting results from now.  Plant the seed.  Have no attachment to when it’s going to sprout. 

 

Manifest my goals.  Define outcome by when and how.  

 

Heal my relationship.  Into what?  Define outcome and vision for the relationship.

 

How many of you have a higher purpose for your relationships?  Great.  When you write out a higher reason why you’re together, it creates a reference point for you to be able to really link from.

 

Heal my past.  Into what?  State outcome.  By when. 

 

Have the body I dream of.  What weight?  What size?  By when and how.

 

Our subconscious mind is programmed through our language, thought and emotion.  Repetition is the key to how our thoughts become manifest.  If we are habitually thinking and speaking in vague terms, deleting the specifics, we will habitually stay in process.  The reverse is true.  When we habitually focus on our outcomes with specificity we become masters of our destiny. 

 

In the language of distortion we’ve reduced vagueness by omitting personal and specific information.  By using distortion we speak non-personally, unrealistically, to avoid feelings.  Emotions are the key ingredient to having our word manifest.  Remember, our subconscious mind takes our language literally.  Examples of distortion: everyone and no one – who specifically.  Does what you are saying include or exclude all people on the planet who ever lived throughout time?  Everything and nothing.  What specifically?  Does what you are saying include or exclude all things that ever existed physically and non-physically throughout time?  Always and never.  When specifically.  Does what you are saying include or exclude all time from the beginning of time into infinity.  Everywhere and nowhere.  Where specifically?  Does what you are saying something that remains a constant forever?  Absolutely and perfectly.  Stops the possibility of having more.  Our subconscious mind requires specifics to produce emotions.  Emotions are required to imprint the subconscious mind.  Specifics in language produce emotion. 

Examples of vagueness – everyone really loves me.  The upgrade is on the following; they never did the best they could.  My mother, my father did the best they could.  I always feel this way in a relationship.  When I become intimate I feel vulnerable.  Everything is a mess.  My work station requires organization.  I can’t find a job anywhere.  I’ll continue to interview for my ideal career. 

 

Now, imagine if you walked around saying in your mind, ‘I can’t find a job anywhere.’  What are you going to manifest?  Have you ever seen a person who has been rejected over and over again for jobs and they walk in with their shoulders slumped and their head down.  Some of you have your own business and you hire and you know.  When a person walks in you know when they are present.  I absolutely believe in you.  I continue to believe in you.  I swam perfectly.  I continue to improve my stroke.

 

Speaking with specifics produces emotions.  Language spoken with emotion imprints our subconscious mind so our spoken word has the power to manifest.  When we use excessive generalizations in our language we disconnect from the people, places and things in our lives.  Excessive use of generalizations is one of the primary ways we stay disconnected from our feelings.  In the context of relationships, which occupy a great deal of our everyday lives, we tend to generalize excessively.  When we reference our relationships through vague language, some of which are pronouns, we stay disconnected and numb.  Our subconscious mind requires emotions in order to manifest our outcomes. 

 

Generalizations they and them – Who specifically?  He, Him and Her – who specifically.  It – what specifically.  The – what specifically and who specifically.  That and those – what specifically.

 

Examples of things through the language of generalization: They’ve always been like that.  In the past my mother and father have been abrupt.  It will get the results I desire.  My nutritional program will achieve the results I desire.  I have respect for them.  I have respect for my mother and my father.  Some day I will forgive him.  I forgive Jason.  I absolutely believe in you.  I continue to believe in you.  Some day I will really use it.  I am changing my language. 

 

Language of negation.  Our subconscious mind takes our language literally and personally.  When we use a language of negation we are speaking to what is not rather than to what is.  I will explain.  Whenever you begin a sentence with, I’m not, or it’s not or a negation like that, there is a huge red flag moving into your story.  As soon as you begin to start speaking a negation you’re going into your story.  So use that as a red flag for yourself.  When I start speaking in negations I’m going to start talking about my story.  I’m going to take this god-given power of mine, which is my ability to create my reality as I think it, feel it and language it and I’m going to take this preciousness that I have and I’m going to speak about the story.  And then I’m going to make more up about the story. And I’m going to live more out of my story.  And you know what.  You’re going to get the evidence that your story is true.  And that’s what happens.  Over and over again.  Until we wake up to the very system that we’ve been using, that we’ve already mastered, you’ve already done it.  You’re doing it right now.  Everything I’m speaking about you already know.  The only difference is your mind has been focused on the story.  And your language, which represents your thinking, which is a symbol of your thinking, has languaged it and continues to language it as if the story were still true.

 

I was on the radio Wednesday morning on KFNB and got lots of phone calls to the office and this woman called.  She was very, very sick.  Bedridden with MS and in excruciating pain.  I called her and I said, ‘I notice you called the office and you were inquiring about tapes.’  I sent her out the Life Purpose tape and the Master Your Destiny as a gift so she could just listen to those.  Before we hung up she spent at least 20 minutes on her story, telling me why she could not get well because if she got well it means her husband would win because he walked out on her and they’re in this horrible divorce.  She said, ‘I don’t get enough to eat.’  I said, ‘Here’s the phone number for Meals for Wheels.  Here’s the phone number for Mama’s Kitchen.  They’ll provide free food if you’re bedridden.’  And she said, ‘Oh, I can’t do that.  Because if the lawyers find out, they’ll think that I’m more able and then I won’t get the settlement that I desire.’  I’m getting those tapes to her!  And my highest choice is that she really understands how she is keeping her disease in place by the secondary gain of it all.

Please join me tomorrow for a continuation of this.

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1. There is only two things which motivate human behavior: Love and a call for Love.

 

 

2. The agenda of romantic love is to bring light to those childhood wounds left unhealed and to provide an environment to receive and heal those parts of ourselves.

 

 

3. Our behavior is our adaptation to loss.  Change is the catalyst for healing.

 

 

4. Our behavior has a positive intention given the resources we have available to us at the time.

 

 

5. We are in relationship with ourselves in the context of another.  Our relationships provide us with a mirror in which to see those parts of ourselves we cannot normally see.

 

 

6. Authentic communication is the key ingredient for a successful relationship.  If we are hiding our truth in relationship, we disempower ourselves and create a environment of resentment, projection and fear. 

 

 

 

7. Live from your personal life values with greater congruency between your thought word and deed. The more congruency, the stronger your personal identity.  The stronger your personal identity the healthier the relationship you will create.  You are the common denominator in your relationship history.  When you change your history in relationships will also change.

 

 

8. Understand you distort reality.  Begin your communication with the understanding that you see through your individual filters of your accumulated beliefs and memories.  Be personally accountable for the emotions you are creating based upon the meaning you are giving circumstances in your world.  The map is not the territory.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Today, we’re going to do a process called The Theater Of Change.  It’s based on the NLP phobia technique and one of my thoughts is that we are this amazing being that has a whole series of pictures, sounds and feelings via our internal representational systems and that these internal representational systems act as drivers for much of our behavior and how we hold our reality.  They create our heaven or our hell based upon what we focused upon.

 

What we’re going to do is shift the pictures, sounds and feelings of our past.  It’s going to happen by partnering with me. Based upon the focus of your mind and your desire you can make many changes to the history that has blocked you.

 

So those of you who have had in the past seemingly poor visualization skills, you actually have great visualization skills.  Just take the specific modality that you’re representing your experiences from, whether it’s kinesthetic or auditory, give a symbol to what those sounds or those feelings are and visualize that way.  Remember, the subconscious takes things very metaphorically and symbolically.  So imagine you are going to enter the theater of your past.  You wrote the movie, you starred in it, you produced it.  You are the maker of the internal representations of your entire experience from conception to now.  You made it up and you can edit the movie.

 

So when you’re ready to just allow yourself to go into a more focused and concentrated state within yourself just imagine yourself entering the theatre.  Uncross your arms and your legs so the energy flows freely in your body and we’re going to go inside your imagination allowing yourself the opportunity to allow those parts of you that know how to change to begin to change.  And what I’d like to suggest to your collective subconscious minds is that it now has an opportunity to begin to meet its highest prime directive by allowing a process that can be very quick and very powerful to begin to shift and change the unresolved emotions of the past in a way that is easy and comfortable, knowing that the highest prime directive of your subconscious mind is to preserve the body.  And as I speak to your collective subconscious I’d like to suggest to your subconscious to know that any stress caused by unresolved emotions is less than optimal for the human body. 

 

So as your subconscious mind begins to understand the opportunity it has, your conscious mind can begin to drift, drifting to a place of focused concentration where your conscious mind can begin to let go.  That’s right.  Just letting go in a way that’s right for you.  Letting go in a way that is comfortable for you as your subconscious begins to understand the opportunity it has now.

 

  So allow your  body to relax, allowing all the sounds you hear, and the sound of your breath entering and exiting your body, allowing yourself to feel the surface on which you’re sitting, awareness of how your hands, your arms, your legs, your feet are and allowing a sensation of just letting go.

 

And as you continue to focus your mind, imagine that you are now in a theater, a theater looking up at the screen and as you look at that screen, sitting in the theater, imagine a part of you, the observer part, the part of you that’s in control, can lift up out of that body sitting in the theater, and sit in the projection room of that theater. Your able to see your body watching the screen in the theater but your also sitting in the projection room.

 

 And imagine now being in the projection room looking down at your body watching the screen and just breathe and be there in the theater with your imagination.   We’re going to review a film.  This is the film of your life.  You starred in it, you produced it, you directed it.  You’re going to edit it now.

 

 I’d like to suggest to your subconscious mind that all of the positive learning’s from your life, is preserved in that place that you retain for such learning’s.  Allowing all of those learning’s to beautifully and generatively contribute to your life from this point forward.  Allowing your subconscious mind through the internal representations that you have carried up to now to begin to shift and change in such a way that allows you now to have a different set of pictures, sounds and feelings which promote and produce the necessary internal representations to fulfill your life purpose in the optimum manner, according to your destiny. 

 

So imagine now that we’re in the projection room and we’re going to watch the film of your life, the film from conception until now.  It will take approximately 3 minutes to watch this film. 

Now imagine in the editing room as we’re going to review your film that there is a very large white paint brush that is filled endlessly with white-out.  I’m going to ask you to run your film in a moment, because I think we can make a better one.  What do you think?  We’re going to run your film and we’re going to white out all the frames of the film that have had a negative impact upon you and your future, preserving all the positive learning’s from your entire life span of time.

The curtains are beginning to open on the screen, the part of you who controls things  can now be ready to flip on the switch of the projector and allow your  film to begin to roll from conception to now.

 

Are you ready to change things?  Begin now.  Turn the film on and run the film in Black and White only.  Review your life as it happened from conception or birth to now. Paint white paint on the film and start whiting out every single frame that is the history of what has been stopping you.

Do that now and let the film roll until the end which means you have reached now. 

 

We’re going to run the movie backwards.  And distort the pictures sounds and therefore the feelings of the movie of your life.  Only the characters, and the internal representations in this film that you desire to change are going to change, all positive frames of the picture will remain the same.  The scenes and characters you are changing will be speaking backwards, the sounds will be backwards creating a new sound track for the movie, the characters will be walking backwards.  You can place Mickey Mouse ears on each one of them and a ballerina skirts on each one of them.  Also coupled with this you can put an elephant’s trunk on the faces of every character you desire to change in this film. 

 

Are you ready to have fun with the past? Remember the only way the past is still alive is in just a series of pictures sounds and feelings. Start the movie from the present now and run your movie backwards, rewinding the movie back to the beginning at birth or conception and filling in the empty frames you desire to change with all the new characters and sounds and feelings. Run the movie in full color leaving all the positive scenes as they are.  Do it now. Repeat the above process three times by fast forwarding in Black and white adding a coat of white out to all frames of the movie that require to be re-translated and imagined until the movie looks great with empty frames and positive memories.  Rewind the film distorting the characters and making the movie in full Color, almost funny and rewind back to the beginning filling all the empty frames that use to represent your past pain into a fun character filled funny sounding movie of your new life..

 

  

Bring your movie back to the very beginning where you originally started.

The better you imagine the more successful the re-imprinting of the past.

 

Now we going to add more resources to the movie. So as you stand at the beginning of the possibility to re-imagine the characters, the pictures, sounds and feelings, creating a new sound track, creating new characters in bright, vivid color, in the color of your circle of excellence and oneness.  We are going to place the qualities of that circle of oneness and we’re going to create new characters of your past where all of the characters are behaving and acting out of their circle of oneness with the heart, the compassion, the connection and the love of the essence of who they have eternally been.  All characters will be performing out of their circle of oneness and true self.  And your new film will take on the color of your circle of oneness. 

 

Create this new film in bright vivid color with every character acting out of their highest connection to whatever is divine in life.  When you’re ready you will begin your new film based in the color and the qualities of your circle of oneness.

Begin re-imagining your life now in the light of all your finest qualities and run the movie up until now.   Once at now, begin to rewind your film at high speed back to the beginning adding in more color, emotions and beautiful sounds.  Back to the beginning. 

 

Now we’re going to run your film through again.  This time we’re adding Steven Spielberg special effects, the highest quality of special effects.  Thx sound.  Make it three dimensional.  Make wind blowing.  Make symphonies playing.  You are just going to enhance these pictures so vividly, so powerfully with so much emotion into every single aspect of this film.  When you are ready, run the film through again and put in the most amazing colors in the color of your circle of oneness and each character acting out of the script of following their circle of oneness.  Run the film again please.  Enhance every frame.  More powerful.  More loving.  More compassionate.

 

Now that we’ve created new internal representations of your past, let’s bring this process to a gentle close  and allow your attention to return  to the now.

 

Now why and how does this process actually work?  The only way you know that you’re you is by the pictures, sounds and feelings in your head.  That’s it!  You’ve got eye patterns that retrieve your memories and go, ‘remember – this is what happened to you.   What if your eye patterns retrieve memories where all you saw was your circle of oneness flowing through every single memory of your past? 

 

 

The next opportunity we can take to explore our ability to shift the internal representations of our lives, is the concept of time.  In the quantum field time really doesn’t exist at all.  It is a construction of measurement. Time is very much like a river of life.  If we become attached to very little, or avoid becoming obsessed with the mundane, or things we cannot change, we begin to us our focus of mind beneficially.

 When we understand the river of time we will know that all things change constantly and is the only thing consistent that we have. It is not the events that occur in time within our lives that cause the pain, it is the meaning we have given those events that create either our heaven or our hell. It is the focus of our minds that either release us or imprison us.

Time is like a river, and the events in our lives are like leaves floating past us. What leaves do we choose to pick up and examine. For how long…And which do we choose to let flow by us.  The answer to this question will determine our degree of happiness.

 

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