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I’d like to introduce you to a process that was introduced to me through an e-mail I received from one of my students and thought it was great as we set forward upon the journey into another year.  Here it is:

 At the end of each year develop a ceremony we will entitle “closing the year”.

Look back at what you’ve accomplished and learned, and get mentally ready for a great new year ahead.   

 
I suggest you spend some quiet time doing each of the following steps:

Step 1 Find a quiet place where you will not be interrupted.  Turn off your phones etc. Turn on some great “mind music”.  Grab a pen and some paper.  Write these things down.  Research has proven over and over that writing is so much more effective than typing this stuff into a computer.

Step 2 Take a look back at all the things you’ve accomplished and the great experiences you had this year.  Spend a few minutes making a list of everything you’ve managed to achieve. Write them all down … the big ones and the little ones.

Call this your 2006 “Victory List.”

You might be surprised at just how much you’ve accomplished in just twelve months.    Be kind to yourself.  Resist the urge to think of this exercise as selfish … it isn’t.  It is powerful.

Step 3 Rid your life of tolerations.  Take a serious look at the things you no longer want in your life; make a list of all the things you’d like to leave behind.

We all have things that get in our way.  We have things in our lives that are long past their ‘use by’ date. I call them “tolerations”. What have you tolerated (and continue to tolerate) that drain you of energy?

Are you willing to get those things out of your life for good … right now?

They include physical objects, poor habits, limiting beliefs, thought patterns that hurt us and others, and yes, even people we no longer choose to spend time with.

Step 4 Think about your dreams for the future. What do you really desire to bring into your life? What experiences would you like to enjoy? What new skills would you like to learn? What would you like to do? How would you like to be?

Make notes, draw a picture or speak into a tape recorder to help you remember your dreams.

Here’s where you might want to spend more than five or ten minutes.  Take as much time as you like dreaming about the future you desire.  See it in your mind.  Make vivid pictures of the way you want it to be.

If you don’t know what you desire, ask yourself the ‘miracle question’:

“If a miracle occurred during the night, and when you woke up tomorrow … everything in your life was exactly the way you’d like it to be, how would you know there’d been a miracle?”

What would you see, feel and hear that would let you know a miracle had taken place?

What are the things, experiences, qualities, and ways of being you’d like to experience more of in the future. Make a list of these.

These can be quite general: Spend more time with your family? Get fitter? Earn more? Learn more? Spend more time in the present moment?

List the things you’d like to attract into your life.

Step #5   Make a list of your goals for the year ahead. What would you like to accomplish? What would you like to learn? What would you like to get? Who would you like to meet? In what ways would you like to grow? What are you committed to this year that you did not do last year?

What really is the power of setting goals?  Think about this very simply idea:

 you have a much better chance of hitting a target when you know what it is.

Human neurology is goal-seeking – so access your incredibly powerful unconscious mind – and make a list of what you’d like to achieve in 2006.

Step #6  Read through your list of last years accomplishments. Congratulate yourself for everything you did right. Put this list (#2) on your left.

Read through the list of things you’d like to leave behind. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you feel you’ve made, and put this list (#3) on your left also.

Take the materials relating to your dreams (#4), and place them in front of you.

Review the list of things you’d like to attract into your life, and put this list (#5) on your right.

Read through your goals for the year ahead, then put this list (#5) on your right also (if you are left handed, lists 1 & 2 on your right and 4 & 5 on your left).

Imagine all the good feelings, thoughts and energies from your accomplishments coming into your body (you can visualize them coming into your body in any way you choose).

Step #7 Change something-anything. We all get stuck from time to time.  We require to learn to welcome.  We can so easily get stuck in a routine that makes our lives dull and boring.  Getting stuck is normal, staying stuck is a complete option!

What should you change?

It really doesn’t matter.  It can be a lamp shade, a bedspread, a piece of art, your route to work, your hairstyle, re-arrange your furniture, clean up your office, throw out all the junk … just change anything and change as much as you can manage.

Step #8  Who can you forgive today?  Forgive someone who may have hurt you.  Even if they are dead wrong.  Wipe the slate clean.  The biggest mistake we can make is to go into a new year with old baggage.

Reconcile all damaged relationships as fast as you can.  It isn’t easy … but it could be the most important thing you do all year.

Step #9  Forgive yourself.  So you weren’t perfect in ‘08 … take solace in the fact that no one else was either.  Forgive yourself and try not to make the same mistakes again.  You are a human being becoming … and you are special.

Step #10  Commit to a life of gratitude which is a wide open road to true and lasting happiness.  Spend more time being grateful and less time being critical.

Make a list of 20 things you are most grateful for.  If you get on a roll, just keep writing. Fill up a legal pad and write more. This is a powerful exercise and a great way to start a new year.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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We are all embarking into a dynamic and historical new year with one remaining question in my mind: What we will make of it?

Will we embrace the future ahead of us with open arms and know that flexibility, innovation and gratitude are the pillars of our ability to dance with change.  Or will we dive into our fear and run dark images of catastrophes ahead of us.  

Our heaven or our hell all comes down to choice.  The images we run in our minds, the language we are utilizing producing emotional states and driving our behavior.

My personal approach to this New Year is that this will be the best year of my life for relationships, business and living environment.  Whenever we are faced with the unknown we require taking massive action in the direction of what we desire to achieve and believe down to our depths that it is possible.

Here’s a great quote from the renowned architect Frank Lloyd Wright:

“The thing always happens that you really believe in and the belief in a thing makes it happen.”  

This is a extraordinary time in history when the structures of unsustainable consumerism is re-evaluating itself and as a consequence each of us requires to look at what is really important to us individually.

I can only share with you what has surfaced for me and my choice for this New Year ahead of me.   I know that possibilities remain endless and what I will make of this year ahead of me is up to me.  The critical factor for 2009 is my attitude.  My ability to focus, stay spiritually centered and curious about the power of relationship and the conversation.

Life has speeded up and changes are occurring more rapidly than ever before.  This translated means my thoughts are manifesting faster than ever before.  Which means I can make things happen?   

Where have we been loosing our energy to create the life we desire to create?  Worry will exhaust you, and fear depresses you.  Have you taken a stand for what is really important to you?

Stay curious about the possibilities in your life and forge stronger relationships filled with authentic, powerful and nurturing conversations. The time of the lone wolf is over.

This life we lead is a collection of snapshots in time of our consciousness.  What we chose to feel, think and be in our environments and relationships.  Now is the only moment of power any of us will ever have to become the person we deeply know in our souls to be.  Be the love you are today, in your next conversation, meeting the next stranger or sitting quietly alone. Kindness requires be extending and giving freely.

When all things are taken away from us, our youth, beauty, wealth or even health we have the collection of the snap shots of our life and the emotional intentions of our hearts to know who we are. 

This life is a profound journey of discovering what we chose to value and be attached to here.  We have tasted many experiences and stayed attached to our things and ideas about who we thought we were.  Buddha said: “You go where your attachments are” The Master I had the good fortune to study with India would say: “The last image in the screen of your mind is what you have been most attached to in this life and will determine your next birth.” We can go for wealth.  We can go for God.  We can live for our families or our attempt to sustain our youthfulness but whatever we are most attached to through our life will be the guiding force for our future. 

Watch the focus of your mind and let your thoughts originate from a well of gratitude for the blessing of your life, be considerate of others, mindful of your actions and know it is time to wake up from your dream of what the culture has indoctrinated into us.  You have this one opportunity to be you.   

Be like a lotus who blossoms with its face pointing toward the light and its roots deeply anchored in the mud below the river of your life.

We are magical beings who often times forget the power we wield and the sleeping wizard that lay’s within each one of us.  We are anything but helpless victims of a world gone mad.  We can chose to be awake observers of the changes destined to occur and focused upon the future like a child awaiting Christmas morning filled with opportunity and wonder.

It is a choice. 

My invitation is to us all:  Do whatever it takes to stay in the company of people who uplift you and avoid negative, toxic relationships, start a gratitude journal and list at least five things you are grateful for daily. Meditate and at the same time take massive action to create the life and contribution you desire to create. 

Stop wasting time.  Every thought and action is determining the overall snapshot of your life.   It is the moment where you can determine what you will focus upon therefore what you are attached too. 

The culmination of your life is the culmination of what you dwelt upon most.  See, think and speak possibility.  Stay focused on where you desire to go and if you find yourself off course, utilize it as feedback not failure and re-set yourself back on track once more.  

These are the times that bring forward all the learning we have integrated through our life experience.  Let’s demonstrate our wisdom in small and large ways through choosing joy rather than fear, possibility rather than hopelessness, creativity and innovation rather than stagnation and expansion and exploration rather than contraction.

The beginning of 2009 is the year to demonstrate who you have become so your future self is alive and well today in the brilliant New Year filled with possibilities and choice.   You are the one you have been waiting for.  Happiness is not in your future it is in your NOW.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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Miracles of Change

I have had a great, great time.  I am strongly suggesting and strongly inviting you to take this information and live it passionately, one-pointedly, and know that your breaths are more valuable than all the three worlds of existence, the astral, the causal and the mental.  We are meant to do our life work and the only thing that is staying between you and this miraculous expression that you are the still point in your ancestral line to do is a belief and a gathering of false evidences that your beliefs are true.  I believe it is time to live differently.  My invitation to you is you now know how to shift and change.  You’ve demonstrated it to yourself today.  You know how easy it can be.  You know how to sustain that change through the coaching of your own language and the alertness of it.  We are here as a team at the neurolinguistic training center to create support.  There are many things for you to explore.  My highest choice is that you take these tools and you use them.  Shift your own life and then demonstrate that shift in your actions, your words and your thoughts to the circles of people you influence and begin to create your own heaven on your own earth.  Because until you change your conception of yourself, the world will stay exactly the way it’s been.  And when you yourself, within yourself, change your conception of yourself, your world will begin to shift.  Collectively, there are people all over the planet doing this.  You will add to the collective of the hundredth monkey.  And we will collectively, when enough of us do it, the whole planet gets it.  When humanity begins to do a new behavior everyone gets it.  So I welcome you to the adventure.  It’s a good one.  And please take this information.  You have it now.  Keep it alive.

 

At night if your energy is very low, say to your subconscious mind, ‘Subconscious, work with my high self to remove the emotions and blockages to my abundance.’ This is a very powerful process.  When I do this I feel very different.  Now you have 3 to 4 to 5 techniques to assist you so you go to sleep at night in the most resourceful way possible.  There are no more excuses, you guys.  None.  Your life as now required to be magnificent.  You have the tools.

 

Close your eyes.  Take a few breaths.  Grandfather, Grandmother, we surrender over this information.  Let us take this information and from our hearts live it, speak it, act it, think it.  Let us allow this information in at the very deepest level.  In our dream states tonight let us awaken in us a new awareness of the power of our word, the power of our imagination, that we now know how to pick up the reins of the chariot that we ride in and we now choose to steer the horses of our minds in the direction of our highest ideals, fulfilling our life’s purpose and adding light to those around us.  We are grateful for having this knowledge.  We’re grateful for the community we are creating and we surrender over this weekend.  We now know how to tie the legs of our camels and we surrender the rest over to Allah.  Hometakquiasa(?)  Amen.

{Join me tomorrow}

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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Language of disempowerment: I want to go to the movies.  I am going to the movies tonight.  I will go to the movies tonight.  I choose to go to the movies tonight.  I will enjoy going to the movies tonight.  These are different levels of empowerment.  I can’t.  I can, I choose to, I will, I have the resources I require, I will create the resources I require.  I will create what I require to do the job.  It’s yet to be here but I’ll find out how to create it.  Rather than saying I can’t.  When you say I can’t what happens?  Do you throw yourself into the victim archetype immediately?  Do you cut at the root of the possibility of actually creating some of the resources that yet have been able to wake up in you?  When you say I’ll explore how I can create the resources I require to do it.  Do something other than go home and coach everyone around you.  Only coach if you are asked.  Get permission.  I just did this great seminar.  I learned a lot about the power of language.  Would you be interested in having some upgrades to what you just said? 

 

I was in a relationship working for months on how powerful my new relationship was going to be.  It was going to be so great.  It was about 8 months old.  So I came home from one of my trainings and I walked through the door, put down my bag – Hi, honey, I’m home.  And I heard, ‘We have to talk.’  So I sat down.  You’re too spiritual for me, you’re life is going in a direction I don’t choose to go, I’m moving out.  And you talk funny.  And pleaded with me to just talk normal.  Because this was really a co-dependent relationship.  And if I spoke in all the stuff I used to speak in, it would link in and hook that co-dependency.  I was so proud of myself because I generally I’ll drag out all my evidence that they were wrong and weigh it all out and make them feel badly.  What I said was, ‘You don’t see who I am.  Therefore you’re not the one.’  I had worked very, very diligently in creating a real partnership with someone.  And I personally thought this was it.  Three months later I met the person who was it.  The space had to clear out first.  And I worked diligently at creating a relationship because I was fully ready.

 

Unconscious language.  You really make me angry.  I create anger within myself when you do that.  I’m responsible for my feelings and what I make up about what you just said is….  This is very powerful because I was in a relationship once for 9 years with someone who was directly the opposite of everything I am.  And before I created this relationship I prayed to god, probably the only time in my life I ever surrendered and I said, ‘Bring me the relationship that will give me the greatest level of spiritual progress.’  I was very brave in those days.  So I create this relationship. Within three hours after that surrender process the relationship showed up.  Three hours was all it took.  We were together for 9 years.  I was so reactive and so unhealthy in this relationship.  When I got to the point – obviously somehow I get to be accountable for what is happening in my world here.  And I got this idea about filtering and so I thought I would apply it in my most tender place and the weakest place that I was – the place that had atrophied the most, which was the huge victim archetype in relationships – somehow I’m a victim of this person.  They’ve got control over my emotional state and if they don’t give it to me or if they do give it to me I’m either happy or sad.  My partner would do something and I would just get this huge emotional response to it and I’d just sit there silently and fume.  And then I said, ‘What you just said and did, I got really upset at and I’m responsible for the emotions I’m creating in myself and I’m giving meaning to what you just said and did and this is what I made up about it.  Could you give me clarity on what you meant by what you just did and said?’  And not once, not twice, not a hundred times, but every time I had the courage to do that and stay out of my victim and be emotionally accountable, every time I was 180 degrees off from how I interpreted it.  And that’s where a lot of this information started to come forward from.  When I began to realize that in that environment where I was the most reactive and wounded and I started to take accountability and began to question to get clarity, I was completely off.  And we do this.  We mind read a lot.  And we mind read out of the hurt and wound of our past through our filters.  Ask for clarity, you guys.

 

My dream is that you will make me happy.  My dream is that I create my happiness and you create yours.  When you think about language and you think about the words like I need and I want and I’ll try and I don’t know – if we could just take those four out of our conversation – why do you think need, want and I don’t know are so pervasive in our conversational language?  The words dissociate you from a focus and they place you in the victim archetype.  They are literally the language that takes all the strength and power out of your ability to actually achieve.  When you say I deserve it presupposes a time when you didn’t feel deserving.  So when you say I claim, I create or I am it takes you out of the context of either deserving or not deserving.  It just is.  What used to take me a private session half an hour or 45 minutes to get to with neurolinguistic programming, I get to within 10 minutes with a client through their language, just from what they speak and the presuppositions that is behind the language they choose to use.

More to follow tomorrow on this subject!

Love & Light

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

 

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