Why do you say NLP is a science?

This information is not metaphysical mumbo jumbo or blind faith. It’s how the neurology works.  If you know how something works, you can do things to adjust it.  But if you don’t know how your own nervous system works, how you encode your reality, how your past influences you, how you program yourself, then there’s no way to really drive the vehicle of your life in the direction of your heart’s desire. People are floundering out in the world and creating immense suffering which is passed to their children for generation after generation.  Before you know it we have a complete world of dysfunctional people who are in intense pain who will die for the rightness of their illusions.  My vision is to unravel the stories of the past to awaken people to their fullest potential.

How are you different than other NLP Master Practitioners?

I’m different because I am 100% totally committed to changing people’s lives for the better. I desire to help people who, by their own example, can create a community of positive, resourceful, focused and successful people.  They can go out there and positively inspire their families, their friends, and who knows, maybe thousands and thousands of people that I’ll never see or touch.  All it takes is a small group of committed people to change the world.  And that’s the only thing that ever has.

It sounds like you’re putting a spiritual spin on it.

That’s true.  I really believe NLP is just a prop for me to talk about this creative force we call God.  Because above and beyond all of the technology that NLP teaches is another whole level of existence, which is our spiritual body, our spiritual essence, which is why we’re actually here.  But we cannot access those qualities inside of ourselves if our mind is filled with fear, unresolved negative emotions and the drama of our past. 

Until we can literally quiet that fear, we can’t access the truth about ourselves.  So my whole premise is to first give people the tools to quiet their minds so that the natural propensity to be who we are can rise to the surface.  Otherwise people will be in too much fear to be able to quiet themselves enough to do the spiritual work they came here to do. 

So for me everything I’m doing is about building the foundation, how to take people from “I know nothing” to “These are practical skills so I can have more options, so that I’m not totally locked in to my internal hell, and I can start making different choices about myself, my life and my world.”  Once they have that, there’s another whole level of teaching that has to happen. I know this because in my experience, I meditated for years and years, anticipating these huge spiritual awakenings.  I had minor ones, I had unique experiences that are paranormal, but the predominance of my meditation time was stuck in my head, rattling around my past and trying to quell the deep, deep emotions that were running my life. 

I tried for years and years to be this spiritual guy. I went to India; I studied with a guru.  I was meditating two and a half hours a day, from 3 to 5:30 EVERY morning for 15 years and you know what?  It was painful.  And I could not achieve the spiritual level I felt I should be reaching in the spiritual discipline I was involved in because my mind and emotions were completely out of control.

But the instruction I was given at the time was just “Keep meditating, brother.  Just keep meditating.  Use your mantras.”  And I’m like, “No!”  I’m in total agony about my mother, I’m in total agony about my father, and all these incest issues – I got all these repressed sexual feelings, I can’t cope with any of it.  Sitting for two and a half hours at 3 in the morning and falling asleep half the time is NOT going to resolve the issues!  It is about working at the level of the mind with the tools of the mind – that’s how you can awaken who you really are.  So until we can quiet our minds, we really can’t get to our hearts.  And that’s the whole reason I teach what I teach.

Do your teachings go beyond the basic NLP model?

The Master Practitioners at my Center and I teach a whole Life Design^© process – that we can redesign our lives in alignment with a higher reason and a higher function.  But until we’re able to really do it and heal the voices of our past we won’t be able to progress

The more that we continue to dwell on things we can’t do or things from our past, the more we become entrenched in the negatives.  So the focus of our mind is really the definition of our heaven or hell.  And if 97% of the 60,000 thoughts we think a day are about our past, then all we’re doing in our future is simply recreating the structure of our past.

Life Design is literally the tool to quiet the voices of our past so we can wake up to the natural stillness and the natural spirituality that we all are.

Are some people turned off by your focus on spirituality?  Do they think you’re advocating a particular religious doctrine?

Spirituality is not about a denomination or a structure or methodology of practicing worship of God, whatever that is to you.  It could be anything – it could be the wind, it could be Buddha, it could be Mohammad, it could be Christ – it could be anything.  But it’s something bigger than our egos; something larger than the definition of our personality.  When we create a reference point that is   something larger than our ego and our personality, then we start to live at a higher frequency.

How do your Life Design teachings facilitate that?

Our personality is very much like a glass of milk.  When the milk is stirred, meaning when the mind is restless, we’re constantly, habitually thinking about the past.  We think 60,000 thoughts a day, and 97% of them are about the past.  We’re constantly thinking, dwelling, perceiving, interpreting our future through the lens of our past, so that all we really see is our reaction to our unhealed emotional issues from our past in our future, so we keep recreating it.  That’s like the milk being stirred. 

We’re constantly being reactivated neurologically — we’re reactivated by what we perceive through the five senses.  Everything we see, hear, touch, taste or smell, we’re filtering through what memories it evokes from our past. When we still that, when we still the unresolved negative emotions from our past experiences, we reinterpret the internal voices so they’re our cheering section for our success rather than a booing section for what we have as our perceived failures. 

We can turn that around and change that, systematically, scientifically and neurologically, through reimprinting our nervous system through the three principal learning channels of visual, auditory and kinesthetic.  When we do that with the assistance of NLP and Life Design training we still the milk.  When the milk becomes still, then the cream naturally rises to the surface, the richness of who we are naturally comes to the surface.  We don’t have to learn how to be loving or spiritual beings – we already are. It’s the restlessness and the endless jabbering of our minds and our egos, our defenses, our pasts and our distorted filters that cause us not to function from the essence of who we naturally are – which is love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Gary De Rodriguez

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When we use language like the transformational choices it puts us into the place where we actually shackle the legs of our camels linguistically.  We’re taking our personal power linguistically and saying this is where we’re going.  Rewrite your present reality. Write in transformational language and create your outcome with specific language in one paragraph.  And then I’m going to ask you to write it in two lines.  What you’re going to do is take that big long story and you’re going to write an I am statement toward where you’re choosing to move your life in this particular issue of your life and you’re going to rewrite it, outcome oriented, first person accountable, in conscious language, devoid of language of self-sabotage, deletion, distortion, generalization, negation and disempowerment.  If you require to add specificity you’ll have more sentences – like dates and all of that.  If you’ve been confused then you’re choosing clarity.  If you’ve been lonely and you’re choosing a partnership, define it, put it on a time line, speak toward.

 

I have confidence in my creative ability.  I receive the gift of my father’s life.  I have the power to create now.

 

Give him a hand!  What if every word that came out of your mouth was like what you’re rewriting now?  What would it be like?  You would speak less, is that true?  But when you spoke….laser!

 

I remember when I was very young I got married.  What impressed me so much about her was that she spoke very little but when she spoke …..  We’d be in this huge group of people and she would just sit there silently, not saying anything, but when she spoke it was like an earthquake because what came out of her mouth was so laserly the truth from her heart.  As soon as that happened I thought, I am completely in love with this woman.  What she spoke was from her heart and it had such profound effects upon me.  Have you noticed how each of us are speaking?  Have you noticed how often want, need and try have been spoken?  Our culture has been based upon lack and scarcity and victim archetype.  Take the words want, need, try and I don’t know out of your vocabulary and you’ll be doing great.

 

I am free from worry and I use this freedom to create spiritual fulfillment, to double my income and to nurture my family.

 

How much – what does double mean to you?  Put in a figure. 

 

I am free from worry – you just went into your story and you told all of us that part of your time is spent in worry.  So what you get to do is say I claim my peace of mind and I use this freedom to create MY spiritual fulfillment and to double my income to $200,000 OR MORE a year and to nurture my wife, Dawn and my daughter, Caterina. 

 

Whenever someone is speaking in vagueness, it is consistently a form of fear, a fear of feeling the emotional body.  When we bring it in and we speak in ‘my’ we associate into the words.  You guys look at your statement and put in ‘my’ wherever you see the word ‘the.’

 

I am powerful, empowering and successful in my work at positive changes hypnosis, relationships with my family and create $300,000 or more in the year 2000.  And I am in a relationship and married a loving, empowering, infinitely wealthy, emotionally secure, accepting, fun, fun-loving, playful, young-thinking, brilliant, kind, exciting, active, charismatic, outgoing, compassionate, rational, creative, understanding, generous, very gorgeous, athletic, ever-evolving, family oriented, passionate, self accountable, sharing, honest single man.

 

Tell the world because when you speak it what happens is that you get to leave your story and step into the new way of being and perceiving. 

 

I am now open to see the love and acceptance of my mother and father.

 

This is a statement in the course of miracles it says, ‘All things present, past and to come are beautifully planned by one who unconditionally loves you.’ 

 

The things of the past – how much life energy have you spent in being a victim in your mind, running the internal blame dialog in your mind and living from the victim archetype of not being loved enough by mother or dad and how much time have you spent and energy wasted, your precious breaths incalculable in its value, on contemplating endlessly the story?  There are people who die who at their death bed are still repeating the story of what they did or did not get from their mother or their father, which got reflected into their adult relationships and then got projected onto their adult relationships.  So we have the opportunity to do something with our past which we will do tomorrow in a big way.

Join me in tomorrows Blog for more!

 

 

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Language of disempowerment: I want to go to the movies.  I am going to the movies tonight.  I will go to the movies tonight.  I choose to go to the movies tonight.  I will enjoy going to the movies tonight.  These are different levels of empowerment.  I can’t.  I can, I choose to, I will, I have the resources I require, I will create the resources I require.  I will create what I require to do the job.  It’s yet to be here but I’ll find out how to create it.  Rather than saying I can’t.  When you say I can’t what happens?  Do you throw yourself into the victim archetype immediately?  Do you cut at the root of the possibility of actually creating some of the resources that yet have been able to wake up in you?  When you say I’ll explore how I can create the resources I require to do it.  Do something other than go home and coach everyone around you.  Only coach if you are asked.  Get permission.  I just did this great seminar.  I learned a lot about the power of language.  Would you be interested in having some upgrades to what you just said? 

 

I was in a relationship working for months on how powerful my new relationship was going to be.  It was going to be so great.  It was about 8 months old.  So I came home from one of my trainings and I walked through the door, put down my bag – Hi, honey, I’m home.  And I heard, ‘We have to talk.’  So I sat down.  You’re too spiritual for me, you’re life is going in a direction I don’t choose to go, I’m moving out.  And you talk funny.  And pleaded with me to just talk normal.  Because this was really a co-dependent relationship.  And if I spoke in all the stuff I used to speak in, it would link in and hook that co-dependency.  I was so proud of myself because I generally I’ll drag out all my evidence that they were wrong and weigh it all out and make them feel badly.  What I said was, ‘You don’t see who I am.  Therefore you’re not the one.’  I had worked very, very diligently in creating a real partnership with someone.  And I personally thought this was it.  Three months later I met the person who was it.  The space had to clear out first.  And I worked diligently at creating a relationship because I was fully ready.

 

Unconscious language.  You really make me angry.  I create anger within myself when you do that.  I’m responsible for my feelings and what I make up about what you just said is….  This is very powerful because I was in a relationship once for 9 years with someone who was directly the opposite of everything I am.  And before I created this relationship I prayed to god, probably the only time in my life I ever surrendered and I said, ‘Bring me the relationship that will give me the greatest level of spiritual progress.’  I was very brave in those days.  So I create this relationship. Within three hours after that surrender process the relationship showed up.  Three hours was all it took.  We were together for 9 years.  I was so reactive and so unhealthy in this relationship.  When I got to the point – obviously somehow I get to be accountable for what is happening in my world here.  And I got this idea about filtering and so I thought I would apply it in my most tender place and the weakest place that I was – the place that had atrophied the most, which was the huge victim archetype in relationships – somehow I’m a victim of this person.  They’ve got control over my emotional state and if they don’t give it to me or if they do give it to me I’m either happy or sad.  My partner would do something and I would just get this huge emotional response to it and I’d just sit there silently and fume.  And then I said, ‘What you just said and did, I got really upset at and I’m responsible for the emotions I’m creating in myself and I’m giving meaning to what you just said and did and this is what I made up about it.  Could you give me clarity on what you meant by what you just did and said?’  And not once, not twice, not a hundred times, but every time I had the courage to do that and stay out of my victim and be emotionally accountable, every time I was 180 degrees off from how I interpreted it.  And that’s where a lot of this information started to come forward from.  When I began to realize that in that environment where I was the most reactive and wounded and I started to take accountability and began to question to get clarity, I was completely off.  And we do this.  We mind read a lot.  And we mind read out of the hurt and wound of our past through our filters.  Ask for clarity, you guys.

 

My dream is that you will make me happy.  My dream is that I create my happiness and you create yours.  When you think about language and you think about the words like I need and I want and I’ll try and I don’t know – if we could just take those four out of our conversation – why do you think need, want and I don’t know are so pervasive in our conversational language?  The words dissociate you from a focus and they place you in the victim archetype.  They are literally the language that takes all the strength and power out of your ability to actually achieve.  When you say I deserve it presupposes a time when you didn’t feel deserving.  So when you say I claim, I create or I am it takes you out of the context of either deserving or not deserving.  It just is.  What used to take me a private session half an hour or 45 minutes to get to with neurolinguistic programming, I get to within 10 minutes with a client through their language, just from what they speak and the presuppositions that is behind the language they choose to use.

More to follow tomorrow on this subject!

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All that exists is part of one family called life.  Within each of us is the opportunity to create our heavens or our hell’s by the choices of what we dwell upon, language and imagine.  Through our innate ability to create our reality we spin out our own unique worlds mirroring what we believe to real, language and imagine repetitively, thereby conditioning our nervous system for less choices.

 

Events in our life are empty of meaning.  We ascribe the meaning to the events we experience through our five senses and create the emotions that drive our behavior.  Through our behavior we are responded to by the world and our beliefs and identity begins to form and harden.  Our thoughts, words and the emotions we produce as a result determine what our experience of our world’s will be.  It’s the choices in our thoughts words and actions and the focus of our minds that create our perceptions, our worldviews, and our direction as an individual and a species collectively.

 

We have each been gifted with the magnificent vehicle, the human form, with more neurological possibilities than there are grains of sand on all the beaches of our planet.  The one question we are being asked to answer is: what am I really here to do? What is my purpose?  Are we here to accumulate wealth, power, raise our children and grand children or did we each come with a specific purpose that only we can fulfill, a larger vision specific to ourselves? All our relationships and accomplishments are part of our purpose but is that our true soul’s mission or is there something more?

 

The question

Recognize that there are many human values, opinions and morals on this earth.  Celebrate the diversity of humankind. Appreciate the beauty of difference.  It is in our differences that we are truly one. We are one unlimited, intelligent, creative species full of genius, truth and knowledge.  Rather than find conflict in our values and beliefs, let us find the fruits of unity.  All systems of thought  whether religious, political or cultural are guiding means, not absolute truths.  Human life is more precious than any ideology or doctrine.  Peace can only be achieved when we honor and respect the choices of others in the systems they choose to guide their lives.

 

If we accept everything in life as our teacher, we are open to observations of ourselves and of our world.  Remember that each individual walks a different journey, a different path, and therefore lives within a different reality.  We get to acknowledge the individual life experience as an adaptation to life circumstances with the best life skills they had available at the time. We accept that people can change when taught the current life skills available.  With this change the individual empowers themselves their friends, family, community and the world at large.   Peace is an inside job.  Until the individual resolves the war within there will be war without.  A road to Peace lies in the choice of perspective that life is sacred.

 

 

Perception is projection.  If we experience life as sacred then we will experience the world and people we encounter as sacred. What we see in another we harbor in our hearts.  We can only recognize the qualities that we possess.  If we harbor anger, our anger at others is anger at ourselves.  Our relationships are mirrors to reflect back to us those qualities which often lay outside our conscious awareness.  When aversion arises in our minds, we have the choice to project it out to another or utilize it as a tool for introspection and personal discovery. 

 

There are two things that motivate human behavior: Love or Fear.  Our behavior as well as others behaviors are a deep call for love or love.

 

We are in charge of our minds therefore our results.  What we habitually dwell upon we become more of.  Our life results are in direct correlation to the focus of our minds.

 

Our parents didn’t do it to us. We have a choice how we allow their behavior to affect us.  They have done the best they can do with the resources they have available to them.  The sooner we stop condemning them the sooner we can get on with the job of living our lives.  Our reason for being ( our life mission) lies in the metaphor of our parents lives.  There is purpose and order in the universe. A strand of DNA can duplicate a human body. A seed of an oak tree holds the leaf size, trunk texture, and canopy width within an acorn.  The planets are orbiting in this grand dance called gravity.  There is order and purpose in life.  When it comes to our families and our own life, have we ever asked the question why this family? why these parents?  There is a reason, there is order and purpose to why you came into the family you did.  Look to their lives and look at what their lives are saying to you about how to live.  What to do and what not to do. 

 

Move the focus of your minds off the story of what you did or didn’t receive from them to what their lives are saying to you about life.  Take their life lessons and make different choices.  Many times our parents lives show us the road not to take.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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We have no requirement to find God; we are already found. Yet, on some days, suffering appears to be both all around us and within us. How is this so?

Have you ever put a stick in a pond and watched how the ripples distort your reflection? All you have to do to be found by God-whatever or whomever you deem God to be-is take the stick out of the pond, let the water’s surface become smooth, and see who you are. That stick represents your fear, and it represents the victim archetype. The image you see in the pond looking back at you is a reflection of the internal representations in your mind, many of which are buried in your subconscious.

But you are not a victim of your subconscious any more than you are compelled by some imaginary force to place the stick in the pond.

When you feel like a victim it is because you feel as if you have no choices. Now, what would happen if you learned how the mind-this force with eight million miles of zeroes of possibilities behind it-actually worked? What if you knew how it constructed your reality? What if you then learned how to deconstruct your reality and rebuild it into something joyful?

The subconscious is in fact a powerful gateway to these millions of functions buried within the human mind. Of course, our lives are too harried to consciously activate every single one of those functions; however, at the subconscious level, the possibilities are countless if they are not completely endless (eight million miles, for the purpose of this discussion, might as well be infinity!).

If we agree that there are millions of functions-literally millions of possibilities resting like an unopened gift beneath your cranium-then not learning how to direct those functions robs you and the world around you of your own human potential. By learning how to direct the subconscious mind, you acquire the ability to create, to potentialize. In turn, your life and the world around you changes radically.

All the world religions say man and woman are made in the image and likeness of God. The one thing that all world religions can agree upon is that God is creative. So, if we are made in the image and likeness of this thing called God, does that not presuppose that we create?

You are consciously creating the world moment by moment. At any time you can take the stick out of the pond and say, ‘If I knew that I had choice in my life and that I could direct my subconscious to actually make outcomes happen, then would I be in as much fear? Or would I be in that slipstream of the creative power that gives me choice, that takes me out of fear and allows me to be still?”

The principal responsibility we each have is to awaken our ability to transform fear into its opposite. The technology is available. The only question to be answered is, will you learn it? And in the stilling of your story of what did and did not happen to you, you will see your reflection, your divine reflection, and realize all things past, present, and to come are designed to return you back to love. This is conscious creation. This is the power of NLP.

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