Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

 

Events are empty unto themselves and our perspectives ascribe the meaning to them which will either transform them into personal and professional benefits or perpetuate our distortion.  Our distortions are generated from the collective experience of our past, therefore the First LAW for a Fulfilling Life is: Transform your past to be Your Greatest Ally for Your Future.

 For any of us to be successful, personally and professionally, we require powerful and trusting alliances within our relationships.  The primary hierarchy of importance in our relationships is first, relationship to oneself.  The second is relationship to others, and the third is relationship to a deeper purpose for which your life contributes back.   Relationships with others are based upon our ability to effectively communicate and our communication is based upon the level of rapport and trust we are capable of establishing.

 One extraordinarily important principle for organizations and families to recognize is each member of the organization affects others and will enhance or contaminate the culture.   According to the Heart Math Research Institute, each individual emanates a resonate field of energy measurable by science that affects other people around them.  This resonate field is created by the overall emotional states the person feels continually.

 The health of your family or your company is based upon the collective thinking patterns of the members within it.  Each person affects the whole of the environment in which they dwell, whether it is home or office, with their thoughts, the language that represents those thoughts and the emotions they produce as a consequence.  Does it make sense that fundamental Life skills to transform thinking and emotions are required for our personal, spiritual and financial success?

 I was conducting a series of trainings for a prominent pharmaceutical company in California in their global safety department, which consisted of approximately twenty highly skilled doctors and research scientists.

The VP of the department had contacted me and communicated that the culture within the department was sliding downhill fast.  The staff was under tremendous pressure with long work hours and impossible deadlines.  The extra stress of personality conflicts was the straw that would break the camel’s back. His primary concern was that he would begin losing his highly qualified staff he had worked so hard to recruit.

   I arrived on the grounds of the company which was like a mini city in its entirety.  With walking paths, child care, a gymnasium, a pool and overlooking the Pacific Ocean:  A rather stunning place to work.

 As I enter the training room and met the team I noticed one individual in the room who seemed defensive and withdrawn before I even opened my mouth.  The team was cordial, alert, but reserved.  As I began the presentation this one individual would barely participate, distracted others and was in overall resistance to learning the communication tools I was presenting. 

 Rather than leave a contaminating personality in the room with the other willing participants, I firmly, and respectfully, asked him to leave the training room.  With every organization I have the privilege of working with, I reserve this right.

 As soon as this doctor left the training room the entire room took a collective breath simultaneously.  The energy of the room relaxed and I observed the tension leaving the bodies of the members of the team.  I stood there wondering could this one individual have this much influence on the stress levels and the growing negative culture of the department.

 I merely had to ask one simple question: “How are you all feeling now?”

Like a monsoon of information, each person shared their frustration with this individual.  He was recently recruited and was one of the medical heads of the department which required much of the work to be approved by.  Story after story came forward about how difficult it was to accomplish the workload after his arrival and how the management could not see it.

 Resentment had built toward the VP, communication lessened because of resentment and the VP did not have enough information to take action. 

The remainder of the trainings went effectively and the culture shifted dramatically after the enactment of the communication tools which were taken onboard by the team.  The resistant doctor entered a coaching program with me, through the request of the VP.  The core experiences which drove his behavior were uncovered and resolved, resulting in him becoming a functional part of the team.  

 My belief is that people affect other people and each one of us has the responsibility to become fully matured in our relationship to ourselves.  By taking responsibility for our own emotional states, getting clarity, having effective conversational and negotiation skills while ceasing the destructive positioning for power and the need to be right, we can reach that mature state in our relationship to ourselves.  Each one of us requires to become fully self aware and have the tools to shift our beliefs, transform our past experiences to retain the wisdom rather than the resentment.  Each one of us requires to become fully responsible for the filters we see our world through, so that we can become as free as we can from over reacting emotions and distortions.

 We require to learn the art of entering into our communication with a genuine desire to enrich our business and personal relationships with authentic conversations and accountability for our emotional states.  When we exhibit flexibility in our approach to others, we view the diversity of other peoples’ perspectives, with understanding and grace, while creating peace within ourselves.

 Here are some foundational principles:

 Principles:

1. Be in physiological rapport with the other person so you have the ability to create an unconscious connection during the conversation.

2. Enter the conversation with the intention to clarify, enrich and empower yourself, and the other person equally.

3. Authentically desire that a win-win occur from the conversation.

4. Be accountable for your part in creating any disagreements in the situation

5. Be fully focused and completely present with the other person.

6. Know that you are creating your own emotional responses and that you have a choice.

 Before you enter a conversation that is important to you, clarify your outcomes with the following questions when you enter the conversation:

 Setting Outcomes:

1. What do you desire?

2. If we both got what we desired what would that look like?

3. What would be your highest choice for the situation?

4. What would it take to make us both feel great?

5. What do you require to feel like we both won?

6. What is your outcome for our conversation?

 Our relationships are the temple we reveal our emotional intelligence and our relationship with ourselves.  The more we can enter our conversations with awareness the greater our relationships will blossom, the more effective we will become and the higher our self esteem and self worth will rise. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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Are You Awake?

Are you awake to what is possible?

The world is calling out for humanity to awaken to the great gifts it has been given, to awaken to the knowledge of the divine order inherent in our family systems. If we would take the time to understand them, the triumphs and tragedies of our ancestors are incredibly revealing. They reveal our soul purpose and help us to know we are made in the image and likeness of the Divine. By nurturing, studying and recreating our internal circumstances-our inner emotional world-we can empower ourselves to positively and permanently impact what is happening around us.

 Let this be the moment in history that you decided to stand up and be the most beautiful human being possible.

• Let this be the moment in history that you let go of that which you were attached to.
• Let this be the moment in history that you halted your obsessions with the mundane and with the things you could not change.
• And finally, let this be the moment in history that you decided to STOP WASTING TIME.

 How can we ever attempt to understand and overcome the conflicts and wars that exist on this planet until we each become accountable for winning the mini wars that exist within our own minds? People that operate from a place of pain, suffering, lack or any other unresolved emotion will not perpetuate success. They cannot create a real, lasting shift in culture or the dynamic between themselves and others.

When we understand the river of time which we are traveling, we will know that all things change constantly, and change is the only consistency we have. It is not the events that occur in time within our lives that cause the pain. It is the meaning we have assigned to those events that creates our Heaven or our Hell. It is the focus of our minds that either releases us or imprisons us. Time is like a river, and events in our lives are like leaves passing by us in the current. Which leaves do we choose to pick up and examine? For how long to we hold each leaf in our grasp? And which ones do we choose to let quietly float by?

What if you spend your time obsessing on the story of how it has been, yet the way it has been contains the exact circumstances that created and evolved you? What if you spend your life blaming, regretting and condemning the people and the secret teachers who have arrived to show you the way? What if it all happened out of a loving intention to evolve your spiritual wisdom and maturity?

Be the Love you are. Remain in the new story of your outcome. Create different internal representations-different pictures, sounds, dialogs and feelings-by imagining vividly enough to where you feel them deeply. Recreate your past with the power to redefine what has occurred, and distill the wisdom from your experiences with a blessing upon your lips for the ancestral teachers you have had and the order and perfection that is moving us all back to a state of Oneness.

If we can begin to re-language and re-imagine our experiences, we will think and feel differently about our lives and the human condition in general. We will remain in a more optimal and consistent emotional state that allows us the freedom to open and direct our imagination and focused mind toward what we truly desire to create in our world. We can then become the men and women we have always known we could be. We can then master the art of living in this world of seeming victimization as people who expect and direct the quantum field of possibility into existence based upon our freedom to cease the endless story of what did and did not happen. We will be free to create our future with compassion and fulfill what our ancestors could not. We will live with a blessing on our lips for all who went before us in our ancient ancestral lineage.

While existing within the density of our bodies in a world full of fear, all our experiences can culminate in the awakening to our divine inheritance.

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Waterfall of Life

 

Bedtime stories for a changed tomorrow

In the book Resurrection, Neville tells us that “feeling a state produces the state,” (1966, p.98). Every single night of your life you have the opportunity to engage this truth, to still your mind long enough to feel the state of being that you desire.

The part you play on the world stage is determined by your conception of yourself, much of which can be shaped by the thoughts you have as you fall asleep at night. By feeling your wish fulfilled as you quietly relax into sleep, you cast yourself in a star role to be played on Earth tomorrow. And while asleep you are rehearsed and you are instructed in your part. You “act your “role,” and through the night, you begin to take it quite seriously.

The acceptance of the end automatically wills the means of realization. Make no mistake about this. If as you prepare for sleep you do not consciously feel yourself into the state of your answered wish, then you take with you into the chamber of her who conceived you, the sum total of your reactions and feelings of your waking day. While asleep, you will be instructed in the manner in which they will be expressed tomorrow. You will rise in the morning believing that you are a free agent with free will, not realizing that every action and event of the day is predetermined by your concept of self as you fell asleep the night before.

Your only freedom then is your freedom of reaction. While you are free to choose how you will react to your day, the day’s drama, action, events, and circumstances have already been determined. Unless you consciously and purposely define the attitude of your mind with which you go to sleep at night, you unconsciously go to sleep in an attitude of mind composed of all the feelings and reactions of the day. How unfortunate this is if that day your feelings and reactions were not optimal, were not productive, and only resulted in pain and suffering for yourself or for others.

Every reaction makes a subconscious impression upon reality, and unless that reaction is counteracted by opposite and more dominant feelings, it will be the catalyst for your future actions. Ideas enveloped in feeling are actions created. Use your divine right wisely, for through your ability to think and to feel, you have dominion over all creation.

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