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For those of you who are coaches and desire a good closing statement to the session, below is what I suggest.

As you dream your dreams at night between now and the next time we see each other, your unconscious mind will integrate everything you have seen felt and heard today.  The integration will align those parts of you which may have been in conflict before in a new and powerful way, creating a passionate momentum towards your goals and outcomes.

All this will occur in your dream states at night. You may or may not remember your dreams, your dreams will only promote a deep sound sleep. Upon awaking you begin the daily steps towards your outcome with passion and commitment in a way that is in alignment with your life purpose. 

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Time & The Human Mind

I have been asked to re-post some great tools for changing your life!

Do you desire to be more than what you’ve been?  Do you know you are capable of more?  Do you know what path you would need to take to be more of what you want of what you are desirous to be?

 

What is NLP?  NLP is the modeling of excellence.  It is the discovery and duplication of patterns of excellence of successful people for the purpose of enhancing lives by teaching these patterns and strategies of excellence.

 

NLP came into existence during the early 1970′s out of the curiosity of John Grinder and Richard Bandler.  These men began a modeling project of three very famous therapists.  They chose to model these therapists because all three were creating tremendous changes in the human condition outside the Freudian and Jungian Models and each therapist used totally different styles of therapy.

 

They are Virginia Satire, who developed the family form of therapy, Milton Erickson, who developed the greatest form of hypnosis and the know-how of working with the unconscious mind known today as Ericksonian Hypnosis, and Fritz Pearls, who discovered Gestalt Therapy.  All three had an extremely different approach to the style of the therapy they did and yet, they were all very successful.

 

John Grinder and Richard Bandler chose to observe these therapists because of their successes.  The interesting observation was that they had success in what they did and how they did therapy without an absolute understanding of the processes they were using.  In fact, Milton Erickson wrote a letter to John Grinder and Richard Bandler and thanked them for explaining to him the processes he used and how he has such success. 

 

These therapists were exquisitely good at intuiting and guiding client’s problems to resolution. They had what is called unconscious competency.  Have you ever had unconscious competency in something?  Unconscious competency means you are “just” good at what ever it is you know how to do without having to put much thought to it.  Perhaps it’s a sport, math, or driving a car that comes natural to you.  It is doing something with little or no effort.

 

NLP is applicable in sports, business, therapy, learning, educational fields, etc.  It’s broad applications cross the context of all of the human experience.  Why is this?  It is literally the owner’s manual for the human mind.  If you are going to tune up a car, program a VCR, put one of those difficult pieces of furniture together, you would be required to have some directional manual, would you not?  Have you ever attempted to do one of these activities and experience frustration?

 

Here we are in the most complex organism on this planet called the human body.  The human body contains more neurological possibilities then every grain of sand on every beach on this planet.  No one has ever come along and said, “Would you like to know how to use it?”  How did you create your unique beliefs, attitudes, and perspectives?  How did you encode your memory to instantly retrieve them?  How did you design the strategies you use to either motivate or sabotage?  How did you do it? If you had an owner’s manual that could show you how, could you fix it, could you adjust it?  You could!

 

Now every great thinker has consistently said that there’s only one thing to do here and that is to know ‘you.  In all of our relationships, what we are really involved with is a deep intrinsic relationship with ourselves, in the context of another person.

 

Have you ever been in a relationship with anyone?  Have you ever thought about what makes a relationship work?  It IS your relationship with you.  It IS your sense of identity, your boundaries, your negotiation skills, your ability to love rather than be afraid, and your ability to express rather than harbor and resent. Your ability to be in relationship with others is your key to financial, spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being.  Your ability to know yourself will assist you in every context of life.

 

In the past, I lived in a lot of procrastination.  When I say “the past”, I mean anything even a nano-second in the past.  What I’ve learned from a whole securitous pipe of experiences is that the place of most change is when you’re really terrified, but you take the leap anyway, you just step out into the unknown.  Have you ever done an action over and over and expect a different outcome then the time before?  Did you know that the definition of insanity is: doing the same thing consistently and expecting a different outcome, a different result?  

 

One of my most favorite movies is “The Last Crusade”, where the main character is searching for the Holy Grail out of the love for his father.  He comes to this place after passing through this tunnel of slicing swords and spiders and he arrived to a precipice where he couldn’t even see the bottom.  He closed his eyes and remembered a legend that taught him that when he chooses to step out in pure faith, he’d be supported.  So he stepped out into thin air.  As he did, a path appeared before him.  He made the choice to move through his fear by taking that step, that leap of faith, right through the fear.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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To excel into what is possible for each one us the first step is: to harness the understanding that we are responsible for our emotional responses and the meaning we ascribe to the events of our daily lives.

We are ascribing the meaning therefore the reality we will live.  We become either rigid or impossible, filled with reactivity, fear and anger or we become the most flexible person within the organizations and roles we find ourselves and therefore become the catalyst fro authenticity in those system.

Most of us are triggered in our current reality through stimulus that reactivates old emotional patterns that have been left unresolved and we exhibit a combination of reactivity and flexibility.  But we don’t know why certain circumstances, people, voice tones etc. will take us into our shadow reactions.  We are responding from our shadow reactivity rather from our choices through self awareness.

 

Our unconscious patterns remain out of consciousness and awareness and therefore unchangeable because we have not had the tools to shift our reactions to the past and create new responses.

 

In order for each of us to lead in our organizations, private business and our families we must obtain the ability to transform what has happened to us and what we made up about it.  We must become Self Aware and Self responsible.

 

Hence the First LAW to Leadership is: Self Awareness/Self Responsibility.  Ponder this one question. How have we become who we are?   How do we generate our reality and perceive through the lenses of our unique individual perspectives?  How do we produce our emotional states that drive or limit our behavior? And most importantly How do we create sustainable change so we can Transform our ability to spin out a different perspective of reality and how can we create it differently so we experience more love, fulfillment and contribution to our world around us.

 

 

For any of us to be successful personally and professionally we require powerful and trusting alliances within our relationships. 

The primary hierarchy of importance in our relationships is first the relationship to oneself.

The second is relationship to others and the third is relationship to a deeper purpose for which your life contributes back.  Your self defined Sense of Your Sacred.

 

Relationships with others are based upon our ability to effectively communicate and our communication is based upon the level of rapport we are capable of establishing.

 

One extraordinarily important principle for organizations and families to recognize is that each member of the organization or family affects the others and will enhance or contaminate the culture of the organization in which they belong.

 

A family or company is likened to a body where different cells perform different functions and when the body is healthy the cells are communicating and transferring data for the benefit of the organism they belong.

When cells become unhealthy they begin to contaminate the cells and systems within their sphere of influence and the disease spreads to other cells and systems until the organization, family or organism becomes ill.

If the unhealthy cells go unaddressed and the disease is allowed to spread through neglect then eventually the organization fails, the family becomes estranged and the organism dies.

  

According to the Heart Math Research Institute each individual emanates a resonate field of energy measurable by science, that effects other people fifteen feet around them.  This resonate field is created by the overall emotional states the person feels continually.

 

The health of your family or your company is based upon the collective thinking patterns of the members of it.  Each person affects the whole of the environment they dwell in whether it is home or office with their thoughts, the language that represents those thoughts, the emotions they produce and the behaviors that ensue as a consequence.

 

I was conducting a series of trainings for a prominent pharmaceutical company in California in their global safety department which consisted of approximately twenty highly skilled doctors and research scientist.

The VP of the department had contacted me and communicated that the culture within the department was sliding downhill fast, the staff was under tremendous pressure with long work hours and impossible deadlines and the extra stress of personality conflicts was the straw that would break the camel’s back. His primary concern was that he would begin losing his highly qualified staff he had worked so hard to recruit.

   

I arrived on the grounds of the company which was like a mini city in its entirety.  With walking paths, child care, gymnasium, pool and overlooking the Pacific Ocean:

A rather stunning place to work.

 

As I enter the training room and met the team I noticed one individual in the room who seemed defensive and withdraw before I even opened my mouth.  The team was cordial, alert, but reserved.  As I began the presentation this one individual would barely participate, distracted others and was in overall resistance to learning the communication tools I was presenting. 

 

Footnote about the Heart Math Instuite

Rather than leave a contaminating personality in the room with the other willing participates I firmly and respectfully asked him if he was desiring to be else where and that he was welcomed to leave and asked him to leave the training. 

With every organization I contract with I establish the permission to exercise this right.

 

As soon as this doctor left the training room the entire room took a collective breath simultaneously.  The energy of the room relaxed and I observed the tension leaving the bodies of the members of the team.  I stood there wondering could this one individual have this much influence on the stress levels and the growing negative culture of the department.

 

I simply had to ask one simply question: “ How are you all feeling now?”

Like a monsoon of information, each person shared their frustration with this individual.

He was recently recruited and was one of the medical heads of the department.  Each team member was required to interface with him at some point during their research and responsibilities.  

Story after story came forward about how difficult it was to accomplish the workload after his arrival and how the management could not see it.

 

Resentment had built toward the VP, communication lessened because of the resentment and the VP did not have enough information to take action. 

The remainder of the trainings went effectively and the culture shifted dramatically after the enactment of the communication tools were taken onboard by the team. 

The resistant doctor entered a coaching program with me through the request of the VP and the core experiences which drove his behavior were uncovered and resolved and he became a functional part of the team.  

 

People affect other people and each one of us has the responsibility to become fully matured in our relationship to ourselves therefore others by taking responsibility for our own emotional states, getting clarity and transformation about those shadow aspects of our reactions, having effective conversational and negotiation skills while ceasing the destructive positioning for power and the need to be right. 

 

We require to learn the art of focusing our intention by entering into our communication with a genuine desire to enrich our business and personal relationships with authentic conversations, in accountability for our emotional states.  Our accountability will create the flexibility to honor the diversity of other peoples perspectives so we achieve understanding about the differences with grace.

 

Hence the Second Law to Everything: Become Relationship Aware.

 

 

The Third Law is governed by something less apparent than the previous two laws but is the umbrella that the other two rest under and without the third law enlivened within us it will make the first two nearly impossible to enact.

 

We have each been gifted with a magnificent vehicle, the human form, with more neurological possibilities than there are grains of sand on all the beaches of our planet.  The one question we are being asked to answer is: what am I really here to do? What is my purpose?  Am I here to accumulate wealth, power, raise my children and grand children, all worthy causes and is there more? Did we each come with a specific purpose that only we can fulfill, a larger vision specific to ourselves? All our relationships and accomplishments are part of our purpose but is that our true soul’s mission or is there something more? What will bring me my deepest fulfillment?  Only you can answer this question for yourself.

 

I began my career working with as a volunteer developer of the Aids Holistic Response Program in San Diego Calif. years ago when the Aids epidemic first began in the United States.  I witnessed many people die during those early days of the crisis.  Some young some old and I learnt that at the end of our lives the one thing that creates a beautiful transition is whether or not we know that we accomplished what we came here to do or whether we fell short of it based upon our apathy or our fear.

   

 

It was not these individuals accumulation of wealth or how many family members where there loving them as they transitioned.  It was the knowingness of: I did what I came here to do?  It was a understanding in the deepest recesses of the body/mind/spirit connection that constituted this conclusion.

 

As I sat by the bedsides of those passing I witnessed that there was an innate knowing within each person that came from deep within them.  There was no denial at this time at the time of death.  There was no pretending to not know or the avoidance of the issues.

 

This time was absolute truth.  We transition as we have lived with no smoke or mirrors to keep hidden what which we did not have the courage to face.

It is at this time that all our actions and behaviors in our relationships surface to be witnessed as jewels in the crown of our identities of who we have been, or regrets that act as thorns within us.

It is a soul knowing, not an intellectual process.   

 

This is why when we conduct our lives both personally and professionally with a sense of our self defined spirituality, our core essence, this foundation will help guide us to perform our actions in our families and our businesses that are congruent to our deepest sense of purpose.  We create profound congruency when our thoughts words and actions are in alignment with our deepest held values.  We generate Personal such Personal Power that our self worth and respect from others grows in dynamic proportion to our ability to walk our talk, we become the leader we are destined to be.

 

We create deep imprints within our subconscious mind through this alignment and our Self Worth exponentially increases so we create peace, financial wellbeing and fulfillment in our now and throughout our life.  

Hence the Third Law of a Fulfilling Life: Become Spiritually Aware: Increase your Self defined sense to your Sacred.

 

The first Law gives us the ability to unravel the mystery of what we have become through our childhood imprints and the ancestry we were born to.

The second Law defines that it is within our relationships we demonstrate the relationship with ourselves and the future imprints we create within our subconscious minds will be in direct portion to how we treat one another.

The third Law establishes that each one of us came here to fulfill a purpose that is greater than our attachments to people and things.  True fulfillment will be in how

We live from the foundation of our values moment by moment, how we demonstrate those values in our work and home life and the relationship we strengthen and live with our individual sense of the  Sacred.

 

All any of us have desired is to live a life fulfilled, to be loved and loving and be acknowledged for the unique individuals we are.  At the end of the day the thing we take with us is how we affected the people around us and how we expressed our contributions back to the individuals in the environments we lived in, our families and our organizations.

Did we lead a fulfilling life and transition with a blessing on our lips rather than regrets about what we didn’t have the courage to accomplish or the relationships we could not heal or the behaviors we regret doing.

 

This book is about one mans journey within himself and around the world to answer the question for himself:  How do I live a fulfilling life?  How do I change what has happened to me? How do I heal and function gracefully in the myriad complexities of my relationships? And How do I live with a deep sense of connection to a force greater than myself? It is a story of a journey, and a gathering of the necessary TOOLS to accomplish the journey in fulfillment, grace and joy and become the leader I was destined to become.   

 

To begin, I desire to present the content in three sections with several sub-chapters.  The principle three sections to The Three Laws to Leadership are:  

1 st Law = Self Awareness

2 nd Law  = People Intelligence

3 rd Law = Spiritual Awareness

 

 Each section will share practical useable TOOLS to enhance and transform our personal core imprints that formed the foundation of our characters, tools for sustaining long lasting change, tools for mastering our communication in our relationships and tools for strengthening the connection to our purpose and our individual sense of what is sacred to each one of us. 

Contained within these pages are a lifetime of seeking the tools for change within the laboratory of myself.  My desire is for you to take less time to discover these simple TOOLS than I did. 

 

The information contained within this section places the TOOLS for harnessing the power of the latent 90% of your subconscious mind within you and opening the door for a life in the mastery of causation and fulfillment.   The information within these pages has evolved over my life after following many dark and lighted Paths, each Path a jewel in the crown of my identity, each seeming wrong turn a light post pointing another way.  All being gently and sometimes not so gently, led by One governing principle which is to evolve myself to a greater ability to transform resistance into fluidity, fear into love and rigidity into flexibility.

 

  My work has evolved over a lifetime history of searching for answers on how do we create sustainable personal change.  How do we evolve our personalities? How do we come to perceive what we call our reality? How do we create change within ourselves which lasts?

 My search has been a search for myself, to find an answer to what happened to me within my own family system and how these imprints affected my adult life, my relationships, my businesses and my peace of mind. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Knowledge

 

Amazingly different.

 

The center circle, our heart, is a primary topic.  Now what I do in all my mind maps is I put the day – if today is the 17^th, my mind map tonight I’ll put the 18^th in the heart.  So I’m mind mapping my outcome for the following day.  So the center circle, our heart, is the primary topic.  Print only.  You’re printing because you’re choosing to utilize the right side of the brain as much as possible.  So print rather than write.  Be specific, outcome oriented.  Now specificity is an interesting thing.  If you look down at your colored mind map on Dreams = Reality, you’ll see 60 people, business mastery, 20 people MDSD, 20 people relationship.  Now I could go 20 people come to my relationship seminar and produce……  I’m being specific when I say 20 people relationship – retaining it to three words.  I’m doing something other than giving a lot of specifics.  I’m going to explain how to give specifics in just a moment.  But you can be specific in three words and this is how I’ve done it.  20 people relationship.  I know what that means by relationship.  I was doing a relationship training at the time and that’s what I meant. 

 

Three words per line maximum.  The brain photographs in triads.  It photographs in threes with retention better than it photographs in fours or fives.  So no more than three words per line.  Main branches expand on one specific area of the topic.  You can see that the blue line is accomplishments.  That is accomplishments that I’m going to do the following day.  The purple line is my ongoing dreams into reality.  So my blue line is one main branch for one specific area of the topic that goes into my day on 1/11/2009.  Each main branch is a different color.  So my one branch is for accomplishments of what I’ll do the following day.  My dreams into reality is my ongoing dreams and they are different colors.  Use abundant, bright, vivid color.  Sub-branches provide more detail to the main branch. 

 

So here we have 1/18/99.  This is accomplishments.  Tomorrow I’ll be in Florida and attending a training.  So I make one branch off of the main branch.  My sub-branch is one color and it’s about the training, so I continue to make sub-branches off of this one branch because I have more to say about it.  Do you understand.  Okay, so if you’re choosing to bring in more specificity to one item, just create more sub-branches off of that.  Make sure that you’re lines are connected.  That’s very important.

 

Branches and sub-branches provide more detail to the main branches.  Branches and sub-branches are the same color as the main branch so anything coming off of this branch, which is purple, will be purple.  Now when I do another main branch, which dreams = reality, all my branches off of this are going to be turquoise.  Use symbols, pictures or abbreviations.  Use flowing lines – right brain utilization.  No rigid lines, no angular lines.  And if you study fung shui you’ll know how important it is to put soft, curving lines because it moves energy.  Use abundant color – this equals more creativity.  Flowing lines represents right brain utilization.  Connect all branches and sub-branches to the main branch.  Be aware of the connections.  When all lines of information have been drawn, place the red arrows.  What I do is I mind map out very specific things that repeat daily.  Almost every single one of my pages in this book, my dreams to reality are the same.  This is January, 2009.  I inspire millions, publish best selling book, receive $300,000 yearly, profit. 25 people Santa Fe Coaching Certification, love surrender to god, content relationship, stay and feel outcome, command of NLP, clarity of NLP.  Those are my ongoing dreams = reality.  What you’re choosing to manifest for tomorrow and then your ongoing dreams that you’re choosing to have come into reality.  I add things onto my dreams = reality as things come up for me that I’m choosing to have come into manifestation or realization. 

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When we use language like the transformational choices it puts us into the place where we actually shackle the legs of our camels linguistically.  We’re taking our personal power linguistically and saying this is where we’re going.  Rewrite your present reality. Write in transformational language and create your outcome with specific language in one paragraph.  And then I’m going to ask you to write it in two lines.  What you’re going to do is take that big long story and you’re going to write an I am statement toward where you’re choosing to move your life in this particular issue of your life and you’re going to rewrite it, outcome oriented, first person accountable, in conscious language, devoid of language of self-sabotage, deletion, distortion, generalization, negation and disempowerment.  If you require to add specificity you’ll have more sentences – like dates and all of that.  If you’ve been confused then you’re choosing clarity.  If you’ve been lonely and you’re choosing a partnership, define it, put it on a time line, speak toward.

 

I have confidence in my creative ability.  I receive the gift of my father’s life.  I have the power to create now.

 

Give him a hand!  What if every word that came out of your mouth was like what you’re rewriting now?  What would it be like?  You would speak less, is that true?  But when you spoke….laser!

 

I remember when I was very young I got married.  What impressed me so much about her was that she spoke very little but when she spoke …..  We’d be in this huge group of people and she would just sit there silently, not saying anything, but when she spoke it was like an earthquake because what came out of her mouth was so laserly the truth from her heart.  As soon as that happened I thought, I am completely in love with this woman.  What she spoke was from her heart and it had such profound effects upon me.  Have you noticed how each of us are speaking?  Have you noticed how often want, need and try have been spoken?  Our culture has been based upon lack and scarcity and victim archetype.  Take the words want, need, try and I don’t know out of your vocabulary and you’ll be doing great.

 

I am free from worry and I use this freedom to create spiritual fulfillment, to double my income and to nurture my family.

 

How much – what does double mean to you?  Put in a figure. 

 

I am free from worry – you just went into your story and you told all of us that part of your time is spent in worry.  So what you get to do is say I claim my peace of mind and I use this freedom to create MY spiritual fulfillment and to double my income to $200,000 OR MORE a year and to nurture my wife, Dawn and my daughter, Caterina. 

 

Whenever someone is speaking in vagueness, it is consistently a form of fear, a fear of feeling the emotional body.  When we bring it in and we speak in ‘my’ we associate into the words.  You guys look at your statement and put in ‘my’ wherever you see the word ‘the.’

 

I am powerful, empowering and successful in my work at positive changes hypnosis, relationships with my family and create $300,000 or more in the year 2000.  And I am in a relationship and married a loving, empowering, infinitely wealthy, emotionally secure, accepting, fun, fun-loving, playful, young-thinking, brilliant, kind, exciting, active, charismatic, outgoing, compassionate, rational, creative, understanding, generous, very gorgeous, athletic, ever-evolving, family oriented, passionate, self accountable, sharing, honest single man.

 

Tell the world because when you speak it what happens is that you get to leave your story and step into the new way of being and perceiving. 

 

I am now open to see the love and acceptance of my mother and father.

 

This is a statement in the course of miracles it says, ‘All things present, past and to come are beautifully planned by one who unconditionally loves you.’ 

 

The things of the past – how much life energy have you spent in being a victim in your mind, running the internal blame dialog in your mind and living from the victim archetype of not being loved enough by mother or dad and how much time have you spent and energy wasted, your precious breaths incalculable in its value, on contemplating endlessly the story?  There are people who die who at their death bed are still repeating the story of what they did or did not get from their mother or their father, which got reflected into their adult relationships and then got projected onto their adult relationships.  So we have the opportunity to do something with our past which we will do tomorrow in a big way.

Join me in tomorrows Blog for more!

 

 

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