Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

 

 

 

 

I’ll tell a story from Islam.  There was once a camel herder and the camel herder sought his entire life for Mohammad and thought, ‘If I could find the great prophet and ask him this one burning question, it would solve the riddle of my entire existence.’  One day, as a very old man, he was wandering in the desert and he came across an oasis.  And there sat Mohammad up against a date tree.  And he walked up to the prophet and said, ‘Oh, great prophet, I have one question to ask you which will solve the riddle of my life.’  Mohammad said, ‘Ask it, brother.’  And he said, ‘Shall I shackle the legs of my camels at night or shall I have faith in Allah that they will be there in the morning?’  Mohammad thought and he said, ‘Brother, shackle the legs of your camels and have faith in Allah that they will be there in the morning.’

 

So what we are doing by setting our outcomes, by languaging our world in a way that we know we are first person accountable for the reality we are creating, we are shackling the legs of our camels.  If I have a flat tire on the side of the road, am I going to sit there and pray that god comes along and actually fixes my tire for me?  Or am I going to use my legs, walk to the gas station and get my tire fixed, knowing that god gave me the legs to do it?  Whatever that power is gave us the power of imagination, of language and of being able to evoke emotions, all of which are the three key elements to conscious creating.

 

What if god just looked down and said, ‘Yes!’  Whatever you’re dwelling on, whatever you’re contemplating, ‘I’ve got no judgment!  There’s no death and there’s no good or bad.  I have no judgment.  Just Yes!  Whatever you choose to dwell on, the answer is Yes.’  Disease and pestilence.  Yes!  Wealth and abundance.  Yes!  What if that was the way it was?  Would that be weird?  It’s all a belief.  How does any of us know?  But what if that was true?  Would it be useful then to learn how to direct the mind?  It could be very useful.

 

I’m a firm believer that we affect and drive and move our reality.  I’ve suffered way more than what I know I could have.  I can hang on the cross longer, whine better, than anyone in the room.  I will guarantee it.  And I know one of the gifts of me teaching this course is because some of you get it and you’re off and running.  I consistently remind myself this is a gift to me completely.  I thank you so much for showing because I get to remind myself of this information.  I have yet to have it mastered.  And I think one of the reasons I have yet to master it is because, when I speak to groups it’s with a lot of emphasis and a lot of passion and a lot of power because I know it works and I know I’m still teaching myself. 

 

I got started with all of this working with the AIDS community 22 years ago.  I’ve seen more people die than a man my age ought to have.  I’ve seen horrific deaths; I have seen absolutely blissful deaths.  I looked at what made that different and it was really the quality and the consciousness that individual lived their life from and did they potentialize themselves in the context of their living.  Did they feel like they had done what they came here to do?  Each one of you is the one in your ancestral line out of thousands and thousands and thousands of ancestors who have gone before you, you are the one who has shown up to express your life differently.  Because you are an imprint of everything that has gone before you.  So you’re the one who can stand in your ancestral line and say, ‘I’m going to be the one to finally do it.’  Now either you can not be and hand it down to your children or you can be the one.  If that’s true – the Hopis say there is absolutely no past, that everything that ever existed is present right here in the cells of my body – every ancestor that ever lived is resonating in my DNA.  You are the culmination of the thought forms of everything that has gone before you and you have the choice to do it differently, to overcome the idea of separation and the idea of my fear, my victimization, and move out of the victim archetype into a place where you are first person accountable creating your world out of the words you speak, the things you contemplate and the emotions you choose to feel.  Every word you speak has millions of synaptic responses being fired off inside of your body moment by moment by moment.

 

How many of you can create depression?  How do you think you do it?  Every word you speak is a symbol like a cross or a swastika.  When you think of those two symbols all kinds of images and thoughts and feelings come up in your mind, true?  Your words are the exact same thing in microcosm to the subconscious mind.  Every time you speak a word which is the symbol of your thinking, your mind has to associate to those feelings.  You’re firing off thousands and millions of synaptic firing off in your body and you are creating emotional states word by word by word.  Have you ever walking along and suddenly by the afternoon you think, ‘God, I feel depressed.  Why?’  If you watch what you spoke and dwelt on and imagined you would find out why.  We’re creating the emotional states and as we create the emotional states our behavior follows and as we behave, we are responded to by the world; as we get the response from the world our identity builds and this is how we become who we are.

If I have a little child up here and everyone in the room is a child hater and we all silently thought hateful thoughts about this child, would the child be affected?  Are you any different?  If you have judgment and you are thinking those judgments, will the person you are projecting those judgments to be affected?  This is highly, highly important to be a committed listener.  Write this down: I stand in my light for your victory.

 

I was at a training with Robert Tennison Stevens, who is this amazing man who taught me tons about language.  In that training I was up in front of the room being processed.  I was the first one to go up during this particular training.  I did it other than because I was courageous.  It was because I raised my hand to ask when lunch was and my attention was someplace else and the whole room applauded because I had just volunteered myself to be the first one to be processed. 

To be continued in tomorrows Blog!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

 

 

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One of the key beliefs of Humanistic Neuro Linguistic Psychology is the person who has the most flexibility becomes the most contributing and free person with the systems in which they belong.

 We all belong to a family system that comprises a variety of different relationships, each with their unique perspectives, problems, strengths and weaknesses.  Each one of us has developed complex-beliefs, values and strategies to adapt to the appearance of the loss of love.

 As we mature, we begin to realize that the foundation of our subconscious patterning may not serve our mastering of achieving peace and success.  Instead, it becomes the search for answers, mentors and information to help lead us through the forest of our perceptions and into the clearing of our options and choices.  Here are some perspectives to help us get to the clearing sooner, rather than later.

 A mighty law of life is the requirement to become masterful in our relationships.  This is where the rubber hits the road between what we have studied, and hold as beliefs and truisms, and what has actually been integrated inside us as our identity.

 When we are able to demonstrate congruency between what we believe and what our actions actually are, we strengthen our identity and raise our self esteem.  This, also, allows us to resonate out into the complex, unseen universe of causation a field of “I am worthy.” This field permits us to draw, like a magnet, the opportunities that support our every dream.

 The art of causation is based upon various laws, other than the law of attraction, and must be honored to obtain consistent results and a sense of mastery over the unpredictability of life.

 Here is a key principle:  Only commit to what you know you can keep your word to; and keep your word no matter what!

 As you strengthen your worthiness through the laboratory of your relationships, hold to this one rule so you can increase your compassion for others and develop the muscle of your growing flexibility and congruency.

 Realize that each person behaves out of a different set of beliefs, memories, values and collection of experiences that act as their map of reality.  Another’s reality will be forever different than our own.  We have to master the art of flexibility to our perception and find curiosity in what happened during another’s experience to cause the molding of their beliefs.  Once we master this art, we can honor the other person’s perspective and offer more genuine conversations and relationships.

 The success driven individual realizes that to create the success they deserve, one must honor another’s perspective and have the courage to hold authentic conversations filled with artful questions that are filled with respect.

 Conversations filled with the positioning of who is right and who is wrong, or armoring for the next attack, will always lead to destroyed relationships, stress and fractured families, organizations and teams.

 Each of our realities are just as valid as any other person’s, so we should enter our dialogues with the primary intent to clarify, understand, enrich and empower our relationships with appropriate boundaries for ourselves.

 Here are some strategies for holding conversations that work, build relationships, congruency and respect while avoiding the pitfalls that are common when two people are seeing through different colored lenses.

 Be mindful of the following:

 When you enter into a difficult conversation, begin the dialogue with an established outcome for the discussion.

 Questions to ask:

 What is your outcome for our conversation?

 What do you need to feel like we both are honored?

 What would be your highest choice for this situation?

 Foundational Principles:

 Be in physiological rapport with the other person.

 Enter the conversation with the intention to clarify, enrich and empower.

 Be accountable for your part of the situation.

 Know that you are creating your own emotional responses and that you do have a choice.

 Be fully and completely present with the other person.

 Here are some great questions to begin the conversation:

 What choices can we co-create?

1. What is our outcome for this conversation?  What do we desire to have an awareness of, breakthrough in or resolution with?
2. What do you require to know from me to give you clarity?
3. What do you and I need to do to create a resolution?
4. What information from me do you need to feel safe?

 Many times in relationships, we hold in silence those conversations that seem too difficult to have.  This act of silence results in the growing resentment toward the other person for our own lack of courage to be authentic.  We will, generally, blame the other person for how bad we feel and our emotional contraction will lessen our sense of self respect and self worth.

 This is how relationships fail both personally and professionally.  The heart of the relationship is the conversation.  The success of that conversation is based upon our courage to step up with our intention to empower and clarify.  When we engage in our relationships from this foundation, we strengthen our self worth and empower ourselves to attract the opportunities that we deserve.

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