Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

So there were about 150 people in the room and I thought, ‘I can do this.  I’m real transformed, I’ve done all this work, I’ve got it together.’  So I go up there and I’m sitting on the stool and he asked me just one question, ‘Why are you here?’  I said something like, ‘I’m here to transform myself and gain all the tools I require to heal every person I meet and transform the planet.’

 

A lot of people speak like that, right?  So a box of Kleenex and an hour and a half later I got to why I was there.  Have you ever sat witnessing a person’s resistence?  It can be frustrating.  It’s like, ‘Would you just get to it.’  I’m sitting up there and at one point I said, ‘I’m not safe.  I’m not doing this.’  I was speaking that kind of dysfunctional language then.  I was upset.  I had yet to get to what it was and I could feel people’s thought forms being projected toward me from the audience.  I stopped everything and said, ‘If you think I’m going to undress and be naked in front of these people who have judgment, you are nuts.  This space is not safe.’  So what he did was he had everybody stop and repeat silently within themselves, ‘I stand in my light for your victory, Gary.’  And he did that and within ten minutes I got to it.  So do the thought forms of the room affect the person speaking?  Absolutely.

 

What I finally got to, and this is something we’ll be getting to today, from this grandiose, non-personalized conversation I was having about my outcome for being there I got to, I was there to receive the divine love of my mother and my father.  That’s a really big distance from healing the planet.  When I spoke it, every cell in body resonated because in reality that is why I was there.  I was feeling under-loved and under-acknowledged by my parents.  In reality we all have a similar core wound.  So this is what it means to be a committed listening.  When someone is speaking and they’re having a challenge, rather than judge use consciousness in a creative way that heals and by your thoughts think your highest thought for them – and it is a complete gift to yourself.

 

Presuppositions of our higher consciousness – I’m going to read these off and just plow right through them.  As I read these presuppositions they are other than the truth.  It is a choice of perception.  Did you know that the whole theory of evolution is a complete assumption with no empirical data to back it up?  So these are assumptions.  They are perceptions.  They are choice of seeing. 

 

1.  Our higher consciousness matures in wisdom through our life experience.

2.  Our higher consciousness is directly accessible depending upon the focus of our attention.

 

3.  Our higher consciousness has access to information beyond the conscious mind or the subconscious mind.

 

Presuppositions of our conscious mind

 

1.  Our conscious mind has the power of choice.

 

2.  Our conscious mind has conditioned free will to direct or be directed.

 

3.  Our conscious mind can choose unconsciousness or consciousness.  How many of you know that you can just go right to sleep – you can choose to just blank out.

 

4.  Our conscious mind can suppress or express from the subconscious.

 

Presuppositions of our subconscious mind

 

Our subconscious mind has 1 with 8 million miles of half-inch zeros behind it of possibility.  We use about 10% of our mental capacity.  The other 90% lies in the subconscious.  When we learn how to direct it we become very much more potentialized.  I likened the human condition to a chariot.  The horses are the horses of our mind; the chariot is our body.  The charioteer is our spirit and the reins that direct it is our imagination and our language.  When we pick those up we can direct our lives.  Some of our horses are wandering perilously toward a cliff.  Some of them are just hanging out in a field and chomping away and refuse to move.  And some are just wandering aimlessly.  It’s about directing it.

 

1.  Our subconscious mind stores memories temporally and atemporally.

 

2.  Our subconscious mind takes language literally. 

 

3.  Our subconscious mind plays back what it receives like a computer.  So what you are constantly languaging in your internal dialog and your external speech, your subconscious mind is taking it literally and will feed it back like a computer. 

 

4.  Our subconscious mind responds to feelings.

 

5.  Our subconscious mind responds to repetition very much like a record.  We run this groove and whatever we are habitually thinking that is the reality we will live in.

 

6.  Our subconscious mind runs the body through the autonomic nervous system. 

 

7.  The subconscious mind is a highly moral being and it prompts us to be a highly moral being.  It is the part of us that says, ‘Please don’t do that.’ 

 

8.  Our subconscious mind attracts experiences to us according to our beliefs. 

 

I was asked to teach something about how people get that they make up their own reality.  I talked for a couple of hours about filters and how we make up our own reality and the meaning we give something creates our heaven or our hell.  So I hired a strapping stud and this beautiful woman to come in and strip to Aretha Franklin.  After 3 hours of lecture I told the class, ‘I’m going to provide you an experience.  Take notes and write down how you’re filtering and giving meaning to this experience so that you see the reality you’re giving it actually creates your own reality and many other people will get a different sense and a different interpretation and therefore will create a whole different response. You’ll really get it.’  So the strippers came in and took off their clothes down to a g-string and they left.  Some people thought it was the most amazing experience.  Other people blew out of the training saying, ‘This is the most unprofessional – I can’t believe I was subjected to this.’  The meaning you give something is the heaven or the hell that you make up.  It’s all made up. 

More to come tomorrow.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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I truly believe that the continuation of learning is the very most important thing we can do with our lives.  I do my best every year to go and train with someone who I respect and honor to increase my own skills and knowledge and find new systems that dove tail into the work that I have been doing for so long. 

 A while back, I participated in a certification for myself in team assessment model.  I found the information and the trainers to be exceptional.  Some of you may remember when I sent out an invitation for the Mobius Model certification. Well, I went and found the information to be just what I was looking for.  A very simple yet powerful system for taking a group from conflict to possibility while discovering the group strength and designing the actions required to create the solution.  The Mobius Model is a communication model that moves us from a monologue consisting of praise and blame, claim and worry to a dialogue that establishes mutual understanding of the common ground that exists at the foundation of all conflict between people.

 Here’s the model in a nutshell: the model is an exploration of the possibilities that exist within the differences of perception between people.  Listen to understand not necessarily agree or disagree, and then seek the common ground and what is positive and missing that will benefit all concerned in the future. 

 As many of my readers have studied NLP we know that the map is not the territory.  Our perception is clouded, at best.  We can only see our perception of reality but not reality itself. When we come together in a team or partnership, we collide with different reference points and maps of reality, but there exists a common ground waiting to be discovered within all our differences.  The conflict is the birthplace of possibilities if we chose to practice deep listening.

 The art of perceptual positioning oneself in a relationship by practicing a three point perspective of others is vital to individuals who are choosing to lead.

Gregory Bateson says “that unless you can take three points of perception of another you do not have enough information to create an opinion.”   So we need to begin with the foundation of mutual understanding to seek and discover the common ground between people’s differences.  This inquiry unfolds possibilities and reveals the common ground that builds rapport and deepens our relationships.

 Relationships will be forever more the greatest heaven or the greatest hell we will venture into. I truly believe that in the hearts of people there is inherit goodness and beauty. The experiences that wound, can leave such lasting imprints upon us that they cloud our reason and perception so we cannot see the possibilities in our partnerships, our families and our teams. Relationships are the true acid test of where the rubber hits the road of what we learned in our life and how we demonstrate that learning so it can harden into our character through repetition of right action towards others.

 We are all seeking connection.  The practice of listening for what is the common ground between people’s differences is an act of choice that discovers the hidden patterns in our language, and the thoughts that connects us all in the quest for oneness.  

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