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A Lesson in the Power of Language

The three pillars of Neuro-Linguistic Programming are (1) language, (2) imagination and (3) emotion. In this piece I want to talk about language and how it works to shape our lives. While imagination and emotion are often discussed esoterically, language is this tangible thing that is acting upon us and coming from us all of the time. It shapes our culture and forms the foundation of our relationships with one another and, more importantly, with ourselves.

Yet, how often have you taken the power of language for granted? Like the oxygen we breathe, we rarely give it a second thought until something painful happens to make us reconsider our actions, our words, the messages we have put out to the universe.

Language is the tool that directs our thinking, and whatever you are thinking about-whatever your mind is focused on-will determine your success or your failure. How many times though have you said to yourself “I am going to change my thinking,” but all you did was try to change your thinking?(!) This is an exercise in futility. The easiest way to change how you think is to change your language, both internally and externally.

If you continuously language your communications to align with your personal vision of success and abundance, you are, in effect, directing your subconscious mind toward that goal. The same is true of your negative thoughts. If you are constantly expecting the worst, talking about your fears, imagining the future cloaked in possible failure, you will draw those experiences toward you.

We employ just 10% of our mental capacity while the other 90% lies dormant at the subconscious level. What would our lives be like if we learned how to program the infinite capacity of our minds toward our goals and outcomes?

Here are some little known facts about the subconscious mind:

• Your subconscious mind is programmed by your conscious mind, but often it is power without direction.
• Your subconscious mind takes language literally and personally. Language is one of the most important ways we program this power within us.
• That which we dwell on, feel to be real, and language accordingly, are the principal programming agents that guide our lives’ successes and failures.
• We have CHOICE. We are in charge of our minds and therefore our results. We have all the abilities and resources we require to succeed in life.

 What we require to accomplish is the study of how to awaken and direct our subconscious minds toward our goals. Language is a bridge to this awakening.

The subject on which you are dwelling is the temple at which you pray. Either the God of your negative thought forms or the God of your positive thought forms will answer. Your present day reality is a culmination of answers to your past thoughts. You have brought those answers into manifestation by what you consistently dwelt upon and “languaged” to be real. Because of the delay of time, you have forgotten what you called into being and thus created for yourself.

How will you recreate your tomorrows using the Power of Language?

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Through the last fifty years of leadership study, leadership scholars have modeled the most effective leadership strategies of the great leaders of our time, attempting to create a leadership strategy that can be utilized by all.

 

Although modeling others greatness can add to our knowledge, it is not us.  It is not our life experience, our hearts, and our spirits that can be remolded into another’s life lessons.  Can we learn information? Yes.  But if that is all we are bringing to the table of our teams and organizations then the people with whom we are choosing to have the greatest effect upon will sense the inauthentic foundation to our leadership abilities and we will exhibit an imitation of leadership rather than leadership qualities grounded in experience that people will desire to follow.

   

To distill the wisdom from our life experiences with humanity and heart is the true core quality of sustainable leadership.  Once you have master the ability to take your wisdoms and mold them into relationship strategies, communication and negotiation models with a deep desire to honor all, then you are beginning to birth forth and mature your authentic leader within.

 

There are three laws to awakening your Authentic Leader within.

Law #1 = Your relationship with yourself.

This law is essential to mastering the other two laws and is foundational to a balanced life between work, family and your life purpose.

Have you cleared the skeletons out of your closet? Have you transformed your limiting beliefs and fears from your past?  Are you more reactive than proactive? Are the filters that you perceive life through clear of the distortions of your past or are they so muddled with your past unresolved issues that much of what you experience internally is a repeating pattern of responses that do not reflect who you really are.

The first law is = Master your mental and emotional self and bring your word, thought and actions into alignment with your highest values so you live from congruence and consistency.

 

 

Law #2 = Your relationship with others.

This is were the rubber hits the road in all factors of leadership.  You must have masterful relationship skills, communication skills and conflict resolution skills.  If we do not have our internal emotional worlds matured, we can never become the leaders we are called upon to be, either in our families or organizations.

Have you mastered the models of effective communication?  How often do you insist upon an authentic conversation with those around you who are hiding their agendas?

Do you know what to do when people are creating their secret emotional contracts with you and holding and projecting their agendas on you without your knowledge?

How do now handle all the unspoken demands upon you? How do you now deal with the hallucinations of others that are placed on you daily because of your position, both in your organization and your families?

All leaders require the best tools to navigate their way through the landscape of relationships.  This is the #2 focus of all effective leaders.

Law #3 = Your relationship to the Sacred

Have you forgotten who you are and what brings peace to your heart?  This is the law of re-grounding yourself in the experience of what all your efforts are for anyway?

Who are you? What have you really come here to do?  What is your purpose and mission in life?

At the end of the day we all will face that point in time when we will stop and wonder did we really do what our souls came here to do or did we waste our life accumulating wealth and power but our hearts are filled with fear and there is a deep knowing somehow we missed the mark?

This is the law that is very personal to each person but it is to ground ourselves in our personal relationship to whatever we consider sacred for ourselves and develop a relationship of connecting to It, and being part of a larger purpose that is greater than our desires.   

 Integrating these laws into your everyday life is essential for effective living.  Every leader has abilities they have developed through the course of their life experience that has gotten them to where they are today.  These 3 Laws are the ways to take you to the next level of life balance and fulfillment.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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When we use language like the transformational choices it puts us into the place where we actually shackle the legs of our camels linguistically.  We’re taking our personal power linguistically and saying this is where we’re going.  Rewrite your present reality. Write in transformational language and create your outcome with specific language in one paragraph.  And then I’m going to ask you to write it in two lines.  What you’re going to do is take that big long story and you’re going to write an I am statement toward where you’re choosing to move your life in this particular issue of your life and you’re going to rewrite it, outcome oriented, first person accountable, in conscious language, devoid of language of self-sabotage, deletion, distortion, generalization, negation and disempowerment.  If you require to add specificity you’ll have more sentences – like dates and all of that.  If you’ve been confused then you’re choosing clarity.  If you’ve been lonely and you’re choosing a partnership, define it, put it on a time line, speak toward.

 

I have confidence in my creative ability.  I receive the gift of my father’s life.  I have the power to create now.

 

Give him a hand!  What if every word that came out of your mouth was like what you’re rewriting now?  What would it be like?  You would speak less, is that true?  But when you spoke….laser!

 

I remember when I was very young I got married.  What impressed me so much about her was that she spoke very little but when she spoke …..  We’d be in this huge group of people and she would just sit there silently, not saying anything, but when she spoke it was like an earthquake because what came out of her mouth was so laserly the truth from her heart.  As soon as that happened I thought, I am completely in love with this woman.  What she spoke was from her heart and it had such profound effects upon me.  Have you noticed how each of us are speaking?  Have you noticed how often want, need and try have been spoken?  Our culture has been based upon lack and scarcity and victim archetype.  Take the words want, need, try and I don’t know out of your vocabulary and you’ll be doing great.

 

I am free from worry and I use this freedom to create spiritual fulfillment, to double my income and to nurture my family.

 

How much – what does double mean to you?  Put in a figure. 

 

I am free from worry – you just went into your story and you told all of us that part of your time is spent in worry.  So what you get to do is say I claim my peace of mind and I use this freedom to create MY spiritual fulfillment and to double my income to $200,000 OR MORE a year and to nurture my wife, Dawn and my daughter, Caterina. 

 

Whenever someone is speaking in vagueness, it is consistently a form of fear, a fear of feeling the emotional body.  When we bring it in and we speak in ‘my’ we associate into the words.  You guys look at your statement and put in ‘my’ wherever you see the word ‘the.’

 

I am powerful, empowering and successful in my work at positive changes hypnosis, relationships with my family and create $300,000 or more in the year 2000.  And I am in a relationship and married a loving, empowering, infinitely wealthy, emotionally secure, accepting, fun, fun-loving, playful, young-thinking, brilliant, kind, exciting, active, charismatic, outgoing, compassionate, rational, creative, understanding, generous, very gorgeous, athletic, ever-evolving, family oriented, passionate, self accountable, sharing, honest single man.

 

Tell the world because when you speak it what happens is that you get to leave your story and step into the new way of being and perceiving. 

 

I am now open to see the love and acceptance of my mother and father.

 

This is a statement in the course of miracles it says, ‘All things present, past and to come are beautifully planned by one who unconditionally loves you.’ 

 

The things of the past – how much life energy have you spent in being a victim in your mind, running the internal blame dialog in your mind and living from the victim archetype of not being loved enough by mother or dad and how much time have you spent and energy wasted, your precious breaths incalculable in its value, on contemplating endlessly the story?  There are people who die who at their death bed are still repeating the story of what they did or did not get from their mother or their father, which got reflected into their adult relationships and then got projected onto their adult relationships.  So we have the opportunity to do something with our past which we will do tomorrow in a big way.

Join me in tomorrows Blog for more!

 

 

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So if you give it a different meaning it creates a whole different response in you and we have the control or the choice of the meaning we’re going to give something.  And therefore nothing out there is doing it to us.  We’re doing it and what do we choose to do differently.  It was a very interesting exercise.

 

9.  Our subconscious mind takes everything personally.

 

10.  Our subconscious mind is power without direction.  Our conscious mind gives it direction.

 

11.  Our subconscious mind is always alert and functioning.

 

12.  Our subconscious mind receives direction from our conscious mind.  So whatever we are thinking and speaking happens. 

 

If someone is intending to do you harm and you have the same experience that they’re intending to do you harm, what can you do with that?  That brings me to what happened yesterday to me.  I had the direct experience of someone intending to put up as much resistence to a proposal that I was proposing as possible and I knew it and I knew it was personal and I knew it was also professional jealousy or fear.  I had the real opportunity of creating a higher outcome for the proposal so that everyone won and stepping out of the history of the relationship.  I had that interpretation but my choice was to create a healing and to get into compassion for the lack and the scarcity that was driving that particular behavior.  So when I can get into compassion for that, which I have experienced, then I can understand it and I can work with it more completely and more honorably within myself.  Because if I attack the lack and the scarcity, all I do is make it get bigger.  If I’m choosing to create movement and demonstrate what I teach then it is a requirement for me to do something different with that interpretation – out of the choice of who I’m becoming rather than who I’ve always been.

 

Presuppositions of the nature of language.

 

1.  Language shapes our reality and is literally accepted by our subconscious mind.

 

2.  Language represents thought, thought represents how we filter and perceive reality. 

 

3.  Changing our language changes out thinking which changes our reality.

 

4.  The object on which you are dwelling, be it negative or positive, is the temple at which you pray.  Either the god of your negative thought forms or the god of your positive thought forms will answer.  You become what you dwell on.

 

A tribe in the Philippines have no word for war.  They have never been at war.  Back in the 20s and 30s when the great depression hit, the common metaphor for how the United States described itself on radio and in print was, ‘The country is crippled.’  Within three years – the first outbreak of polio.

 

Language and collective agreement creates huge shifts.  From our emotional states we behave.  >From our behavior the outside world responds to us.  By the response we receive our identities are built.  And the emotional states are created by the words we choose to use.

 

Why change your language?  Changing your language changes your thinking, changes your reality.  To create sustainable personal change it is important to utilize the tools that will re-language our world.  The following are examples of language currently used in everyday conversational English that we can transform.  In order to engage the other 90% of our brain we are required to direct our thinking and become alert to our personal use of language.  Once we do this we program our subconscious mind towards our outcome and our heart’s desire. 

 

I started this whole language course because I was teaching this really powerful Tools For Life training which is a three month intensive course.  That was the first training I ever did.  First month was about cleaning up your relationship with mom and dad.  Second month was about defining life’s purpose and third month was about programming the subconscious mind for outcome.  I thought I had the training that was going to change the planet.  What began to happen was, after about 4 or 5 of those trainings, the students that I saw make the life-changing shifts and I thought they were done.  They’re baked, they’re cooked, they’re done!  They would show up in my office about nine months later with the same emotional behavioral loops that they had before they entered the training.  What happened?  I saw them change.  I stopped everything.  I stopped all the training, my income plummeted.  I could no longer congruently get up in front of a group of people and say, ‘This will change your life.’  I stopped everything, went into this mild form of depression, observable.

 

Why is it that people revert back?  What I came to was the study of language.  And what I realized is that now I can congruently get up in front of a group of people and say, ‘This information will change your life when you use it.  Guaranteed, if you use it.  It will metamorphose how you’ve been living up to this point in time and will shift your life.  Now I can say that because it does.

 

This is the NLP model of communication.  Filters delete, distort and generalize our experiences.  Our filters store and suppress also but the main items are delete, distort and generalize.  We have a vent coming into the neurological sensors.  We have 2000 chunks per second coming in through our sight, sense of touch, smell, hearing and taste.  If we didn’t have these filters we’d all be rolling around foaming at the mouth right now because we’d be unable to withstand the amount of stimulus response that we would be aware of.  So our filters protect us.  What happens then is our filters consist of our language, memories, values, beliefs, attitudes, race, cultural, ancestral influence.  They delete the information, chunk it down to 7 pieces plus or minus 2.  Then we make an internal representation, a picture, of it, we create an emotional state, it gets reflected in our physiology and then we do the behavior.  The filters actually are the key points to what is going to be emphasized for the rest of the weekend.  Because when you know that you yourself have unique memories and unique values based upon what you have made up about your past, no one is going to experience the same experience in the exact same way.  We will have a different slant on it.  We will perceive it a little differently.  If I had someone run through here, dance around for a while and then leave, you would all make up something slightly different about it based upon your own individual filters.

See you tomorrow for more!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

 

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Look Within

 

 

 

 

 

The Choice to Change

 

 

 

Greetings,

Below is a process that can be used in creating change. This process truly works if you are faithful with it and follow the instructions.

Happy Thanksgiving!

A gift to you!

 

 

When we are choosing a different action plan for ourselves it is imperative that we understand the role of classical conditioning in order to create new behaviors that become part of who we are.

 

To begin this process please write out the five new behaviors you would like to become automatic within your daily life.

 

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Now please write out what you would have to believe in order for those behaviors to be part of your daily life.

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The purpose of the daily exercises to follow is to condition your mind and neurology to create new behaviors automatically.

Our entire reality has been built by classical conditioning.  We are creatures of habit and when we choose to create something more than who we’ve been, it also will be done by repeating a new behavior for a minimum of 21 days.  Contained within the following pages is a 30 day plan to condition your thinking with your new beliefs and instruct your neurology through repetition for new behaviors. 

It is important you condition your new beliefs daily.  If you miss a day you are required to begin again so you will have a minimum of 21 days of consecutive conditioning without interruption.

 

It is often the small actions steps which bring the greatest reward.

These daily action steps are designed to fit into your busy lifestyle by helping you take theses tools and philosophies and place them into small chunks of activity which will take just minutes a day.

We have the power to change our relationship to money. Be aware of your language in relationship to money and possibility.  Be aware of your thoughts about money and possibility and use the tools you have learned.

Inspiration without action becomes a vague memory.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

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