Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

I’d like to introduce you to a process that was introduced to me through an e-mail I received from one of my students and thought it was great as we set forward upon the journey into another year.  Here it is:

 At the end of each year develop a ceremony we will entitle “closing the year”.

Look back at what you’ve accomplished and learned, and get mentally ready for a great new year ahead.   

 
I suggest you spend some quiet time doing each of the following steps:

Step 1 Find a quiet place where you will not be interrupted.  Turn off your phones etc. Turn on some great “mind music”.  Grab a pen and some paper.  Write these things down.  Research has proven over and over that writing is so much more effective than typing this stuff into a computer.

Step 2 Take a look back at all the things you’ve accomplished and the great experiences you had this year.  Spend a few minutes making a list of everything you’ve managed to achieve. Write them all down … the big ones and the little ones.

Call this your 2006 “Victory List.”

You might be surprised at just how much you’ve accomplished in just twelve months.    Be kind to yourself.  Resist the urge to think of this exercise as selfish … it isn’t.  It is powerful.

Step 3 Rid your life of tolerations.  Take a serious look at the things you no longer want in your life; make a list of all the things you’d like to leave behind.

We all have things that get in our way.  We have things in our lives that are long past their ‘use by’ date. I call them “tolerations”. What have you tolerated (and continue to tolerate) that drain you of energy?

Are you willing to get those things out of your life for good … right now?

They include physical objects, poor habits, limiting beliefs, thought patterns that hurt us and others, and yes, even people we no longer choose to spend time with.

Step 4 Think about your dreams for the future. What do you really desire to bring into your life? What experiences would you like to enjoy? What new skills would you like to learn? What would you like to do? How would you like to be?

Make notes, draw a picture or speak into a tape recorder to help you remember your dreams.

Here’s where you might want to spend more than five or ten minutes.  Take as much time as you like dreaming about the future you desire.  See it in your mind.  Make vivid pictures of the way you want it to be.

If you don’t know what you desire, ask yourself the ‘miracle question’:

“If a miracle occurred during the night, and when you woke up tomorrow … everything in your life was exactly the way you’d like it to be, how would you know there’d been a miracle?”

What would you see, feel and hear that would let you know a miracle had taken place?

What are the things, experiences, qualities, and ways of being you’d like to experience more of in the future. Make a list of these.

These can be quite general: Spend more time with your family? Get fitter? Earn more? Learn more? Spend more time in the present moment?

List the things you’d like to attract into your life.

Step #5   Make a list of your goals for the year ahead. What would you like to accomplish? What would you like to learn? What would you like to get? Who would you like to meet? In what ways would you like to grow? What are you committed to this year that you did not do last year?

What really is the power of setting goals?  Think about this very simply idea:

 you have a much better chance of hitting a target when you know what it is.

Human neurology is goal-seeking – so access your incredibly powerful unconscious mind – and make a list of what you’d like to achieve in 2006.

Step #6  Read through your list of last years accomplishments. Congratulate yourself for everything you did right. Put this list (#2) on your left.

Read through the list of things you’d like to leave behind. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you feel you’ve made, and put this list (#3) on your left also.

Take the materials relating to your dreams (#4), and place them in front of you.

Review the list of things you’d like to attract into your life, and put this list (#5) on your right.

Read through your goals for the year ahead, then put this list (#5) on your right also (if you are left handed, lists 1 & 2 on your right and 4 & 5 on your left).

Imagine all the good feelings, thoughts and energies from your accomplishments coming into your body (you can visualize them coming into your body in any way you choose).

Step #7 Change something-anything. We all get stuck from time to time.  We require to learn to welcome.  We can so easily get stuck in a routine that makes our lives dull and boring.  Getting stuck is normal, staying stuck is a complete option!

What should you change?

It really doesn’t matter.  It can be a lamp shade, a bedspread, a piece of art, your route to work, your hairstyle, re-arrange your furniture, clean up your office, throw out all the junk … just change anything and change as much as you can manage.

Step #8  Who can you forgive today?  Forgive someone who may have hurt you.  Even if they are dead wrong.  Wipe the slate clean.  The biggest mistake we can make is to go into a new year with old baggage.

Reconcile all damaged relationships as fast as you can.  It isn’t easy … but it could be the most important thing you do all year.

Step #9  Forgive yourself.  So you weren’t perfect in ‘08 … take solace in the fact that no one else was either.  Forgive yourself and try not to make the same mistakes again.  You are a human being becoming … and you are special.

Step #10  Commit to a life of gratitude which is a wide open road to true and lasting happiness.  Spend more time being grateful and less time being critical.

Make a list of 20 things you are most grateful for.  If you get on a roll, just keep writing. Fill up a legal pad and write more. This is a powerful exercise and a great way to start a new year.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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Miracles of Change

I have had a great, great time.  I am strongly suggesting and strongly inviting you to take this information and live it passionately, one-pointedly, and know that your breaths are more valuable than all the three worlds of existence, the astral, the causal and the mental.  We are meant to do our life work and the only thing that is staying between you and this miraculous expression that you are the still point in your ancestral line to do is a belief and a gathering of false evidences that your beliefs are true.  I believe it is time to live differently.  My invitation to you is you now know how to shift and change.  You’ve demonstrated it to yourself today.  You know how easy it can be.  You know how to sustain that change through the coaching of your own language and the alertness of it.  We are here as a team at the neurolinguistic training center to create support.  There are many things for you to explore.  My highest choice is that you take these tools and you use them.  Shift your own life and then demonstrate that shift in your actions, your words and your thoughts to the circles of people you influence and begin to create your own heaven on your own earth.  Because until you change your conception of yourself, the world will stay exactly the way it’s been.  And when you yourself, within yourself, change your conception of yourself, your world will begin to shift.  Collectively, there are people all over the planet doing this.  You will add to the collective of the hundredth monkey.  And we will collectively, when enough of us do it, the whole planet gets it.  When humanity begins to do a new behavior everyone gets it.  So I welcome you to the adventure.  It’s a good one.  And please take this information.  You have it now.  Keep it alive.

 

At night if your energy is very low, say to your subconscious mind, ‘Subconscious, work with my high self to remove the emotions and blockages to my abundance.’ This is a very powerful process.  When I do this I feel very different.  Now you have 3 to 4 to 5 techniques to assist you so you go to sleep at night in the most resourceful way possible.  There are no more excuses, you guys.  None.  Your life as now required to be magnificent.  You have the tools.

 

Close your eyes.  Take a few breaths.  Grandfather, Grandmother, we surrender over this information.  Let us take this information and from our hearts live it, speak it, act it, think it.  Let us allow this information in at the very deepest level.  In our dream states tonight let us awaken in us a new awareness of the power of our word, the power of our imagination, that we now know how to pick up the reins of the chariot that we ride in and we now choose to steer the horses of our minds in the direction of our highest ideals, fulfilling our life’s purpose and adding light to those around us.  We are grateful for having this knowledge.  We’re grateful for the community we are creating and we surrender over this weekend.  We now know how to tie the legs of our camels and we surrender the rest over to Allah.  Hometakquiasa(?)  Amen.

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When we use language like the transformational choices it puts us into the place where we actually shackle the legs of our camels linguistically.  We’re taking our personal power linguistically and saying this is where we’re going.  Rewrite your present reality. Write in transformational language and create your outcome with specific language in one paragraph.  And then I’m going to ask you to write it in two lines.  What you’re going to do is take that big long story and you’re going to write an I am statement toward where you’re choosing to move your life in this particular issue of your life and you’re going to rewrite it, outcome oriented, first person accountable, in conscious language, devoid of language of self-sabotage, deletion, distortion, generalization, negation and disempowerment.  If you require to add specificity you’ll have more sentences – like dates and all of that.  If you’ve been confused then you’re choosing clarity.  If you’ve been lonely and you’re choosing a partnership, define it, put it on a time line, speak toward.

 

I have confidence in my creative ability.  I receive the gift of my father’s life.  I have the power to create now.

 

Give him a hand!  What if every word that came out of your mouth was like what you’re rewriting now?  What would it be like?  You would speak less, is that true?  But when you spoke….laser!

 

I remember when I was very young I got married.  What impressed me so much about her was that she spoke very little but when she spoke …..  We’d be in this huge group of people and she would just sit there silently, not saying anything, but when she spoke it was like an earthquake because what came out of her mouth was so laserly the truth from her heart.  As soon as that happened I thought, I am completely in love with this woman.  What she spoke was from her heart and it had such profound effects upon me.  Have you noticed how each of us are speaking?  Have you noticed how often want, need and try have been spoken?  Our culture has been based upon lack and scarcity and victim archetype.  Take the words want, need, try and I don’t know out of your vocabulary and you’ll be doing great.

 

I am free from worry and I use this freedom to create spiritual fulfillment, to double my income and to nurture my family.

 

How much – what does double mean to you?  Put in a figure. 

 

I am free from worry – you just went into your story and you told all of us that part of your time is spent in worry.  So what you get to do is say I claim my peace of mind and I use this freedom to create MY spiritual fulfillment and to double my income to $200,000 OR MORE a year and to nurture my wife, Dawn and my daughter, Caterina. 

 

Whenever someone is speaking in vagueness, it is consistently a form of fear, a fear of feeling the emotional body.  When we bring it in and we speak in ‘my’ we associate into the words.  You guys look at your statement and put in ‘my’ wherever you see the word ‘the.’

 

I am powerful, empowering and successful in my work at positive changes hypnosis, relationships with my family and create $300,000 or more in the year 2000.  And I am in a relationship and married a loving, empowering, infinitely wealthy, emotionally secure, accepting, fun, fun-loving, playful, young-thinking, brilliant, kind, exciting, active, charismatic, outgoing, compassionate, rational, creative, understanding, generous, very gorgeous, athletic, ever-evolving, family oriented, passionate, self accountable, sharing, honest single man.

 

Tell the world because when you speak it what happens is that you get to leave your story and step into the new way of being and perceiving. 

 

I am now open to see the love and acceptance of my mother and father.

 

This is a statement in the course of miracles it says, ‘All things present, past and to come are beautifully planned by one who unconditionally loves you.’ 

 

The things of the past – how much life energy have you spent in being a victim in your mind, running the internal blame dialog in your mind and living from the victim archetype of not being loved enough by mother or dad and how much time have you spent and energy wasted, your precious breaths incalculable in its value, on contemplating endlessly the story?  There are people who die who at their death bed are still repeating the story of what they did or did not get from their mother or their father, which got reflected into their adult relationships and then got projected onto their adult relationships.  So we have the opportunity to do something with our past which we will do tomorrow in a big way.

Join me in tomorrows Blog for more!

 

 

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Language of disempowerment: I want to go to the movies.  I am going to the movies tonight.  I will go to the movies tonight.  I choose to go to the movies tonight.  I will enjoy going to the movies tonight.  These are different levels of empowerment.  I can’t.  I can, I choose to, I will, I have the resources I require, I will create the resources I require.  I will create what I require to do the job.  It’s yet to be here but I’ll find out how to create it.  Rather than saying I can’t.  When you say I can’t what happens?  Do you throw yourself into the victim archetype immediately?  Do you cut at the root of the possibility of actually creating some of the resources that yet have been able to wake up in you?  When you say I’ll explore how I can create the resources I require to do it.  Do something other than go home and coach everyone around you.  Only coach if you are asked.  Get permission.  I just did this great seminar.  I learned a lot about the power of language.  Would you be interested in having some upgrades to what you just said? 

 

I was in a relationship working for months on how powerful my new relationship was going to be.  It was going to be so great.  It was about 8 months old.  So I came home from one of my trainings and I walked through the door, put down my bag – Hi, honey, I’m home.  And I heard, ‘We have to talk.’  So I sat down.  You’re too spiritual for me, you’re life is going in a direction I don’t choose to go, I’m moving out.  And you talk funny.  And pleaded with me to just talk normal.  Because this was really a co-dependent relationship.  And if I spoke in all the stuff I used to speak in, it would link in and hook that co-dependency.  I was so proud of myself because I generally I’ll drag out all my evidence that they were wrong and weigh it all out and make them feel badly.  What I said was, ‘You don’t see who I am.  Therefore you’re not the one.’  I had worked very, very diligently in creating a real partnership with someone.  And I personally thought this was it.  Three months later I met the person who was it.  The space had to clear out first.  And I worked diligently at creating a relationship because I was fully ready.

 

Unconscious language.  You really make me angry.  I create anger within myself when you do that.  I’m responsible for my feelings and what I make up about what you just said is….  This is very powerful because I was in a relationship once for 9 years with someone who was directly the opposite of everything I am.  And before I created this relationship I prayed to god, probably the only time in my life I ever surrendered and I said, ‘Bring me the relationship that will give me the greatest level of spiritual progress.’  I was very brave in those days.  So I create this relationship. Within three hours after that surrender process the relationship showed up.  Three hours was all it took.  We were together for 9 years.  I was so reactive and so unhealthy in this relationship.  When I got to the point – obviously somehow I get to be accountable for what is happening in my world here.  And I got this idea about filtering and so I thought I would apply it in my most tender place and the weakest place that I was – the place that had atrophied the most, which was the huge victim archetype in relationships – somehow I’m a victim of this person.  They’ve got control over my emotional state and if they don’t give it to me or if they do give it to me I’m either happy or sad.  My partner would do something and I would just get this huge emotional response to it and I’d just sit there silently and fume.  And then I said, ‘What you just said and did, I got really upset at and I’m responsible for the emotions I’m creating in myself and I’m giving meaning to what you just said and did and this is what I made up about it.  Could you give me clarity on what you meant by what you just did and said?’  And not once, not twice, not a hundred times, but every time I had the courage to do that and stay out of my victim and be emotionally accountable, every time I was 180 degrees off from how I interpreted it.  And that’s where a lot of this information started to come forward from.  When I began to realize that in that environment where I was the most reactive and wounded and I started to take accountability and began to question to get clarity, I was completely off.  And we do this.  We mind read a lot.  And we mind read out of the hurt and wound of our past through our filters.  Ask for clarity, you guys.

 

My dream is that you will make me happy.  My dream is that I create my happiness and you create yours.  When you think about language and you think about the words like I need and I want and I’ll try and I don’t know – if we could just take those four out of our conversation – why do you think need, want and I don’t know are so pervasive in our conversational language?  The words dissociate you from a focus and they place you in the victim archetype.  They are literally the language that takes all the strength and power out of your ability to actually achieve.  When you say I deserve it presupposes a time when you didn’t feel deserving.  So when you say I claim, I create or I am it takes you out of the context of either deserving or not deserving.  It just is.  What used to take me a private session half an hour or 45 minutes to get to with neurolinguistic programming, I get to within 10 minutes with a client through their language, just from what they speak and the presuppositions that is behind the language they choose to use.

More to follow tomorrow on this subject!

Love & Light

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Language of disempowerment.  Our subconscious mind takes it literally, we’ve been speaking in forms of language that we hear around us daily.  We are often unaware of what we are actually programming into the subconscious.  Our goal is to use language as outcome oriented, first person accountable moving in the direction of our heart’s desire.  When we use the language of disempowerment we keep our thoughts and emotions in a place of stagnation.

 

Examples of the language of disempowerment: I want and I wish.  Everybody say I want.  Now say My choice is.  How does it feel?  Does it feel different energetically?  Yes!  The volume totally went up.  Now say I require.  I need.  I want.  Now say I require.  Which has more power?  I need.  I desire.  Desire means from the Latin root for the father.  I want and I need literally means more desire without ever having the outcome.  That’s what it literally translates to.  Yes, it’s an outcome in the way it’s languaged is that because you’re wanting it and the subconscious takes your language literally and personally, you can continue wanting it for a very, very long time.  But when you say my choice is, I create my divine partnership, by this date, that’s something quite different than wanting to get married.  What you do is you actually take the infinite power of your subconscious, which is 1 with 8 million miles of half inch zeros, and you go snap – go there!  When you sit in the emotional state of actually feeling that your lover is actually there and you fall asleep at night and you feel your lover’s breath on the back of your neck and you go to sleep in the emotional state of already being in that committed relationship – because before you go to sleep at night is the seed time of the subconscious mind.  Your subconscious processes that emotion for 6 to 8 hours.  What do you think that does?  When you go to sleep in loneliness, in tearfulness about what is not, what do you think your subconscious mind processes for 6 to 8 hours?  For more direct manifestation of what you will experience the following day and have evidence of.  You will see it when you believe it!  We believe it first and then we see it.  So that’s the difference between want and I choose.

 

I’m not.  As soon as you hear I’m not coming out of your mouth cancel, clear, which I’ll teach you in just a little bit, and go I am.  Whenever you’re speaking about I’m not, whenever you use that, you’re going to go into your story immediately.  You’re talking about what you’re moving away from rather than what you’re moving toward.  Remember that when you’re speaking about what you’re moving away from you’re in your story and you’re giving mental focus to what you’re moving away from rather than what you’re moving toward.  So it’s very important that I’m not is a huge red flag for you that you’re going into your story and you’re speaking at the temple and you’re praying at the temple of what you’re moving away from.

 

I would.  I will.  I must and I’ve got to.  How many of you do that one?  I choose to, I can’t, I will, I should, I will, I will try, I will, I hope, my choice is, I don’t know – how many of you say I don’t know?  Big time.  So I don’t know is replaced by I’ll find out, I choose to know.  You make me.  I love that one.  In the context of relationships…how many of you have been in relationships where your partner says, ‘You make me…’  You know you’re in trouble.  I create for myself.  Let me.  From whom are we asking permission?  It’s hard.  It’s a challenge.  It’s an opportunity.  So if it has been difficult for you in the past and you choose to claim it as an opportunity, because in reality if it’s been difficult for you in the past it is literally an opportunity to strengthen those parts of you that have been atrophied so it can become easy.  Is that true?  So it is literally an opportunity.

 

If all else fails.  That means you are starting on the worst possible case scenario which means that is the temple you are praying at and that’s what you will get more of.  My highest choice is, at least I’ll be able to…  What if you said, at most I’ll be able to….  What would that be like?  Where would your mind be?  What I’m speaking about is literally the minutiae of your thought patterns.  This becomes an active system of meditation through your use of language.  When you do this your life completely changes because your thinking must shift.  It must shift with the language and it becomes an active meditation 24 hours a day.  And as you apply this, your life completely metamorphoses because your thinking does, therefore your reality.  At least, at most.  If/then.  If you go to the dog pound with me, then I’ll buy you lunch.  My choice is I’ll buy you lunch.  When/then.  When my choice is.  Almost/kind of.  I’ll kind of marry you.  I’ll almost marry you.  Is that a commitment?  Do you feel empowered?  You replace that with it is, you are, and that will get you there.  Specifically speak about what it is.  When you take those vague qualities out of your languaging you become more directed, more direct and more committed.  When you are consistently speaking about how something will be and you refuse to claim it now, first of all it’s a fear of feelings.  When you claim it now, you bring it into manifestation and creation now.

 

I keep hammering this one point.  Speak toward, speak toward, speak toward.  Stay out of the story.  If you find yourself going to the I’m not and all the negations you know you’re going into your story.  That’s your red flag.  What you are dwelling on you are creating more of.  Whatever your mind thinks about habitually, you are creating the neurosynaptic networks in your head that create the perceptual filters which makes up how you will immediately respond to the world.  This is how you created your reality.  This is how you created you to be you.  So the more you actually focus on where you’re moving instead of the story about where you’ve been, you create your life out of your heart’s desire. 

 

We can no longer stand in the light of the victim archetype which is cultural through our entire world.  Time is speeding up.  How many of you know the planet is slowing down in rotations?  That the particles rotating around the nucleus of the atoms is actually speeded up.  That the entire foundation of all we know to be real has accelerated.  Does this have an effect on you, then we are manifesting quicker than ever before and that means either heaven or hell.  That’s why this information I feel is very important to get out there.  Unless we provide the conscious choice of the words, feelings and imagination to direct our subconscious mind our habitual, ancestrally influenced thinking and our language which represents that thinking will direct our subconscious mind for us.  The choice we make moment to moment is do we create from our potential outcome or from our past limitations.  We make our choice with every word we speak or think.  Our words are our representation of our thinking.  Our thinking represents the focus of our minds.  The focus of our minds is our prayer.  Whatever your mind focuses upon is the temple at which you are praying.  I love that page.  Transformational choices.  My highest choice leaves our highest vision for the event, circumstance or person as the last thing on the screen of our minds.  I make up, I give meaning to, gives us the reality of being accountable for the filters we perceive our life and relationship through.  I choose: expression of our will and identity moving toward our outcome.  I can: expression of our identity, our will and our potential in choosing our outcome.  I have brings a desired state to now, collapses time from the future to the present.  I am; expression of identity claiming the emotional state of our desire fulfilled.  I create; expression of identity claiming our divine right as co-creators. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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