Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

 

So if you give it a different meaning it creates a whole different response in you and we have the control or the choice of the meaning we’re going to give something.  And therefore nothing out there is doing it to us.  We’re doing it and what do we choose to do differently.  It was a very interesting exercise.

 

9.  Our subconscious mind takes everything personally.

 

10.  Our subconscious mind is power without direction.  Our conscious mind gives it direction.

 

11.  Our subconscious mind is always alert and functioning.

 

12.  Our subconscious mind receives direction from our conscious mind.  So whatever we are thinking and speaking happens. 

 

If someone is intending to do you harm and you have the same experience that they’re intending to do you harm, what can you do with that?  That brings me to what happened yesterday to me.  I had the direct experience of someone intending to put up as much resistence to a proposal that I was proposing as possible and I knew it and I knew it was personal and I knew it was also professional jealousy or fear.  I had the real opportunity of creating a higher outcome for the proposal so that everyone won and stepping out of the history of the relationship.  I had that interpretation but my choice was to create a healing and to get into compassion for the lack and the scarcity that was driving that particular behavior.  So when I can get into compassion for that, which I have experienced, then I can understand it and I can work with it more completely and more honorably within myself.  Because if I attack the lack and the scarcity, all I do is make it get bigger.  If I’m choosing to create movement and demonstrate what I teach then it is a requirement for me to do something different with that interpretation – out of the choice of who I’m becoming rather than who I’ve always been.

 

Presuppositions of the nature of language.

 

1.  Language shapes our reality and is literally accepted by our subconscious mind.

 

2.  Language represents thought, thought represents how we filter and perceive reality. 

 

3.  Changing our language changes out thinking which changes our reality.

 

4.  The object on which you are dwelling, be it negative or positive, is the temple at which you pray.  Either the god of your negative thought forms or the god of your positive thought forms will answer.  You become what you dwell on.

 

A tribe in the Philippines have no word for war.  They have never been at war.  Back in the 20s and 30s when the great depression hit, the common metaphor for how the United States described itself on radio and in print was, ‘The country is crippled.’  Within three years – the first outbreak of polio.

 

Language and collective agreement creates huge shifts.  From our emotional states we behave.  >From our behavior the outside world responds to us.  By the response we receive our identities are built.  And the emotional states are created by the words we choose to use.

 

Why change your language?  Changing your language changes your thinking, changes your reality.  To create sustainable personal change it is important to utilize the tools that will re-language our world.  The following are examples of language currently used in everyday conversational English that we can transform.  In order to engage the other 90% of our brain we are required to direct our thinking and become alert to our personal use of language.  Once we do this we program our subconscious mind towards our outcome and our heart’s desire. 

 

I started this whole language course because I was teaching this really powerful Tools For Life training which is a three month intensive course.  That was the first training I ever did.  First month was about cleaning up your relationship with mom and dad.  Second month was about defining life’s purpose and third month was about programming the subconscious mind for outcome.  I thought I had the training that was going to change the planet.  What began to happen was, after about 4 or 5 of those trainings, the students that I saw make the life-changing shifts and I thought they were done.  They’re baked, they’re cooked, they’re done!  They would show up in my office about nine months later with the same emotional behavioral loops that they had before they entered the training.  What happened?  I saw them change.  I stopped everything.  I stopped all the training, my income plummeted.  I could no longer congruently get up in front of a group of people and say, ‘This will change your life.’  I stopped everything, went into this mild form of depression, observable.

 

Why is it that people revert back?  What I came to was the study of language.  And what I realized is that now I can congruently get up in front of a group of people and say, ‘This information will change your life when you use it.  Guaranteed, if you use it.  It will metamorphose how you’ve been living up to this point in time and will shift your life.  Now I can say that because it does.

 

This is the NLP model of communication.  Filters delete, distort and generalize our experiences.  Our filters store and suppress also but the main items are delete, distort and generalize.  We have a vent coming into the neurological sensors.  We have 2000 chunks per second coming in through our sight, sense of touch, smell, hearing and taste.  If we didn’t have these filters we’d all be rolling around foaming at the mouth right now because we’d be unable to withstand the amount of stimulus response that we would be aware of.  So our filters protect us.  What happens then is our filters consist of our language, memories, values, beliefs, attitudes, race, cultural, ancestral influence.  They delete the information, chunk it down to 7 pieces plus or minus 2.  Then we make an internal representation, a picture, of it, we create an emotional state, it gets reflected in our physiology and then we do the behavior.  The filters actually are the key points to what is going to be emphasized for the rest of the weekend.  Because when you know that you yourself have unique memories and unique values based upon what you have made up about your past, no one is going to experience the same experience in the exact same way.  We will have a different slant on it.  We will perceive it a little differently.  If I had someone run through here, dance around for a while and then leave, you would all make up something slightly different about it based upon your own individual filters.

See you tomorrow for more!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

 

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Events are empty unto themselves and our perspectives ascribe the meaning to them which will either transform them into personal and professional benefits or perpetuate our distortion.  Our distortions are generated from the collective experience of our past, therefore the First LAW for a Fulfilling Life is: Transform your past to be Your Greatest Ally for Your Future.

 For any of us to be successful, personally and professionally, we require powerful and trusting alliances within our relationships.  The primary hierarchy of importance in our relationships is first, relationship to oneself.  The second is relationship to others, and the third is relationship to a deeper purpose for which your life contributes back.   Relationships with others are based upon our ability to effectively communicate and our communication is based upon the level of rapport and trust we are capable of establishing.

 One extraordinarily important principle for organizations and families to recognize is each member of the organization affects others and will enhance or contaminate the culture.   According to the Heart Math Research Institute, each individual emanates a resonate field of energy measurable by science that affects other people around them.  This resonate field is created by the overall emotional states the person feels continually.

 The health of your family or your company is based upon the collective thinking patterns of the members within it.  Each person affects the whole of the environment in which they dwell, whether it is home or office, with their thoughts, the language that represents those thoughts and the emotions they produce as a consequence.  Does it make sense that fundamental Life skills to transform thinking and emotions are required for our personal, spiritual and financial success?

 I was conducting a series of trainings for a prominent pharmaceutical company in California in their global safety department, which consisted of approximately twenty highly skilled doctors and research scientists.

The VP of the department had contacted me and communicated that the culture within the department was sliding downhill fast.  The staff was under tremendous pressure with long work hours and impossible deadlines.  The extra stress of personality conflicts was the straw that would break the camel’s back. His primary concern was that he would begin losing his highly qualified staff he had worked so hard to recruit.

   I arrived on the grounds of the company which was like a mini city in its entirety.  With walking paths, child care, a gymnasium, a pool and overlooking the Pacific Ocean:  A rather stunning place to work.

 As I enter the training room and met the team I noticed one individual in the room who seemed defensive and withdrawn before I even opened my mouth.  The team was cordial, alert, but reserved.  As I began the presentation this one individual would barely participate, distracted others and was in overall resistance to learning the communication tools I was presenting. 

 Rather than leave a contaminating personality in the room with the other willing participants, I firmly, and respectfully, asked him to leave the training room.  With every organization I have the privilege of working with, I reserve this right.

 As soon as this doctor left the training room the entire room took a collective breath simultaneously.  The energy of the room relaxed and I observed the tension leaving the bodies of the members of the team.  I stood there wondering could this one individual have this much influence on the stress levels and the growing negative culture of the department.

 I merely had to ask one simple question: “How are you all feeling now?”

Like a monsoon of information, each person shared their frustration with this individual.  He was recently recruited and was one of the medical heads of the department which required much of the work to be approved by.  Story after story came forward about how difficult it was to accomplish the workload after his arrival and how the management could not see it.

 Resentment had built toward the VP, communication lessened because of resentment and the VP did not have enough information to take action. 

The remainder of the trainings went effectively and the culture shifted dramatically after the enactment of the communication tools which were taken onboard by the team.  The resistant doctor entered a coaching program with me, through the request of the VP.  The core experiences which drove his behavior were uncovered and resolved, resulting in him becoming a functional part of the team.  

 My belief is that people affect other people and each one of us has the responsibility to become fully matured in our relationship to ourselves.  By taking responsibility for our own emotional states, getting clarity, having effective conversational and negotiation skills while ceasing the destructive positioning for power and the need to be right, we can reach that mature state in our relationship to ourselves.  Each one of us requires to become fully self aware and have the tools to shift our beliefs, transform our past experiences to retain the wisdom rather than the resentment.  Each one of us requires to become fully responsible for the filters we see our world through, so that we can become as free as we can from over reacting emotions and distortions.

 We require to learn the art of entering into our communication with a genuine desire to enrich our business and personal relationships with authentic conversations and accountability for our emotional states.  When we exhibit flexibility in our approach to others, we view the diversity of other peoples’ perspectives, with understanding and grace, while creating peace within ourselves.

 Here are some foundational principles:

 Principles:

1. Be in physiological rapport with the other person so you have the ability to create an unconscious connection during the conversation.

2. Enter the conversation with the intention to clarify, enrich and empower yourself, and the other person equally.

3. Authentically desire that a win-win occur from the conversation.

4. Be accountable for your part in creating any disagreements in the situation

5. Be fully focused and completely present with the other person.

6. Know that you are creating your own emotional responses and that you have a choice.

 Before you enter a conversation that is important to you, clarify your outcomes with the following questions when you enter the conversation:

 Setting Outcomes:

1. What do you desire?

2. If we both got what we desired what would that look like?

3. What would be your highest choice for the situation?

4. What would it take to make us both feel great?

5. What do you require to feel like we both won?

6. What is your outcome for our conversation?

 Our relationships are the temple we reveal our emotional intelligence and our relationship with ourselves.  The more we can enter our conversations with awareness the greater our relationships will blossom, the more effective we will become and the higher our self esteem and self worth will rise. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

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