Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

1. There is only two things which motivate human behavior: Love and a call for Love.

2. The agenda of romantic love is to bring light to those childhood wounds left unhealed and to provide an environment to receive and heal those parts of ourselves.

 3. Our behavior is our adaptation to loss.  Change is the catalyst for healing.

4. Our behavior has a positive intention given the resources we have available to us at the time.

5. We are in relationship with ourselves in the context of another.  Our relationships provide us with a mirror in which to see those parts of ourselves we cannot normally see.

6. Authentic communication is the key ingredient for a successful relationship.  If we are hiding our truth in relationship, we disempower ourselves and create a environment of resentment, projection and fear. 

 7. Live from your personal life values with greater congruency between your thought word and deed. The more congruency, the stronger your personal identity.  The stronger your personal identity the healthier the relationship you will create.  You are the common denominator in your relationship history.  When you change your history in relationships will also change.

 8. Understand you distort reality.  Begin your communication with the understanding that you see through your individual filters of your accumulated beliefs and memories.  Be personally accountable for the emotions you are creating based upon the meaning you are giving circumstances in your world.  The map is not the territory.

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Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Life is a Journey

Everybody close your eyes.  My invitation to you is, think of a memory from your past and as you think of that memory just notice the pictures, sounds and feelings of that memory and notice the direction from which those pictures, sounds and feelings are coming to you and point to the direction please.  Just imagine your past in front of you now.  Ask your subconscious mind to take your past and move it directly behind you.  Ask your subconscious mind to swing around from in front of you, retaining all of the positive learning’s in front of you, and swing the past to behind you.  Place the past behind you now and imagine your subconscious mind moving your past from in front of you to behind you and locking it into place.  How does it feel to have the past behind you? 

Think of something very compelling for your future.  Notice the direction that future event is coming to you from and point to it please.  Make a picture of that internal representation of your future outcome that you’ve been going for, that one yesterday.  Make a picture of it.  Put sounds in it.  Put emotions in it.  Create it in your own mind because you are the architect of your future.  The best way to predict the future is to create it.  Now I’m going to ask you, just looking at that picture of your outcome, that picture of you being the you that you know you’re destined to be, I’m going to ask you now to step into it.  Imagine yourself now, you were looking at it before, now step into it.  Associate into it.  Feel what it feels like to be you already expressed, already expanded, already realized.  Step into it and feel it.  Breathe in.  Breathe in the color of that picture, the sensations, the fragrance, the tastes of that picture.  Just step into it and be it. 

Now imagine stepping out of it, putting that picture in a frame, looking at yourself feeling what it feels like to be that and have that picture before you.  You’re holding it with both hands, this picture of your outcome, of the power to know that you are now consciously creating with the tools you have now your destiny.  Imagine floating up above yourself at now, seeing your future timeline stretch out wherever it is and imagine your past time line stretching out wherever it is for you.  And imagine these two lines stretching out from your body representing your subconscious mind’s representation and allocation of all the events that have occurred or will occur in time for you in this lifetime.  And imagine yourself floating higher and higher and higher and higher above yourself at now, seeing your past, seeing your future, holding the picture of your outcome.  Now take a breath, big inhale and blow the color of your circle of excellence into the picture on your exhale.  Blow it in.  And colorize and accentuize and energize that picture even more.  Take another breath and blow that energy into your picture.  That’s right.  Blow it in.  Float back in time above your time line to the very beginning of your life.  Float back in time.  That’s right.  Now take your picture and float down on that time line and install the picture right in the middle of your past time line, as if your past time line could be running through that picture of your future outcome and your knowledge that now you know how to consciously create your future from this moment forward.  Good.  Now as if we had you in a time machine, I’m going to count to three.  On the count of three you’re going to take your picture and you’re going to shoot like you’ve been shot through a cannon, colorizing your past with all of the colors of your now knowledge that you are the master of how you create your reality.  You will color your entire past, every image, every event, every circumstance, every relationship with the knowledge of who you are and your power to co-create your universe with the colors of your outcome picture.  As we move toward now this picture will colorize all of your past events.  Are you ready?  On the count of three you will shoot like a missile into your future from birth up until now colorizing all the events and all the relationships with your new now knowledge of consciously creating your reality.  On the count of 3.  One, two and three.  All the way to now.  Very good.

Float up above your time line holding the picture, look back on your past and see the new colors of your past.  Float back in time again.  Go to the very beginning, just like you did the first time.  Float down to your birth and install the picture with all the emotions, all the knowledge, all the power, all the wisdom, all the will.  Install the picture.  Very good.  On the count of 3 we’re going to put another coat of the colors of your ability to co-create your world into your past.  On the count of three.  One, two and three. 

Influencing and generating new beliefs, new possibilities, new perceptions, from the point of conception till now, future pacing this out into future with the knowledge and understanding that your past now is completely influenced and impregnated with the knowledge and the knowhow of how to constantly create your future.  From above now with the same picture, even more powerful, take a breath, blow more of the emphasis of the color of your circle of power and oneness into this picture again, further enhancing it, further empowering it.  Take another breath, blow it in, and as you blow it in watch the colors get more magnificent, and the outcome become even richer and more realized.  Blow another breath in.  Now take this new empowered picture and float back in time for a third coat of this color and this power through your past.  Float back in time to the very beginning please.  Very good.  Install it into your birth, into your time line.  Install it into your time line with the colors even more emphasized and more empowering now.  Very good.  Now, on the count of three, the third coat.  One, two and three.  Very good.

Being at now, float down into now and install the picture into your future time line and I’m going to ask you now to move out into your future time line and simply, reverently and sacredly install this picture in your future in a place that feels the most comfortable for the manifestation of it.  It may be tomorrow, it may be next week, it may be next month or next year or five years from now.  Whichever feels ecologically comfortable to you.  Walk out in your mind on your future time line and install this outcome picture in the place where you are choosing to have it manifested.  Go do that now and lock it into place.  Take three deep breaths, class.  Another.  And another.  Very good.  Thank your subconscious mind for its willingness and when you’re ready begin to come back into the room. On the count of three you’ll open your eyes.  One, two, and three.

How do you feel?  Look at your past and what does it look like?  Pink, blue, green.  Good.  I could spend another hour talking to you about submodalities and modalities and the power of submodalities and why they work and how they work and what they do to the nervous system and go very in depth into what we’re doing here.  My highest choice is to just give you experiences and say, ‘Run with this.’  You’re choosing to know the in-depth intricacies of what, how and how to enhance even more.  The NLP practitioner training is really the place to learn that.  This is a training where I’m just grazing the surface of NLP and you can see how powerful it is.

{More tomorrow}

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Knowledge

I truly believe that the continuation of learning is the very most important thing we can do with our lives.  I do my best every year to go and train with someone who I respect and honor to increase my own skills and knowledge and find new systems that dove tail into the work that I have been doing for so long. 

 A while back, I participated in a certification for myself in team assessment model.  I found the information and the trainers to be exceptional.  Some of you may remember when I sent out an invitation for the Mobius Model certification. Well, I went and found the information to be just what I was looking for.  A very simple yet powerful system for taking a group from conflict to possibility while discovering the group strength and designing the actions required to create the solution.  The Mobius Model is a communication model that moves us from a monologue consisting of praise and blame, claim and worry to a dialogue that establishes mutual understanding of the common ground that exists at the foundation of all conflict between people.

 Here’s the model in a nutshell: the model is an exploration of the possibilities that exist within the differences of perception between people.  Listen to understand not necessarily agree or disagree, and then seek the common ground and what is positive and missing that will benefit all concerned in the future. 

 As many of my readers have studied NLP we know that the map is not the territory.  Our perception is clouded, at best.  We can only see our perception of reality but not reality itself. When we come together in a team or partnership, we collide with different reference points and maps of reality, but there exists a common ground waiting to be discovered within all our differences.  The conflict is the birthplace of possibilities if we chose to practice deep listening.

 The art of perceptual positioning oneself in a relationship by practicing a three point perspective of others is vital to individuals who are choosing to lead.

Gregory Bateson says “that unless you can take three points of perception of another you do not have enough information to create an opinion.”   So we need to begin with the foundation of mutual understanding to seek and discover the common ground between people’s differences.  This inquiry unfolds possibilities and reveals the common ground that builds rapport and deepens our relationships.

 Relationships will be forever more the greatest heaven or the greatest hell we will venture into. I truly believe that in the hearts of people there is inherit goodness and beauty. The experiences that wound, can leave such lasting imprints upon us that they cloud our reason and perception so we cannot see the possibilities in our partnerships, our families and our teams. Relationships are the true acid test of where the rubber hits the road of what we learned in our life and how we demonstrate that learning so it can harden into our character through repetition of right action towards others.

 We are all seeking connection.  The practice of listening for what is the common ground between people’s differences is an act of choice that discovers the hidden patterns in our language, and the thoughts that connects us all in the quest for oneness.  

Love & Light

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