Posts Tagged ‘Allah’

Foundational Pre-suppositions

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

1. There is only two things which motivate human behavior: Love and a call for Love.

2. The agenda of romantic love is to bring light to those childhood wounds left unhealed and to provide an environment to receive and heal those parts of ourselves.

 3. Our behavior is our adaptation to loss.  Change is the catalyst for healing.

4. Our behavior has a positive intention given the resources we have available to us at the time.

5. We are in relationship with ourselves in the context of another.  Our relationships provide us with a mirror in which to see those parts of ourselves we cannot normally see.

6. Authentic communication is the key ingredient for a successful relationship.  If we are hiding our truth in relationship, we disempower ourselves and create a environment of resentment, projection and fear. 

 7. Live from your personal life values with greater congruency between your thought word and deed. The more congruency, the stronger your personal identity.  The stronger your personal identity the healthier the relationship you will create.  You are the common denominator in your relationship history.  When you change your history in relationships will also change.

 8. Understand you distort reality.  Begin your communication with the understanding that you see through your individual filters of your accumulated beliefs and memories.  Be personally accountable for the emotions you are creating based upon the meaning you are giving circumstances in your world.  The map is not the territory.

Join me tomorrow for more fun tools!

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Gary De Rodriguez

Language of Disempowerment:(cont.)

Wednesday, December 17th, 2008

Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

 

Language of disempowerment: I want to go to the movies.  I am going to the movies tonight.  I will go to the movies tonight.  I choose to go to the movies tonight.  I will enjoy going to the movies tonight.  These are different levels of empowerment.  I can’t.  I can, I choose to, I will, I have the resources I require, I will create the resources I require.  I will create what I require to do the job.  It’s yet to be here but I’ll find out how to create it.  Rather than saying I can’t.  When you say I can’t what happens?  Do you throw yourself into the victim archetype immediately?  Do you cut at the root of the possibility of actually creating some of the resources that yet have been able to wake up in you?  When you say I’ll explore how I can create the resources I require to do it.  Do something other than go home and coach everyone around you.  Only coach if you are asked.  Get permission.  I just did this great seminar.  I learned a lot about the power of language.  Would you be interested in having some upgrades to what you just said? 

 

I was in a relationship working for months on how powerful my new relationship was going to be.  It was going to be so great.  It was about 8 months old.  So I came home from one of my trainings and I walked through the door, put down my bag – Hi, honey, I’m home.  And I heard, ‘We have to talk.’  So I sat down.  You’re too spiritual for me, you’re life is going in a direction I don’t choose to go, I’m moving out.  And you talk funny.  And pleaded with me to just talk normal.  Because this was really a co-dependent relationship.  And if I spoke in all the stuff I used to speak in, it would link in and hook that co-dependency.  I was so proud of myself because I generally I’ll drag out all my evidence that they were wrong and weigh it all out and make them feel badly.  What I said was, ‘You don’t see who I am.  Therefore you’re not the one.’  I had worked very, very diligently in creating a real partnership with someone.  And I personally thought this was it.  Three months later I met the person who was it.  The space had to clear out first.  And I worked diligently at creating a relationship because I was fully ready.

 

Unconscious language.  You really make me angry.  I create anger within myself when you do that.  I’m responsible for my feelings and what I make up about what you just said is….  This is very powerful because I was in a relationship once for 9 years with someone who was directly the opposite of everything I am.  And before I created this relationship I prayed to god, probably the only time in my life I ever surrendered and I said, ‘Bring me the relationship that will give me the greatest level of spiritual progress.’  I was very brave in those days.  So I create this relationship. Within three hours after that surrender process the relationship showed up.  Three hours was all it took.  We were together for 9 years.  I was so reactive and so unhealthy in this relationship.  When I got to the point – obviously somehow I get to be accountable for what is happening in my world here.  And I got this idea about filtering and so I thought I would apply it in my most tender place and the weakest place that I was – the place that had atrophied the most, which was the huge victim archetype in relationships – somehow I’m a victim of this person.  They’ve got control over my emotional state and if they don’t give it to me or if they do give it to me I’m either happy or sad.  My partner would do something and I would just get this huge emotional response to it and I’d just sit there silently and fume.  And then I said, ‘What you just said and did, I got really upset at and I’m responsible for the emotions I’m creating in myself and I’m giving meaning to what you just said and did and this is what I made up about it.  Could you give me clarity on what you meant by what you just did and said?’  And not once, not twice, not a hundred times, but every time I had the courage to do that and stay out of my victim and be emotionally accountable, every time I was 180 degrees off from how I interpreted it.  And that’s where a lot of this information started to come forward from.  When I began to realize that in that environment where I was the most reactive and wounded and I started to take accountability and began to question to get clarity, I was completely off.  And we do this.  We mind read a lot.  And we mind read out of the hurt and wound of our past through our filters.  Ask for clarity, you guys.

 

My dream is that you will make me happy.  My dream is that I create my happiness and you create yours.  When you think about language and you think about the words like I need and I want and I’ll try and I don’t know – if we could just take those four out of our conversation – why do you think need, want and I don’t know are so pervasive in our conversational language?  The words dissociate you from a focus and they place you in the victim archetype.  They are literally the language that takes all the strength and power out of your ability to actually achieve.  When you say I deserve it presupposes a time when you didn’t feel deserving.  So when you say I claim, I create or I am it takes you out of the context of either deserving or not deserving.  It just is.  What used to take me a private session half an hour or 45 minutes to get to with neurolinguistic programming, I get to within 10 minutes with a client through their language, just from what they speak and the presuppositions that is behind the language they choose to use.

More to follow tomorrow on this subject!

Love & Light

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Gary De Rodriguez

 

 

A Story from Islam (Part One)

Tuesday, December 9th, 2008

Look Within

Look Within

 

 

 

 

I’ll tell a story from Islam.  There was once a camel herder and the camel herder sought his entire life for Mohammad and thought, ‘If I could find the great prophet and ask him this one burning question, it would solve the riddle of my entire existence.’  One day, as a very old man, he was wandering in the desert and he came across an oasis.  And there sat Mohammad up against a date tree.  And he walked up to the prophet and said, ‘Oh, great prophet, I have one question to ask you which will solve the riddle of my life.’  Mohammad said, ‘Ask it, brother.’  And he said, ‘Shall I shackle the legs of my camels at night or shall I have faith in Allah that they will be there in the morning?’  Mohammad thought and he said, ‘Brother, shackle the legs of your camels and have faith in Allah that they will be there in the morning.’

 

So what we are doing by setting our outcomes, by languaging our world in a way that we know we are first person accountable for the reality we are creating, we are shackling the legs of our camels.  If I have a flat tire on the side of the road, am I going to sit there and pray that god comes along and actually fixes my tire for me?  Or am I going to use my legs, walk to the gas station and get my tire fixed, knowing that god gave me the legs to do it?  Whatever that power is gave us the power of imagination, of language and of being able to evoke emotions, all of which are the three key elements to conscious creating.

 

What if god just looked down and said, ‘Yes!’  Whatever you’re dwelling on, whatever you’re contemplating, ‘I’ve got no judgment!  There’s no death and there’s no good or bad.  I have no judgment.  Just Yes!  Whatever you choose to dwell on, the answer is Yes.’  Disease and pestilence.  Yes!  Wealth and abundance.  Yes!  What if that was the way it was?  Would that be weird?  It’s all a belief.  How does any of us know?  But what if that was true?  Would it be useful then to learn how to direct the mind?  It could be very useful.

 

I’m a firm believer that we affect and drive and move our reality.  I’ve suffered way more than what I know I could have.  I can hang on the cross longer, whine better, than anyone in the room.  I will guarantee it.  And I know one of the gifts of me teaching this course is because some of you get it and you’re off and running.  I consistently remind myself this is a gift to me completely.  I thank you so much for showing because I get to remind myself of this information.  I have yet to have it mastered.  And I think one of the reasons I have yet to master it is because, when I speak to groups it’s with a lot of emphasis and a lot of passion and a lot of power because I know it works and I know I’m still teaching myself. 

 

I got started with all of this working with the AIDS community 22 years ago.  I’ve seen more people die than a man my age ought to have.  I’ve seen horrific deaths; I have seen absolutely blissful deaths.  I looked at what made that different and it was really the quality and the consciousness that individual lived their life from and did they potentialize themselves in the context of their living.  Did they feel like they had done what they came here to do?  Each one of you is the one in your ancestral line out of thousands and thousands and thousands of ancestors who have gone before you, you are the one who has shown up to express your life differently.  Because you are an imprint of everything that has gone before you.  So you’re the one who can stand in your ancestral line and say, ‘I’m going to be the one to finally do it.’  Now either you can not be and hand it down to your children or you can be the one.  If that’s true – the Hopis say there is absolutely no past, that everything that ever existed is present right here in the cells of my body – every ancestor that ever lived is resonating in my DNA.  You are the culmination of the thought forms of everything that has gone before you and you have the choice to do it differently, to overcome the idea of separation and the idea of my fear, my victimization, and move out of the victim archetype into a place where you are first person accountable creating your world out of the words you speak, the things you contemplate and the emotions you choose to feel.  Every word you speak has millions of synaptic responses being fired off inside of your body moment by moment by moment.

 

How many of you can create depression?  How do you think you do it?  Every word you speak is a symbol like a cross or a swastika.  When you think of those two symbols all kinds of images and thoughts and feelings come up in your mind, true?  Your words are the exact same thing in microcosm to the subconscious mind.  Every time you speak a word which is the symbol of your thinking, your mind has to associate to those feelings.  You’re firing off thousands and millions of synaptic firing off in your body and you are creating emotional states word by word by word.  Have you ever walking along and suddenly by the afternoon you think, ‘God, I feel depressed.  Why?’  If you watch what you spoke and dwelt on and imagined you would find out why.  We’re creating the emotional states and as we create the emotional states our behavior follows and as we behave, we are responded to by the world; as we get the response from the world our identity builds and this is how we become who we are.

If I have a little child up here and everyone in the room is a child hater and we all silently thought hateful thoughts about this child, would the child be affected?  Are you any different?  If you have judgment and you are thinking those judgments, will the person you are projecting those judgments to be affected?  This is highly, highly important to be a committed listener.  Write this down: I stand in my light for your victory.

 

I was at a training with Robert Tennison Stevens, who is this amazing man who taught me tons about language.  In that training I was up in front of the room being processed.  I was the first one to go up during this particular training.  I did it other than because I was courageous.  It was because I raised my hand to ask when lunch was and my attention was someplace else and the whole room applauded because I had just volunteered myself to be the first one to be processed. 

To be continued in tomorrows Blog!

  

 

Love & Light

Love & Light

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez