Language is Powerful Choose Wisely
Now my question to you is, when you’re in conversation with someone what do you enjoy more? Fluffy, nonsensical language and words about fashion and weather or do you enjoy connecting with another individual? I think the richness of human communication is about how deeply and intimately we can connect with one another. And as our technology becomes greater and less and less people are connecting intellectually, spiritually, physically, what will happen is the requirement for a skill base to be able to connect intimately with another individual will become of far greater importance. So as you guys go out and utilize this stuff, you’ll find that your ability as a good communicator will increase exponentially as you continue to practice these tools.
Remember that non-verbal cues will be truer. You can always trust the body. One of the least valuable things you can trust is a person’s words. Watch their body. The body is going to tell you everything.
I had a client come in for an initial, just to give you an example of how the subconscious mind speaks through our bodies, she was an older lady and she’d done a lot of personal work. She came in and she said, ‘Oh, I heard you were great and I was just coming in because I’m curious. I really have very little to work on. I’m sort of in my twilight years of life and everything is kind of handled.’ So we were sitting there chit-chatting and as she was talking I noticed that, in her right cheek, she began to get a little facial tic. And because I trust the body, I really trust the body, she’s talking, she’s getting this little facial tic in her right cheek. And then all of a sudden she starts going like this with her right knee and she’s talking with the facial tic and doing her right knee and as she continues talking she’s constantly going for like a sensation in her right knee. And then she acted like something in her right knee was hurting her with the facial tic still continuing. So I thought for a moment and I said, ‘Is it possible that you have a lot of emotions yet to be expressed around a principle male figure in your life? And perhaps there is a great deal of forgiveness that’s required in this relationship.’ And her mouth dropped and she burst into tears and she said, ‘Well, of course. It’s my father.’ Right cheek is emotional withholding. Facial tic. Her subconscious mind is going, ‘Hey, Gary. Get this one. Facial tic in the right cheek. Emotional withholding.’ Right knee is about forgiveness of a principle male figure.
So she starts getting a sensation in her right knee. She gets a facial tic in her right cheek. And all I’m doing is just reading what these parts of her body actually mean and then feeding it back to her. Your body is saying it bigtime right now. When you know these things you can read what’s happening with a person because their subconscious mind will not lie. Their body will not lie. Their conscious mind will say, ‘Everything is handled. I’m done. It’s complete.’ But the subconscious mind is saying, ‘Time out, fool. There’s more here.’ And it’ll start speaking through the physical body. Is that cool?
How do you spot the difference between the behaviors that are psychologically induced and those that are physiologically induced? You were talking about the right knee. But when I sit for a while my right knee starts to lock up on me. So I will mess with it.
I’ll make a suggestion to you. Something to be curious about. In my belief system, which may or may not be true, is that the first is a psychological condition before there will be a physiological condition. So if you look throughout your own life, look to see whether there is some sort of a requirement for further forgiveness around a principle male figure in your life. Because right knee also means movement into the future, which also means that at some level you’re lacking flexibility about moving forward in life. So your body is saying certain things, and if you take your body as a metaphor, as a teacher, that it is literally speaking to you in some way. You may get some more value from it. But my belief system and my experience is that we don’t necessarily start suffering physiologically unless we have something psychologically going on that is a component to it. We have an emotional psychological component to what happens to us physically. May or may not be true but that’s been my experience up to this point.
So it’s very imperative to know that all the complexities of how we inter-relate with one another verbal communication is probably the least impactful of it all. Our words carry meanings and words are very, very powerful but the imprint we’re getting off of one another is not just from words. We are reading energy, we are reading bodies, we are reading tonality and we are making up meaning based upon our filters. So we get to look very, very importantly and succinctly at who we are. What are we projecting out into our world. If the meaning of the communication is the response you get, perhaps the response you’ve been getting is saying more about you that you’ve not yet noticed about yourself. Yeah, the individuals around you are literally the mirrors showing you those aspects of yourself that maybe you cannot see yet. It’s a really good thing.
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Love & Light
Gary De Rodriguez
