Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

How We Think

We possess the most complex neurological system on the planet. Yet how many teachers have come forward to explain the unique perspectives, beliefs and values that make up our individual character and create diversity in our relationships? What humanity requires is an owner’s manual for the human mind, a tool to teach respect for the differences that exist between us.

Ultimately we are each in a relationship with our individual self, but this relationship occurs within in the context of the communities we live in. We are here not only to live with passion but in congruency with the person we have come here to be. This is our soul purpose, our life mission.

Within our relationships then, we will either strengthen that congruence or weaken it through the way we treat one another. Our lives can be likened to a leaf floating down the river of time. In the currents of the river, we are periodically joined by others. Some of our relationships will last for a long period and some for a short period, but in time we all separate and continue our individual journeys to the sea. We are each here on a solo mission to evolve while also existing in relationships with one another, increasing our ability to love past our fears.

As Buddha said, we go to where our attachments are. So, become attached to very little. Do become attached to the wisdom that you distill from the great classroom of your relationships. Avoid obsession with the things you cannot change or the thoughts that have haunted you.

We know that all things constantly change, so change is the only consistency we have in life. It is not the events that occur in time within our lives that cause the pain, it is the meaning we have assigned to those events—it is this meaning that creates our Heaven or our Hell. Our relationships are where we will create the greatest fulfillment or the greatest regret. It is our mastery of relationships with others that will either release us or imprison us.

Relationships are the laboratory in which we can create tremendous growth by shifting the unhealthy patterns that no longer serve us. In the moment of our difficulties with one another is a holy instant when we can choose our response, perhaps one less habitual and more conscious. We can continue desiring to be right, or we can create a healing of misperceptions. But only you can choose the different path. The other person will do what he or she will, but you can take a stand for your own evolution.

Below are some questions to ask yourself that will help break the patterns of conditioned responses and help you to create new ones during times of challenge in your relationships:

• 1. Am I willing to learn something valuable from this, and am I willing to do something to make it better?
• 2. What is really upsetting me?
• 3. Could this be a misperception on my part, and do I have all possible information?
• 4. What else could this mean? (Try to glean more answers than what you gave in #2.)
• 5. What do I require in order to feel good now?
• 6. How can I communicate my needs in a way that empowers this person? (Hint: timing, clarifying, asking for help, apologizing.)
• 7. Does this person have needs Iâ€^TMve not yet seen? If so, what are they?
• 8. What have I not seen about my own behavior and communication?
• 9. What is great about this?
• 10. Would I rather be right or be happy?

The greatest thing about Humanistic NLP is that itâ€^TMs a science based technology of personal and professional change; HNLP returns us to the quiet memory of who we have come here to be. And it is in our relationships that we will strengthen that purpose. When relating with others, choose your responses carefully, because you create your future from your next highest thoughts about yourself. Choose your actions from a center of knowing that all behavior is either love or a call for it.

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Pyramid of Time

I know many of us look at setting goals for the year as a tedious process, but we require to always remembering that resting underneath our cranium is the most powerful computer on the planet waiting for the data input. Either we will install exquisite software that expedites the journey or software that is incomplete, flawed, and filled with viruses.

You will get what you focus upon. Like gravity, it is a universal law.

The only reason you have not achieved your goals in the past is because somewhere along the way you lost your focus on them. Make 2007 the year of your power and fulfillment where your heart opens, you contribute more, and you walk your road in a sacred way.

To Become More Present, Ask Yourself:

• 1. What feelings and behaviors do you experience that you no longer desire? What causes you to reach for a new goal?
• 2. In what personal or professional environments do you experience these feelings that you no longer wish to have?
• 3. What are you experiencing specifically? What are you seeing, hearing and feeling when you have the experience you no longer desire?

To Achieve What You Desire, Ask Yourself:

• 1. What is your goal? What do you desire instead?
• 2. Are your goals aligned to your values? What do you value about their achievement? What does the achievement of your goal really do for you?
• 3. What are the milestones between where you are in the present state and the goal that tells you youâ€^TMre on the right track? Set a minimum of three milestones to mark your achievements.
• 4. What will you be seeing, hearing and feeling at each point along the way? Identify the milestone markers.
• 5. Who will you become upon achieving your goal? What will you be seeing, hearing and feeling upon the successful realization of your goal? Be in the emotional state of achieving your goal as if it has already happened; imagine the rewards of your success attained.

Resource Planning

• 1. What resources do you already have that will move you from your present state to your goal and outcome?
• 2. What resources do you require? And how will you get them? Identify your strategy.
• 3. What is the first step today you require to take to achieve your goal and take your life from the present state to the next level of success? Identify the steps you are committed to take for your success.

Thank you again for your willingness to be a part of this amazing community. I am looking forward to meeting many of you face to face in future trainings and voice to voice in future teleseries

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Build Your Life

HNLP Fundamentals
I talk about how our belief systems are the filters through which we experience reality.

THOUGHT POWER + BELIEF
= EMOTIONS
= BEHAVIOR & ACTION
= REACTION TO THE WORLD
= EGO IDENTITY

This formula explains how we decide who we are, who we have been, and who we will be tomorrow. How, then, can we redesign what is occurring in our minds so as to redesign our lives?

Through time we develop our own map of the world. This map does not represent the world in truth, yet it is the best map we have to assist us in surviving this thing called life. Our map is a culmination of every rationalization we’ve made based upon the evidence we’ve experienced. We are, in effect, meaning-making creatures.

Unfortunately, or fortunately, depending upon your point of view the meanings we create are not reality itself but serve only to paint our individual map of reality, flawed and limiting as it may be. At a very young age, we create these mind maps and set about using them to transverse life’s rugged terrain. As we encounter new experiences, we filter the resulting sensory input through what we have already learned about our world. Then one of three things happens:

• 1. We acquire new wisdom from the new experience.
• 2. We interpret the new experience as evidence that our map is true, that it is reality.
• 3. We reject the new experience because it does not fit into our model of the world.

More often than not, we choose either 2 or 3, continuing to navigate our world with an impoverished map of reality. In turn, we create a life with limited choices. This leaves us feeling, thinking, and acting like a victim. Is there a way out of the circle we have been caught in, this wheel that seemingly spins without purpose or direction?

YES! The answer lies within this simple formula and is the foundation of Humanistic NLP:

IMAGINATION + EMOTION + LANGUAGE = MANIFESTATION

A common example of how this dynamic plays out in life is if we have had to endure painful, even abusive, childhoods. It is important to honor the emotions we have carried from those experiences, but it is a further tragedy to spend our adult years continuing unresolved pains of the past as if they were still happening today. The one true thing we can say about the past is that it is no longer here. What is here now, in our adult lives, is our ability to ascribe new meaning to the past, a meaning very different from what we created as children. As children we function with a somewhat limited level of wisdom and resources. As adults, however, we have greater wisdom and resources at our disposal and thus the ability to create deeper understanding of what is possible, of what is real.

The only moment of power is NOW!!! We stand at a cross roads every minute, one road being the addictive thought processes that dwell endlessly in the past, the other road being the blossoming of our potential genius. Each one of us is a thread in the tapestry of Humanity. We have a Destiny to fulfill, a Genius to awaken within, a Potential to realize. Yet, until we master our imagination, emotions, and language, the tapestry continues to be degraded by the absence of our full participation.

Stop wasting time. Whatever has brought you to the reality you now experience, your life remains precious.

 Your destiny is remarkable.

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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Many people I have had the pleasure to meet are in business for themselves. As a consequence of the many challenges of never having a steady paycheck, these people are presented with numerous opportunities to self-evolve. When I think about it though, are we not all in business for ourselves, even if we work for another organization? The people who make a difference within an organization, those who contribute from a place of wholeness and integrity are most definitely entrepreneurs. They perceive the possibility of something great when everyone around them only perceives what is broken or hopeless. My thoughts for this newsletter take me to a few of the gems that have assisted me throughout a career spanning over thirty years as a entrepreneur. These seven precepts are what saved me during the darkest times of uncertainty, and they hold true to this day:

1. Align your work, whatever it is with your values. Know what is really important to you.
2. Live your values in thought and in action. This builds self esteem and self worth.
3. From a deep foundation of self worth your character will be built.
4. Your character will act as a magnet for opportunity.
5. Design your beliefs to support your possibilities. Mediocre beliefs will produce mediocre results. Learn the technology to shift from limiting belief patterns to un-limiting ones. Your beliefs will drive your passion or kill it.
6. Embrace the attitude even when you have no experience to support it.
7. Don’t wait for things to happen; invest your money and time in things that will help you succeed. You are the source, not the recipient, of life.

The most important decision you will ever make in business, is the sale of your worth to yourself. To create professional success requires you to immediately and continuously take ownership of the power that is you, and the only moment of power you will ever have is now. Once now is gone, you have missed the opportunity forever. Act as if your every word, thought, and action were building the success of your tomorrows, for in truth they are!

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

Build Your Life

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Be Flexible

Specificity is a tenet of the HNLP model of communication. The specifics of your speech produce the emotions you feel. When you speak with specificity, it awakens your emotions so that your subconscious can more accurately manifest your spoken word. When your spoken word is aligned with your heartfelt emotions, creation begins.

Have you ever sat in an audience and listened to a presenter speak from a place that was not connected to his/her heart? How did you feel when that happened? When a presenter speaks distinctly from the heart, what does it do to you? What would happen if every word you uttered was distinctly from your heart? How much more impact would you have as you walked in the world?

Of course, it’s easy to be clever with words. But being clever and speaking wholeheartedly are not necessarily the same thing. Maybe you know this already. How often have you held back in your speech because you sensed that such heartfelt words would have too powerful a result?

Your thoughts and your language are creative. As you think and speak, you produce emotions, and those emotions create new neuro-networks in the brain and throughout the body. The electrical charge from your thoughts will follow the path of least resistance, and through classical conditioning and repetition, those thoughts and repeated emotional states form deeper and more complex neuro-networks until they harden into your character. This is how you reinvent yourself physiologically over and over again. Using specific perceptual patterns unique to you, you have habitually thought, languaged, imagined, and felt you into existence.

This can go on forever, but it’s your choice who you will create next. When you are alert to the specifics you stay emotionally connected to your language. Emotions are the key to creating new ways of creating the you that you desire to become. Vague, generalized language is a form of fear and does not produce enough specificity for your subconscious to manifest your word. Your subconscious mind interprets feeling as fact. By asking simple questions such as Who? When? What? Where? With whom? and How? you can produce the emotions that will manifest desired outcomes.

Stop speaking about the past and focus on your outcomes for the future using specifics. Experience the feeling of your dream already manifested. This will bring your future to now, manifesting your destiny with every word you speak.

Conversely, the less you use outcome specific language and the more you disconnect emotionally from your dream, the more you will distance yourself from your divine right to create your life from your heartfelt desires. When you speak with specificity, you begin to feel more deeply, more accurately, more powerfully. Specificity drives the emotional body. Once you understand how it is you create and what filters you are using to interpret the world, you can change how you create and filter in the future. You can manifest choice. This is the goal for all practitioners of HNLP because scarcity of choice is the greatest source of pain you will ever feel. And abundance of choice will be your greatest joy. Choose your language carefully.

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez

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