The Way We Think & The Way We Speak

When we use language like the transformational choices it puts us into the place where we actually shackle the legs of our camels linguistically.  We’re taking our personal power linguistically and saying this is where we’re going.  Rewrite your present reality. Write in transformational language and create your outcome with specific language in one paragraph.  And then I’m going to ask you to write it in two lines.  What you’re going to do is take that big long story and you’re going to write an I am statement toward where you’re choosing to move your life in this particular issue of your life and you’re going to rewrite it, outcome oriented, first person accountable, in conscious language, devoid of language of self-sabotage, deletion, distortion, generalization, negation and disempowerment.  If you require to add specificity you’ll have more sentences - like dates and all of that.  If you’ve been confused then you’re choosing clarity.  If you’ve been lonely and you’re choosing a partnership, define it, put it on a time line, speak toward.

I have confidence in my creative ability.  I receive the gift of my father’s life.  I have the power to create now.

Give him a hand!  What if every word that came out of your mouth was like what you’re rewriting now?  What would it be like?  You would speak less, is that true?  But when you spoke….laser!

I remember when I was very young I got married.  What impressed me so much about her was that she spoke very little but when she spoke …..  We’d be in this huge group of people and she would just sit there silently, not saying anything, but when she spoke it was like an earthquake because what came out of her mouth was so laserly the truth from her heart.  As soon as that happened I thought, I am completely in love with this woman.  What she spoke was from her heart and it had such profound effects upon me.  Have you noticed how each of us are speaking?  Have you noticed how often want, need and try have been spoken?  Our culture has been based upon lack and scarcity and victim archetype.  Take the words want, need, try and I don’t know out of your vocabulary and you’ll be doing great.

I am free from worry and I use this freedom to create spiritual fulfillment, to double my income and to nurture my family.

How much - what does double mean to you?  Put in a figure. 

I am free from worry - you just went into your story and you told all of us that part of your time is spent in worry.  So what you get to do is say I claim my peace of mind and I use this freedom to create MY spiritual fulfillment and to double my income to $200,000 OR MORE a year and to nurture my wife, Dawn and my daughter, Caterina. 

Whenever someone is speaking in vagueness, it is consistently a form of fear, a fear of feeling the emotional body.  When we bring it in and we speak in ‘my’ we associate into the words.  You guys look at your statement and put in ‘my’ wherever you see the word ‘the.’

I am powerful, empowering and successful in my work at positive changes hypnosis, relationships with my family and create $300,000 or more in the year 2000.  And I am in a relationship and married a loving, empowering, infinitely wealthy, emotionally secure, accepting, fun, fun-loving, playful, young-thinking, brilliant, kind, exciting, active, charismatic, outgoing, compassionate, rational, creative, understanding, generous, very gorgeous, athletic, ever-evolving, family oriented, passionate, self accountable, sharing, honest single man.

Tell the world because when you speak it what happens is that you get to leave your story and step into the new way of being and perceiving. 

I am now open to see the love and acceptance of my mother and father.

This is a statement in the course of miracles it says, ‘All things present, past and to come are beautifully planned by one who unconditionally loves you.’ 

The things of the past - how much life energy have you spent in being a victim in your mind, running the internal blame dialog in your mind and living from the victim archetype of not being loved enough by mother or dad and how much time have you spent and energy wasted, your precious breaths incalculable in its value, on contemplating endlessly the story?  There are people who die who at their death bed are still repeating the story of what they did or did not get from their mother or their father, which got reflected into their adult relationships and then got projected onto their adult relationships.  So we have the opportunity to do something with our past which we will do tomorrow in a big way.

Join me in tomorrows Blog for more!

Love & Light

Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

Language of disempowerment: I want to go to the movies.  I am going to the movies tonight.  I will go to the movies tonight.  I choose to go to the movies tonight.  I will enjoy going to the movies tonight.  These are different levels of empowerment.  I can’t.  I can, I choose to, I will, I have the resources I require, I will create the resources I require.  I will create what I require to do the job.  It’s yet to be here but I’ll find out how to create it.  Rather than saying I can’t.  When you say I can’t what happens?  Do you throw yourself into the victim archetype immediately?  Do you cut at the root of the possibility of actually creating some of the resources that yet have been able to wake up in you?  When you say I’ll explore how I can create the resources I require to do it.  Do something other than go home and coach everyone around you.  Only coach if you are asked.  Get permission.  I just did this great seminar.  I learned a lot about the power of language.  Would you be interested in having some upgrades to what you just said? 

I was in a relationship working for months on how powerful my new relationship was going to be.  It was going to be so great.  It was about 8 months old.  So I came home from one of my trainings and I walked through the door, put down my bag - Hi, honey, I’m home.  And I heard, ‘We have to talk.’  So I sat down.  You’re too spiritual for me, you’re life is going in a direction I don’t choose to go, I’m moving out.  And you talk funny.  And pleaded with me to just talk normal.  Because this was really a co-dependent relationship.  And if I spoke in all the stuff I used to speak in, it would link in and hook that co-dependency.  I was so proud of myself because I generally I’ll drag out all my evidence that they were wrong and weigh it all out and make them feel badly.  What I said was, ‘You don’t see who I am.  Therefore you’re not the one.’  I had worked very, very diligently in creating a real partnership with someone.  And I personally thought this was it.  Three months later I met the person who was it.  The space had to clear out first.  And I worked diligently at creating a relationship because I was fully ready.

Unconscious language.  You really make me angry.  I create anger within myself when you do that.  I’m responsible for my feelings and what I make up about what you just said is….  This is very powerful because I was in a relationship once for 9 years with someone who was directly the opposite of everything I am.  And before I created this relationship I prayed to god, probably the only time in my life I ever surrendered and I said, ‘Bring me the relationship that will give me the greatest level of spiritual progress.’  I was very brave in those days.  So I create this relationship. Within three hours after that surrender process the relationship showed up.  Three hours was all it took.  We were together for 9 years.  I was so reactive and so unhealthy in this relationship.  When I got to the point - obviously somehow I get to be accountable for what is happening in my world here.  And I got this idea about filtering and so I thought I would apply it in my most tender place and the weakest place that I was - the place that had atrophied the most, which was the huge victim archetype in relationships - somehow I’m a victim of this person.  They’ve got control over my emotional state and if they don’t give it to me or if they do give it to me I’m either happy or sad.  My partner would do something and I would just get this huge emotional response to it and I’d just sit there silently and fume.  And then I said, ‘What you just said and did, I got really upset at and I’m responsible for the emotions I’m creating in myself and I’m giving meaning to what you just said and did and this is what I made up about it.  Could you give me clarity on what you meant by what you just did and said?’  And not once, not twice, not a hundred times, but every time I had the courage to do that and stay out of my victim and be emotionally accountable, every time I was 180 degrees off from how I interpreted it.  And that’s where a lot of this information started to come forward from.  When I began to realize that in that environment where I was the most reactive and wounded and I started to take accountability and began to question to get clarity, I was completely off.  And we do this.  We mind read a lot.  And we mind read out of the hurt and wound of our past through our filters.  Ask for clarity, you guys.

My dream is that you will make me happy.  My dream is that I create my happiness and you create yours.  When you think about language and you think about the words like I need and I want and I’ll try and I don’t know - if we could just take those four out of our conversation - why do you think need, want and I don’t know are so pervasive in our conversational language?  The words dissociate you from a focus and they place you in the victim archetype.  They are literally the language that takes all the strength and power out of your ability to actually achieve.  When you say I deserve it presupposes a time when you didn’t feel deserving.  So when you say I claim, I create or I am it takes you out of the context of either deserving or not deserving.  It just is.  What used to take me a private session half an hour or 45 minutes to get to with neurolinguistic programming, I get to within 10 minutes with a client through their language, just from what they speak and the presuppositions that is behind the language they choose to use.

More to follow tomorrow on this subject!

Love & Light

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

Today’s blog, is what we replace all the language of disempowerment with.  This is why you’ll speak more succinctly.  How important is it that we understand the root of where our language patterns, our thinking patterns, comes from in changing it?  I believe it’s context dependent and individually dependent.  I’ve worked with some clients where it was very important to neutralize the negative emotions which is what we’re going to be doing tomorrow.  We’re going to be doing processes that neutralize the internal representations in our minds of how we hold our past.  And we’re going to do it easily.  Because unless your internal representations change, there is no shift.  Some people can just get this information and say, ‘I have no requirement to know what that was.  I’m just going for it.  I’m going for my outcome.  I’m staying completely focused.’  Some people are so disempowered by the emotional luggage that they’re carrying that it’s near to impossible for them to get into a peak emotional state to actually apply the language and the discipline it takes to apply the language. 

This is why the language is so imperative in continuing the whole process of doing your enfoldment.  Because unless you are keeping your language clear and clean you will create disempowered emotional states which cuts at the root of your power and puts you right into apathy and procrastination.  Language is the wind underneath the wings of imagination and emotion.  Unless we can keep our language up and alert and aware knowing that we are co-creating by every word we speak, every word is a prayer coming into reality speaking as a self-fulfilling prophecy.  So unless we can do this part of it, which is the beginning of this training, it is very difficult to do the next day to keep the imagination and the outcome in your mind’s focus.

 This work takes discipline, you guys.  Most of us have been in a state of such disempowerment that we have become so apathetic in the past about our lives.  And the reason we’ve become apathetic is because we’ve yet to be able to discover a system that actually sustains change.  So we do all this work and we revert back and we do more work and we revert back and then we go into hopelessness.  How many of you have been there?  I most certainly have in the past.  And now, with this system, of how from moment to moment, word by word, mental focus by mental focus, you have a direct succinct system that shows you how you’ve created it and how you can sustain a different state.  I personally think this is the missing piece out of most of the personal change technology out there.  People graze against it, they brush up against it.  This gives you the system and unless the system is enrolled into all the other behavioral change work, which is all fabulous, our patterns will revert back by the habitual thinking and the language which represents it. 

How we correct ourselves.  What do you do when you catch yourself in non-productive or limiting language: gossip or self-criticism?  You say Cancel/clear or Cancel/negate or in the past at the end of what you just became aware of saying or thinking.  Our subconscious mind takes our language literally and when we use one or both phrases we clear the slate of our mind.  So did you hear me as I was speaking.  I kept on saying ‘in the past.’  Because all that was story about stuff that we’re moving away from and it’s in the past.  The focus of our mind is the temple at which we pray. 

Examples of transforming your language: I am trying to change my life.  I have a successful relationship with the qualities of intimacy, honesty and integrity within myself and my partner.  I create a foundation of love in my home.  And you can even bring more specificity into that by saying, ‘By September of the year 2000 I’m working on a new career.  I’ve hired a marketing agent.  We are producing a series of tapes, lectures and a book.  I’m adjusting my income.  I am receiving $300,000 yearly for my work as a software engineer.  I choose happiness.  I choose happiness in my job as a computer programmer and in my relationship with Natasha.  I choose love.  I experience love from my father John, my mother Betty, my brother Alphonso, and my sister Anastasia.  Even the word I choose is still a process.  It’s an upgrade from I want and I need.  However it is still a process.  When you just claim it in the moment - I create, I experience, I am - it collapses time and brings it right to now.  Now this becomes even more imperative and more important as we go into the imagination aspect.  Because tomorrow we go into how to be emotionally in outcome.  Because, if you can feel it you imprint the subconscious mind even more powerfully.  If you can feel it you can make it real.

Language of distortion.  She always does that.  When she’s at home she does the gardening.  After dinner she generally meditates.  Three times per week she does some form of exercise.  My perception is she acts guilty.  That’s a projection, huh?  I am here to help everyone.  I am here to contribute to my mother and my father.  I am here to give physical support to my teammates, George, Bob and Mary.  You never share your feelings.  When I allow myself to become upset I remember only the times that you’ve been quiet.  I want it in my relationship.  I choose to be present, honest and tell the truth in my relationship with Roger.  I choose to have financial security in the amount of $300,000 yearly in combined income in my relationship with Scotty.  I wish I could receive love from them.  This is the language of generalization.  I choose to receive love from Bud, Bonnie and my father Valerio.  That’s just the way I am.  How many of you have said that or had that said to you?  In the past I expressed anger with violence and now I choose to negotiate.  Language of negation.  I love you but…  I love you and I would be more comfortable if you would put medicated foot powder in your shoes.  This was actually said to me. 

Isn’t she beautiful?  She’s beautiful.  Can’t you help me.  Please help me.  Didn’t you love it.  Did you like that movie. 

  

 

Love & Light

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

 

 

 

Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

Language of disempowerment.  Our subconscious mind takes it literally, we’ve been speaking in forms of language that we hear around us daily.  We are often unaware of what we are actually programming into the subconscious.  Our goal is to use language as outcome oriented, first person accountable moving in the direction of our heart’s desire.  When we use the language of disempowerment we keep our thoughts and emotions in a place of stagnation.

Examples of the language of disempowerment: I want and I wish.  Everybody say I want.  Now say My choice is.  How does it feel?  Does it feel different energetically?  Yes!  The volume totally went up.  Now say I require.  I need.  I want.  Now say I require.  Which has more power?  I need.  I desire.  Desire means from the Latin root for the father.  I want and I need literally means more desire without ever having the outcome.  That’s what it literally translates to.  Yes, it’s an outcome in the way it’s languaged is that because you’re wanting it and the subconscious takes your language literally and personally, you can continue wanting it for a very, very long time.  But when you say my choice is, I create my divine partnership, by this date, that’s something quite different than wanting to get married.  What you do is you actually take the infinite power of your subconscious, which is 1 with 8 million miles of half inch zeros, and you go snap - go there!  When you sit in the emotional state of actually feeling that your lover is actually there and you fall asleep at night and you feel your lover’s breath on the back of your neck and you go to sleep in the emotional state of already being in that committed relationship - because before you go to sleep at night is the seed time of the subconscious mind.  Your subconscious processes that emotion for 6 to 8 hours.  What do you think that does?  When you go to sleep in loneliness, in tearfulness about what is not, what do you think your subconscious mind processes for 6 to 8 hours?  For more direct manifestation of what you will experience the following day and have evidence of.  You will see it when you believe it!  We believe it first and then we see it.  So that’s the difference between want and I choose.

I’m not.  As soon as you hear I’m not coming out of your mouth cancel, clear, which I’ll teach you in just a little bit, and go I am.  Whenever you’re speaking about I’m not, whenever you use that, you’re going to go into your story immediately.  You’re talking about what you’re moving away from rather than what you’re moving toward.  Remember that when you’re speaking about what you’re moving away from you’re in your story and you’re giving mental focus to what you’re moving away from rather than what you’re moving toward.  So it’s very important that I’m not is a huge red flag for you that you’re going into your story and you’re speaking at the temple and you’re praying at the temple of what you’re moving away from.

I would.  I will.  I must and I’ve got to.  How many of you do that one?  I choose to, I can’t, I will, I should, I will, I will try, I will, I hope, my choice is, I don’t know - how many of you say I don’t know?  Big time.  So I don’t know is replaced by I’ll find out, I choose to know.  You make me.  I love that one.  In the context of relationships…how many of you have been in relationships where your partner says, ‘You make me…’  You know you’re in trouble.  I create for myself.  Let me.  From whom are we asking permission?  It’s hard.  It’s a challenge.  It’s an opportunity.  So if it has been difficult for you in the past and you choose to claim it as an opportunity, because in reality if it’s been difficult for you in the past it is literally an opportunity to strengthen those parts of you that have been atrophied so it can become easy.  Is that true?  So it is literally an opportunity.

If all else fails.  That means you are starting on the worst possible case scenario which means that is the temple you are praying at and that’s what you will get more of.  My highest choice is, at least I’ll be able to…  What if you said, at most I’ll be able to….  What would that be like?  Where would your mind be?  What I’m speaking about is literally the minutiae of your thought patterns.  This becomes an active system of meditation through your use of language.  When you do this your life completely changes because your thinking must shift.  It must shift with the language and it becomes an active meditation 24 hours a day.  And as you apply this, your life completely metamorphoses because your thinking does, therefore your reality.  At least, at most.  If/then.  If you go to the dog pound with me, then I’ll buy you lunch.  My choice is I’ll buy you lunch.  When/then.  When my choice is.  Almost/kind of.  I’ll kind of marry you.  I’ll almost marry you.  Is that a commitment?  Do you feel empowered?  You replace that with it is, you are, and that will get you there.  Specifically speak about what it is.  When you take those vague qualities out of your languaging you become more directed, more direct and more committed.  When you are consistently speaking about how something will be and you refuse to claim it now, first of all it’s a fear of feelings.  When you claim it now, you bring it into manifestation and creation now.

I keep hammering this one point.  Speak toward, speak toward, speak toward.  Stay out of the story.  If you find yourself going to the I’m not and all the negations you know you’re going into your story.  That’s your red flag.  What you are dwelling on you are creating more of.  Whatever your mind thinks about habitually, you are creating the neurosynaptic networks in your head that create the perceptual filters which makes up how you will immediately respond to the world.  This is how you created your reality.  This is how you created you to be you.  So the more you actually focus on where you’re moving instead of the story about where you’ve been, you create your life out of your heart’s desire. 

We can no longer stand in the light of the victim archetype which is cultural through our entire world.  Time is speeding up.  How many of you know the planet is slowing down in rotations?  That the particles rotating around the nucleus of the atoms is actually speeded up.  That the entire foundation of all we know to be real has accelerated.  Does this have an effect on you, then we are manifesting quicker than ever before and that means either heaven or hell.  That’s why this information I feel is very important to get out there.  Unless we provide the conscious choice of the words, feelings and imagination to direct our subconscious mind our habitual, ancestrally influenced thinking and our language which represents that thinking will direct our subconscious mind for us.  The choice we make moment to moment is do we create from our potential outcome or from our past limitations.  We make our choice with every word we speak or think.  Our words are our representation of our thinking.  Our thinking represents the focus of our minds.  The focus of our minds is our prayer.  Whatever your mind focuses upon is the temple at which you are praying.  I love that page.  Transformational choices.  My highest choice leaves our highest vision for the event, circumstance or person as the last thing on the screen of our minds.  I make up, I give meaning to, gives us the reality of being accountable for the filters we perceive our life and relationship through.  I choose: expression of our will and identity moving toward our outcome.  I can: expression of our identity, our will and our potential in choosing our outcome.  I have brings a desired state to now, collapses time from the future to the present.  I am; expression of identity claiming the emotional state of our desire fulfilled.  I create; expression of identity claiming our divine right as co-creators. 

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez 

Language is Powerful Choose Wisely

Every cell of your body hears every word you speak.  The same brain cells are connected to every single cell of the body which presupposes whatever you are thinking every single cell of your body is hearing.  How many of you have gotten in touch with your death wish?  We had a young boy at the last Life Purpose training.  He was fourteen.  And it was one of the most powerful moments of my life.  Jesse had just been diagnosed with cancer.  He had a lump on his chest and his parents were there.  Jesse got up on these two chairs, actually.  I was sitting in one, he was sitting in the other, and we began the process that I use with each person I have in the Life Purpose training.  I began to ask him questions and go deeper into his language structure until we finally got to what his death wish was.  And when he finally got to it all he could do was sit in that chair and scream, ‘I want to die, I want to die, I want to die.’  And his choice was because he never felt loved.  It was profound what happened out of that.  What occurred in the process he was led through was he had a huge shift.  The whole room had a huge shift.  I’m still kind of emotional just thinking about it.  It was just a really peak experience for me.  His mother called me up two weeks later and said they had just been to the doctor and the tumor disappeared - because he chose to live.  His statement, which every cell of his body heard and every fiber of his emotional self heard, was, ‘I’m choosing to live.’  He did.  So your language, your emotions, create miracles within you.

Let’s progress.  Isn’t it a nice day?  It’s a nice day.  Won’t you do it for me.  Would you play the piano for me.  Can’t we ever talk.  Can we make time to talk.  Wouldn’t you like to go.  Would you like to go.  Don’t you like broccoli.  Do you like broccoli.  Didn’t we get the loan.  Did we get the loan.  Shouldn’t you stop that.  Would you stop hitting your little brother.  I love you, but…  I love you, and….  Has anyone ever said that to you - I love you, but…  Boy, you know you’re going to get their 411 on all the things they perceive as less than perfect about you.  Doesn’t it bother you.  Does it bother you.  Your subconscious mind takes your language literally and personally. 

Language of disempowerment.  Our subconscious mind takes our language literally.  Because we have been speaking informs that we hear around us daily we are often unaware of what we are actually programming into our subconscious.  Our goal is to use language that is outcome oriented first person accountable moving in the direction of our heart’s desire.  When we use the language of disempowerment we keep our thoughts and emotions in a place of stagnation, non-action, non-productivity.  I will explain.

Once you learn this information you will be speaking less.  I will almost guarantee that most of our collective dialog has been about our story, has been a very detailed description of what we’re moving away from rather than moving toward.  How many of you have known that to be true?  And this takes place not only in our external speech but in our internal dialog.  I will continue to use the metaphor that what you are contemplating, because your language is a symbol of your thinking, if you are speaking it, it means you are dwelling upon it.  If you are habitually speaking it, it means you are habitually dwelling upon it.  The temple at which you are praying is the god that will answer you.

I did a lot of study in India and the master would say to us in the evening, ‘Now, all the treasures of the three known worlds, the astral, the causal and the physical, can purchase even one human breath, that so precious is this breath of ours because only in this form, the physical body, can we make the greatest level of spiritual progress.  Only in this form.  The physical realm is huge beyond imagination.  The astral realm is supposed to be a thousand times more beautiful than the causal realm.  And the causal is supposedly just that much more beautiful than the astral realm.  The masters would say if a master takes a soul up to the astral realm and the soul is able to see what’s actually there, the soul would never leave.  It would just stay there in the lower astral regions because it is so beautiful.  We’re all our ideal weight at the astral realm.  We all just look stunning.  He would say they would never leave because the astral heavens are so beautiful.  And yet this form of ours is so precious.

You know the 7 chakras?  The 7 energy centers of the body?  They are literally the energetic vibration in microcosm of the 7 levels of creation.  This is why they say man and woman are made in the image and likeness of god.  We are the microcosm, energetically, of the entire creation.  We are the model of it.  Only in this form can we make the greatest level of progression in consciousness because we have free will.  Only in this form.  He would say the god for mom, the god that half the world worships, pines for the moment he can take a physical form.  So we’re praying to gods and the gods are saying, ‘hurry up and die so we can be you.’  We’re praying to the angelic realms.  Oh, angels, please come help me and the angels are going, ‘hurry up and get me so I can become human.’  The entire creation is contained within the energetic system of our bodies.

The masters would say, ‘In the realm and the great wheel of incarnations available to us, which is 188,000 different species, millions of different forms that a soul can incarnate to, the human form is the top of the ladder.’  Each one of us is coming to fulfil a very specific destiny.  One that only you can fulfil.  Just you.  No one else on the planet can do what you have come here to do.  If you stay trapped in the emotions of the story you have made up your destiny will go unfulfilled and there is nothing more tragic than knowing that you are leaving your body and you’ve yet to do what you’ve come here to do.  I’ve worked years with people with AIDS.  I’ve seen more people die than I care to remember.  And the difference between magnificently glorious death and a horrific one is the fulfillment that person has felt about what they accomplish in their life. 

So when we step out into our lives and go, ‘I’m the one.’  By this thought I manifest my world, my heaven or my hell.  I know it, I claim it, I do it.  When you take that kind of stand for your life and your ancestry, you activate and actualize the purpose of why you came.  The master says, ‘When a soul reaches enlightenment, it heals 25 generations back.’  You’re choosing to influence your family.  Get on to the very fact in this moment to create a healing rather than a condemnation.  The next opportunity you have to be with a difficult person, leap at it with an open heart so you can demonstrate to yourself something different.  And do it with love and kindness, with the power of thought, I stand in my light for your victory.  Do you more activate yourself?  Do you more step into the purpose of why you came and therefore fulfil the purpose of why your body is?  You do.

See, I have this vision of dancing out of my body.  When I go into the light, there’s going to be this huge party on the other side that says, ‘You finally did it!  You finally came here and did what you were supposed to do.’  All the other countless lifetimes were kind of ….  But this one you finally did it.  What my highest choice is that everyone, because you all have unique visions and unique things to do, that when it’s your time you dance out of your body and there’s a big party on the other side for you because you did what you came here to do.  And that’s what this information is about.

I had this thought once I was with someone who was passing away and it was, in my perception, pretty horrific and then about the last five minutes it was so peaceful and I thought Wow - what do I know what vision that person had or what conclusion they came to about their life.  How do I know that? 

Love & Light

Gary De Rodriguez