I Respect And Honor To Increase My Own Skills
Knowledge
I truly believe that the continuation of learning is the very most important thing we can do with our lives. I do my best every year to go and train with someone who I respect and honor to increase my own skills and knowledge and find new systems that dove tail into the work that I have been doing for so long.
A while back, I participated in a certification for myself in team assessment model. I found the information and the trainers to be exceptional. Some of you may remember when I sent out an invitation for the Mobius Model certification. Well, I went and found the information to be just what I was looking for. A very simple yet powerful system for taking a group from conflict to possibility while discovering the group strength and designing the actions required to create the solution. The Mobius Model is a communication model that moves us from a monologue consisting of praise and blame, claim and worry to a dialogue that establishes mutual understanding of the common ground that exists at the foundation of all conflict between people.
Here’s the model in a nutshell: the model is an exploration of the possibilities that exist within the differences of perception between people. Listen to understand not necessarily agree or disagree, and then seek the common ground and what is positive and missing that will benefit all concerned in the future.
As many of my readers have studied NLP we know that the map is not the territory. Our perception is clouded, at best. We can only see our perception of reality but not reality itself. When we come together in a team or partnership, we collide with different reference points and maps of reality, but there exists a common ground waiting to be discovered within all our differences. The conflict is the birthplace of possibilities if we chose to practice deep listening.
The art of perceptual positioning oneself in a relationship by practicing a three point perspective of others is vital to individuals who are choosing to lead.
Gregory Bateson says “that unless you can take three points of perception of another you do not have enough information to create an opinion.” So we need to begin with the foundation of mutual understanding to seek and discover the common ground between people’s differences. This inquiry unfolds possibilities and reveals the common ground that builds rapport and deepens our relationships.
Relationships will be forever more the greatest heaven or the greatest hell we will venture into. I truly believe that in the hearts of people there is inherit goodness and beauty. The experiences that wound, can leave such lasting imprints upon us that they cloud our reason and perception so we cannot see the possibilities in our partnerships, our families and our teams. Relationships are the true acid test of where the rubber hits the road of what we learned in our life and how we demonstrate that learning so it can harden into our character through repetition of right action towards others.
We are all seeking connection. The practice of listening for what is the common ground between people’s differences is an act of choice that discovers the hidden patterns in our language, and the thoughts that connects us all in the quest for oneness.
Love & Light
