December 13, 2008
An Example of Vagueness
The Way We Think
When we use specificity we evoke emotions. An example of vagueness is, ‘I’m going to change my relationship.’ Questions to ask are ‘from what into what’ – What is your outcome? Where are you going? State outcome, higher vision for the relationship. I happen to be in an amazing relationship. When I go off track and I’m giving the 411 on someone – whatever the really limiting thought would be, I am so beautifully asked, ‘what is your higher choice for that person?’ Is that your highest thought, Gary? What is your highest thought? Would it be great to have a relationship like that – where you’re supporting each other and keeping the focus to do good with the energy of your mind. Would that be a good thing?
Create my dreams. Into what? Define your outcome and visions with specifics. Make more money. Your subconscious mind says, ‘Too vague, too vague.’ So you get to get specific. I’ve been mind mapping a certain amount for a year and a half now. I’ve yet to reach it. I’m moving closer to it than I was before. Mind mapping actually comes from Tony Bezanne who wrote the book on mind mapping. Bob Stevens who I learned mind mapping from would say that mind maps he did 30 years ago, he’s getting results from now. Plant the seed. Have no attachment to when it’s going to sprout.
Manifest my goals. Define outcome by when and how.
Heal my relationship. Into what? Define outcome and vision for the relationship.
How many of you have a higher purpose for your relationships? Great. When you write out a higher reason why you’re together, it creates a reference point for you to be able to really link from.
Heal my past. Into what? State outcome. By when.
Have the body I dream of. What weight? What size? By when and how.
Our subconscious mind is programmed through our language, thought and emotion. Repetition is the key to how our thoughts become manifest. If we are habitually thinking and speaking in vague terms, deleting the specifics, we will habitually stay in process. The reverse is true. When we habitually focus on our outcomes with specificity we become masters of our destiny.
In the language of distortion we’ve reduced vagueness by omitting personal and specific information. By using distortion we speak non-personally, unrealistically, to avoid feelings. Emotions are the key ingredient to having our word manifest. Remember, our subconscious mind takes our language literally. Examples of distortion: everyone and no one – who specifically. Does what you are saying include or exclude all people on the planet who ever lived throughout time? Everything and nothing. What specifically? Does what you are saying include or exclude all things that ever existed physically and non-physically throughout time? Always and never. When specifically. Does what you are saying include or exclude all time from the beginning of time into infinity. Everywhere and nowhere. Where specifically? Does what you are saying something that remains a constant forever? Absolutely and perfectly. Stops the possibility of having more. Our subconscious mind requires specifics to produce emotions. Emotions are required to imprint the subconscious mind. Specifics in language produce emotion.
Examples of vagueness – everyone really loves me. The upgrade is on the following; they never did the best they could. My mother, my father did the best they could. I always feel this way in a relationship. When I become intimate I feel vulnerable. Everything is a mess. My work station requires organization. I can’t find a job anywhere. I’ll continue to interview for my ideal career.
Now, imagine if you walked around saying in your mind, ‘I can’t find a job anywhere.’ What are you going to manifest? Have you ever seen a person who has been rejected over and over again for jobs and they walk in with their shoulders slumped and their head down. Some of you have your own business and you hire and you know. When a person walks in you know when they are present. I absolutely believe in you. I continue to believe in you. I swam perfectly. I continue to improve my stroke.
Speaking with specifics produces emotions. Language spoken with emotion imprints our subconscious mind so our spoken word has the power to manifest. When we use excessive generalizations in our language we disconnect from the people, places and things in our lives. Excessive use of generalizations is one of the primary ways we stay disconnected from our feelings. In the context of relationships, which occupy a great deal of our everyday lives, we tend to generalize excessively. When we reference our relationships through vague language, some of which are pronouns, we stay disconnected and numb. Our subconscious mind requires emotions in order to manifest our outcomes.
Generalizations they and them – Who specifically? He, Him and Her – who specifically. It – what specifically. The – what specifically and who specifically. That and those – what specifically.
Examples of things through the language of generalization: They’ve always been like that. In the past my mother and father have been abrupt. It will get the results I desire. My nutritional program will achieve the results I desire. I have respect for them. I have respect for my mother and my father. Some day I will forgive him. I forgive Jason. I absolutely believe in you. I continue to believe in you. Some day I will really use it. I am changing my language.
Language of negation. Our subconscious mind takes our language literally and personally. When we use a language of negation we are speaking to what is not rather than to what is. I will explain. Whenever you begin a sentence with, I’m not, or it’s not or a negation like that, there is a huge red flag moving into your story. As soon as you begin to start speaking a negation you’re going into your story. So use that as a red flag for yourself. When I start speaking in negations I’m going to start talking about my story. I’m going to take this god-given power of mine, which is my ability to create my reality as I think it, feel it and language it and I’m going to take this preciousness that I have and I’m going to speak about the story. And then I’m going to make more up about the story. And I’m going to live more out of my story. And you know what. You’re going to get the evidence that your story is true. And that’s what happens. Over and over again. Until we wake up to the very system that we’ve been using, that we’ve already mastered, you’ve already done it. You’re doing it right now. Everything I’m speaking about you already know. The only difference is your mind has been focused on the story. And your language, which represents your thinking, which is a symbol of your thinking, has languaged it and continues to language it as if the story were still true.
I was on the radio Wednesday morning on KFNB and got lots of phone calls to the office and this woman called. She was very, very sick. Bedridden with MS and in excruciating pain. I called her and I said, ‘I notice you called the office and you were inquiring about tapes.’ I sent her out the Life Purpose tape and the Master Your Destiny as a gift so she could just listen to those. Before we hung up she spent at least 20 minutes on her story, telling me why she could not get well because if she got well it means her husband would win because he walked out on her and they’re in this horrible divorce. She said, ‘I don’t get enough to eat.’ I said, ‘Here’s the phone number for Meals for Wheels. Here’s the phone number for Mama’s Kitchen. They’ll provide free food if you’re bedridden.’ And she said, ‘Oh, I can’t do that. Because if the lawyers find out, they’ll think that I’m more able and then I won’t get the settlement that I desire.’ I’m getting those tapes to her! And my highest choice is that she really understands how she is keeping her disease in place by the secondary gain of it all.
Please join me tomorrow for a continuation of this.
Love & Light