Spiritual NLP Blog | Neuro-Linguistic Programming | Change Your Life | Gary de Rodriguez, Dallas, TX

My purpose for writing this blog was not to write another blog on how to make things happen but a guide to bring us into the age of causation.  A time when we as individuals embrace the concept we are accountable for our life and creators of our destiny.

 

 

 

To share experiences and very simple processes to create and sustain our focus on the above thoughts so we create more heaven than hell and create a positive influence on the world around us.

This information concerns the power of our language, how our emotions and our imagination affects what and how we experience our life.  This book is meant to shake up the paradigm which we have been living from, and it will show you a completely different way to approach your life. 

 

Through the years of my career I have worked with thousands of individuals around the world as a Corporate consultant, trainer and coach.  I have utilized the tools of Humanistic Neuro-Linguistic Psychology to create change at the deep structure of my clients personality rather than coach for accountability of my clients. The methods presented makes it possible to combine standard coaching models and the endless array of techniques inherent in HNLP so individuals can achieve the fulfillment in their lives, organizations and families they seek and deserve. 

 

Humanistic Neuro Linguistic Psychology is literally the owners manual fro your mind.  Humanism is a belief that each person is infinite possibility and potential.  Neuro refers to the science of how our nervous system receives millions of bits of data input from the external world and deletes, distorts and generalizes that data into our awareness consciously.

Linguistics stands for the language we utilize to symbolize our thinking patterns and experiences and how our language shapes our reality.

Psychology refers to how the data is received and meaning given to it, language wrapped around our experiences and the patterns of behaviors that develop over time that become our unconscious strategies for our lives and relationships.

   

As I progressed in my career and experience, I begin to hold the principle that in order for an individual to function optimally whether they are a parent, spouse, CEO or family member we all require leadership skills.  We all belong to some form of an organization and generally we all will belong to a large array of different organizational structures requiring us to participate in different roles in our family systems to our business systems.

 

Seventy-five members of the Stanford University School of Business Advisory Council unanimously agreed that the most essential ingredient for the development of true leadership was “SELF AWARENESS.”

Self Awareness requires self exploration whether we are a member of a fortune 500 company, building the culture of the organization or a new mom who desires only the best influence for her child.  The greater self awareness the greater of a leader is born out of the quest to understand oneself.

 

To begin, we require to understand where we are and what is possible for each and every one of us.  We require to have a working knowledge of HOW we became who we are, our unique personalities with our individual beliefs, sets of values, perceptions and attitudes.

When we can understand how something works we can fix it, modify it and improve it.

It is almost like programming a VCR or tuning up a car.  If you have an owners manual, or an instruction manual you can make adjustments that will bring you the desired results.

Without an owners manual we generally remain a little lost in how to modify our task at hand to get what we desire. 

 

The primary knowledge that every person on the planet requires to have is the fundamental understanding of HOW to operate their perception of reality to create more heaven than hell with maximum fulfillment. 

 

The questions we require to ask ourselves are HOW are We Doing it? How can we do It differently?  How can I fulfill my destiny and purpose and obtain fulfillment? The understanding of these simply questions is the purpose of this book.

 

We have resting underneath our craniums the most powerful computer on the planet capable of operating millions of functions simultaneously.  We utilize approximately 10% of our potential consciously with the other 90% latent at the subconscious.

If 90 % of who we are rests at the subconscious level it only makes sense that if we are to effect change within ourselves, our organizations and families we would require to know how to effect that change at the subconscious level within ourselves first. 

 

Now the subconscious mind is a very interesting part of every one of us and is likened to an infinitely powerful reality generator which is operating all the time.

To potentialize our success and our fulfillment do you think that it would be useful to learn more about your subconscious mind?

As you continue to delve into the content of the following chapters you will discover many sections filled with the operating instructions to harness this power within you.

 

As I worked with individuals and organizations throughout the world there is a reoccurring theme which lays at the foundation of why they have sought consulting or coaching.  A underlining river of issues that stops people from creating fulfilling and functional relationships, establishing rewarding careers, and most importantly growing in compassion and regard for themselves.

 

This river of unresolved impressions that halts possibility is the culmination of what each one of us has experienced, what we made up about those experiences and how we continue to out-picture our beliefs and perspectives and project them onto our partners at home and in the office.

 

Our childhood experiences: the triumphs and tragedies of all we experienced while growing up are the foundational blueprint of what we have built our personality upon and what at a subconscious level guides our emotional landscape and governs our behaviors. 

 

We were born into a specific genealogical line, the combination of both our fathers and mothers issues colliding into one household and creating a environment which would help form the you that you became.  The ecology in which we found ourselves as children was made from the complex emotional environment handed down through the generations and culminated in the personalities of our mothers and fathers which they carried from their childhood. 

This combination became the laboratory where we constructed our model of our world.   Some of what we made up and modeled from our parents will be the best of who we are and some of what we modeled will cut at the very root of our life fulfillment and our ability to have emotional freedom from over-responding emotional states and inflexible perceptions. 

 

Every person I have worked with for the last twenty five years, from top level executives in billion dollar corporations to students in massage school, have at the root of their life issue these sacred wounds from their mother and father as the underlining reason their life becomes out of balance, relationships become unmanageable and self worthies unstable or plummets altogether. 

 

Life consistently desires to express itself and evolve itself.  What we have un-healed and out of balance within ourselves manifests in the dynamics of our professional and personal relationships.  As we believe so it is and how we think and what we dwell upon we increase within our current experience.  In our perceptions our teams at work strangely remind us of our family dynamics, or our life partners become strangely similar to either our Father or Mother or both at a subconscious level.  All we know is that we feel the old fear again, shame again or anger again.  We can only experience our current reality through the filters of our past culminate experiences, so if our past has unresolved emotions linked to it, if our past relationships remain unresolved and painful, we will carry more of a reactive perspective to how we deal with the dynamics of our families or the relationships in our professional organizations in which we belong. 

 

Many people as a consequence to the never ending feelings that seem unmanageable enter into hopelessness and depression or strategize their lives positioning for power to secure a false sense of personal safety.  As this occurs individuals ultimately do not achieve the fulfillment for which they seek or resolve the internal dynamics of their emotions.  Our current personal and professional relationships reflect our experiences in our family systems often times resulting in feeling frozen by reoccurring emotional states where little control is experienced.  We can only see our current reality through the filters of our past collective experience.  More about that later.     

 

Many of us have achieved a certain level of success without delving into this latent storehouse of potential within each and every one of us. What would our lives be like if we could harness this latent power house within us to transform our relationship with ourselves and our personal and professional relationships as well.  How would our lives change? How much more could we create and how much more fulfillment could we achieve through our life’s journey.

What positive effect would our own personal change have upon our families, upon our children who are subconsciously modeling your behaviors or the teams at work that you effect on a daily basis.

We are living in the emotional pool of what has been left unaddressed at a subconscious level from our childhood on, which distorts our perspectives, creates emotional states that can be difficult to manage and attracts experiences to us that evoke our deepest wounds.

 

Many individuals enter their adult relationships seeking relief from their internal lack of love only to be re-wounded by how they perceive the circumstances and events of their lives.  This re-wounding occurs throughout organizations were people spend eight to ten hours, five to six days a week locked into their subconscious filters of how they see their world with a host of other people who believe their set of experiences are the true measure of reality as well, all coming together to accomplish the work load.

 

Over and over again as I have enter departments of different organizations I have experienced highly qualified people in their fields faltering under the pressure of  not being able to resolve the personality conflicts, and suffer under the  inflexible perceptions of the people they require to work with.

 

A Family or organization can only be as effective as the individuals that comprise it.  Individuals first and foremost must learn the fundamentals of how to operate their own mind, emotions, past references and grow in our maturity to master the complex issues that face our family diversity and organizational diversity.

 

Diversity here is not limited to racial, gender or sexual but to perceptional as well.  There requires to be birthed a new respect for the diversity of different individual experiences and perspectives so we can objectively see the world through another’s eyes.  This ability helps us gain understanding and compassion while developing ourselves into the most flexible person within the systems we find ourselves.  When we practice perceptual flexibility we become the one who can see options, therefore effect change in the frozen opinions between people. 

 

My own life has been filled with this dynamic personally walking through the mine fields of what people will make up from what you communicated or did.  As I continued to sit in observation of this principle being played out with my clients, knowing that their perceptions are birthed from their past, I consistently asked myself:  can people have choice over what has happened to them and can they really change how they hold the past in their minds now so their past becomes a ally for their future?

Can we as human beings change the circumstances that molded and hardened our characters so these events that have shaped each one of us can become a cheering section for our future?

Can we distill the wisdom and shift the distortion of how we interpreted these events, the constellation of beliefs that formed around these events and shift what we attract to us now in our current circumstances?

Can couples in a family or Directors in an organization free themselves enough from overwhelming emotional responses to see through another’s eyes and choose their responses to effect clarity and enrichment  in their relationships?

Can we learn to build our relationships rather than erect barricades and defenses or attack to preserve our positions?

Is change sustainable?

 

Events are empty unto themselves, the meaning we ascribe to them will either increase our inflexibility or increase our leadership power to perform the play.  Unless we practice perceptual flexibility our inflexible perspectives and the evidences that we are right, will tighten around us through time so that we eventually only see a small portion of the possibilities in the quantum field of possible outcomes available to us.

 

(more tomorrow)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gary De Rodriguez

 

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